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Максимальная продуктивность против нервоза перед докладом 14 апреля, краткий отчёт:

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Уроки с младшим братом

1.5 часа японского языка

Урок с ученицей (японский)

Презентация для доклада

Дополнительное чтение литературы для доклада

Доклад, конечно, будет провальным, но я хочу научиться принимать поражения с честью. Мне безумно страшно, но я хочу выстоять. 10 минут - это ни о чем. Я справлюсь. Расскажу доклад и уйду, забрав сертификат. Это не разрушит ничего. Всё будет в порядке. Должно быть в порядке.

UPD. Обновила стол!

Благодарю за лайфхак!

рекомендую вам отсортировать чаты в телеграме через функцию «папки». это правда поможет не сойти с ума от уведомлений и навести порядок в чатах.

я вынесла отдельно книжные каналы, чтение которых меня расслабляет и новости, чтобы не натыкаться на них без разбора, а заходить читать осознанно.

"defend your thesis" why are you attacking my thesis

Hello there! Hope you are well. I needed to ask you something. There is this exam i have and i haven't prepared well. I wasn't doing mentally well and had a really hard time studying. I have been a top student all my life and i think when i won't do well in this exam, i will disappoint everyone. I feel better now and would 100 percent work on my grade. Is it fine to face failure? How should I console myself? I get panic attacks about me being a loser.

Hello 👋🏻 I think we’re in similar boats right now, anon. I’m only three weeks into this semester so I’m not nearing exams yet, but I’m feeling overwhelmed too. I’m having a hard time with executive dysfunction, so it’s been tough staying on top of my homework. I know how it can effect your mental health and your perception of yourself.

You said you get panic attacks about being a loser, but it’s not “being a loser” you’re worried about. What you’re worried about is being perceived as a loser, because being a “loser” is subjective, and everyone’s definition of “loser” is dependent on the people who taught them what it means (aka, the people in their life). Your panic and worry stem from your fear of what others will think if you don’t perform as well as you have in the past. That’s an understandable fear, especially considering it seems that being a “top student” has become part of your identity. If you aren’t a top student, it’s like a part of yourself is missing, or defective. Am I right?

You ask, “is it fine to face failure?” which makes me think, you probably know it’s fine to fail, but your fear of disappointing others may be clouding that. I think the best way you can console yourself is to stop looking outward for validation and look inward instead. Your opinion is the one that matters.

You know that the reason you didn’t perform as well as you used to this time is because you weren’t feeling your best mentally. You know you’re capable of performing well. You know that failing is okay. I think you need to trust yourself, and be less dependent on others for your sense of self-worth. It sounds like you have a lot of strengths worth being proud of, and that’s just from reading this one message. You have many other strengths, I’m sure. Lean on those, and remember that your grades are not all of you. In fact, they’re a very small part of you. What’s part of you are the skills (like resilience, perseverance and courage) that give you the ability to get those grades.

Take good care of yourself so that you have the energy and motivation to do your best (and be okay with whatever your best looks like that day). And maybe you could even focus less on your grades, but that’s a personal preference, and maybe it works for you, in which case that’s fine. As long as you know your grades don’t define your worth. And if anyone in your life thinks less of you for not getting straight A’s and B’s, you might consider that they aren’t the best person to look to for feedback, let alone validation.

Hope that helps! Take care! 💙

~ Bella ✨

«Лучше обладать горячим сердцем, даже если это стоит нам лишних ошибок, чем быть ограниченным и чрезмерно осторожным»

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