Yes You Should Just Go Against The Poll If Its What Feels Right To You. The Majority Isnt Always Right

yes you should just go against the poll if its what feels right to you. The majority isnt always right and you have to write what YOU want and we can just be happy if you decide you want to share your art with us!

aww this is so sweet thank you! i didn't even realise what i would prefer writing when i made the poll, and i got such a good response for t4t moonwater that i started thinking of ideas about it and i just fell in love. as someone who is mostly t4t its something i want to explore. it's a really beautiful dynamic with the right person and i can see moonwater being a good example of that. plus, since regulus is richer, i can see him having surgery whilst remus is still saving up for it. binder rep NEEDS more attention, not everyone can afford surgery plus its scary, i feel like remus having a binder will not only mean something to me but a lot of other people too

plus,,,,the strap

Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.

It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.

Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.

Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.

Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)

Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!

You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!

If you want it in a simple phrase:

You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.

Quotes by Sylvia Plath, The Journals of Sylvia Plath

First look at Heartstopper season 3

Moony

moons in a mullet just hit different

Sirius on the surface like hmmmm I wonder what’s taking them so long 🤔