Flashbacksech0es - Loving Him Was Red

Every night I watch the sunset and soak up every last ray of its warmth, and send it from my heart to yours.

"Of that, I have no doubt." The song drew to an end, and Edmund politely applauded the musicians with the other dancers and bowed to his future daughter-in-law.

"Thank you for the dance, my dear. I believe my son wants his fiancée back, though."

"Then I wish you the best of luck in that endeavor, I try to encourage him myself but maybe your encouragement is just what he needs." Edmund said with a smile.

Benedict had talent, just pride and little discipline.

"I look forward to seeing you succeed, my dear."

Jerry Iwu as Felix Livingstone & Max Brown as Sam Gillespie in SISTER BONIFACE MYSTERIES (2022 - Present) Season 3, Episode 8: A Beautiful World

So, I don't normally have my ooc posts here open to reblogs, but I'm gonna make an exception on this one because I think it's important. This is just a psa/head's up to everyone out there.

First and foremost, I'm not gonna name names. I do know of 2 aliases/muse names involved, but I'm not doing a callout so I'm gonna keep them private. I don't want people to be harassed or anything. I'm just making sure people are aware it's happening, while also giving a chance for those who have done this to stop; as I'm aware they may be new to rp and don't understand how things work fully yet. But on the other hand, I'm also aware that they might not have the newbie excuse to lean on. Regardless, I believe in allowing someone to correct their behavior first, and if it doesn't change, then that's another story.

That being said, it seems like lately there's people going around to others they haven't interacted with before, demanding that the people they're messaging make ocs for them. Not asking or suggesting. Demanding. I've been told that some are trying to dictate the fc and backstory of the muse they want made by the person they're approaching.

I've also been made aware of instances where people just don't respect backstories that are already in place. Like they demand that muses have no interest in their canon ships. Others are trying to have other parts of backstories erased.

The people that have told me about this did not ask for any of this. They didn't express any interest in doing affiliated ocs or ships. They didn't ask for, or offer to do, aus in which the canon ship isn't relevant. And they certainly didn't ask to have their muse dictated to them or changed without their consent. They've said no politely, and have either been approached again at a later time, or have been pestered about it.

Now, as someone who loves ships and affiliated ocs and is usually down to at least try them, this really bothers me. If an affiliated oc pairing is something you're interested in, you ASK. And it's more likely to be a tentative yes if you build a friendship with the other person first. Most people have rules against forced shipping. People are also busy and have things going on away from the computer screen that would make taking on more muses difficult or flat out impossible for them. Especially in the case of ocs, who take considerably more work to build and bring to life than a lot of canon muses; who can also be very hard to maintain or find the voice for. Pushing the matter will only ever get you a no, and a block. Respect others the way you want to be respected.

Be polite and approach others with compassion and understanding. And most importantly, if the answer is no, take the rejection. Don't continue to try and force what you want to happen. Just because you were told no doesn't necessarily mean that they don't want to write with you at all. It just means they're not interested in that specific thing. But if you're pulling demanding nonsense like this, they won't want to interact with you period.

Stay safe out there and treat people respectfully.