Igloopenguinz - Nutty As A Fruitcake;

the craziest thing about being alive is that you have to live with other people’s interpretations of you

Hey if you have memory issues - whether it's due to trauma, brain damage, being neuroatypical, or just generally having a brain that doesn't work like it should, I just want to let you know that it isn't inherently weird or creepy to write things down, or keep notes about people you care about.

To someone who just remembers things because they are important, needing to write things down is for things that aren't that important. The kind of people who tell you "you would remember it if it was important to you" actually do function that way. To them, the idea that you would have to write down what your partner likes or doesn't like, or keeping a list of your friends' triggers, seems unsettling and creepy because they don't need to do that, they'll just remember such things. From their perspective, such notes would only be useful for people who aren't important enough to memorise, and making people believe that they are important enough to be remembered when they aren't would be manipulative and predatory.

But a lot of people just don't function like that. If your memory is shot, it doesn't magically make exceptions on the Super Important Things just because you want it to. Remembering shit about someone just because I love them is just as far out of my reach as magically being able to sense their exact location purely through the power of love.

It's still best not to tell people that you have notes of them, that'll freak them out, but don't feel bad about needing to write shit down. It's better to keep a list of wich ones of your friends have asthma or are allergic to bell peppers on your phones' notepad than accidentally endanger someone because ~you're just supposed to remember~ that kind of things.

things to remember: things have made you happy and will make you happy again