Day 2 - Confidence

Day 2 - Confidence

It's the ability to know what you have, what you don't, what you want and how to get there with the inability to accept anything less. --nmm

Everyone says this and I do believe it's true; confidence is the key to success. What's surprising though is many people, including myself, lack confidence. Confidence is not conceited. Being conceited is over exaggerating one's traits and accomplishments which should be regarded as adequate in their own right. Arrogance is looking in the mirror and ignoring your flaws while fooling oneself with the over emphasis of positive traits. Confidence is seeing the truth in both flaws and fine points and accepting them for what they  are in order to use them to the best of their ability.

Anyway, knowing your abilities and how you can use them to your advantage is important in achieving everything you want. But confidence is also action. It's easy to speak about what you want and one can fantasize about how these dreams can be attained but without action it's a simple daydream, a fantasy, a wish. Confidence allows one to go out into the cold, ruthless, insensitive world with all the self-assurance they need to fight back. Ones with confident have a mindset that says if I go through with this I have nothing to lose and everything to gain but if I let this opportunity pass I have everything to lose; my self respect, my chance at success and my happiness just to be comfortable.  To be unafraid of rejection and ignore the hatred while actually doing what needs to be done is confidence and that is something that I find a lot of people need to adopt. Lack of confidence leads to staying within the box, settling for less and staying comfortable rather than achieving more than expected and gaining happiness through action and the knowledge of who you truly are.  

The shy ones have something worth hiding. Either that, or they are deathly allergic to being seen by anyone, and sometimes even themselves in the mirror. Some people aren’t just cut out for spotlights and attention, even though many dread it and at the same time desire it. The shell we thrive in is just so tightened it doesn’t need to be broken, though some who are in it wish it was destroyed completely. And as confusing and contradicting as that was, being looked at is something sick in of itself. To be stared at, for whatever reason and to be analyzed, for whatever intentions. If you think about it, we are sparing ourselves manic thoughts and preparation by being shy. It’s not exactly what we all want, especially if you know someone who is terrifyingly shy, but it’s something we just do. For whatever reason, we don’t like to be watched by a couple of idiots who don’t know when to leave us alone, and when we need them most.

Sami Ayele (via quote-book)

Regret

When we take a good hard look at ourselves as pain seeps into our veins from a broken heart we seek a comfort that only time can bring. However at that very moment all we want is the ability to reach into the very core of our mind and press some proverbial backspace button. There is this inability to live on with the memory that we had made such a horrible mistake. As wave after wave of agony shatters our heart we can't help but think "this is somehow my fault. I gave in. How could I be so stupid?" It's humiliating and embarrassing that in retrospect we did not have the foresight to see that giving our everything to one person is not only a risk for ourselves but a huge responsibility for someone who may not be able to carry such a burden.  It's hard to admit we've made such a regrettable decision therefore we tend try and erase the memory but when something has shaken you to the very core it is impossible to forget. Therefore we live with the memory and allow ourselves to stop our world only to dwell on the ache and distress as those who truly care watch on and hope for our well being. Why is it that those who have hurt us in our past stay in our minds forever but those who love us in the present are easily forgotten? There is no magical solution which will allow us to forget which is in itself a good thing. We can take that pain, that regret and turn it into a lesson. The only way to forget the time we allowed someone to come in and break us down is to recognize those who continue to comfort us as they help us back on our feet.

Being somebody doesn't necessarily make you unique, but being genuine does because you're being yourself and there's no one else like you.

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Best friends

Him: We're pretty much best friends right?

Her: Mhmm.

Him: Would you consider comforting you when you get your heart broken my responsibility then?

Her: ...uh yeah. That's pretty obvious.

Him: Oh, well I guess I''m not really best friend material.

Her: Wha-

Him: I mean I won't even be there by your side to tell you he's not good enough for you and he never deserved you.

Her: You're an ass. Why?

Him: Well I'm actually gonna be by his side.

Her: -glare- ...what the fu-

Him: Well, technically he'll be on his side while I'm standing over him and kicking him in the stomach. I guess I'd never be a great best friend because if anyone ever broke your heart I'd GPS the mother fucker and break his neck, just sayin'.

I love that feeling of relief when I wake up from a nightmare and realize it was just a dream.