I Love You

i love you

i love you carers who aren’t physically strong enough to pick up your regressors

i love you disabled carers

i love you masc mamas and fem papas and androgynous both and all gnc carers you deserve more love

i love you carers who go by “mom” or “dad”

i love you carers who are way shorter than your regressors

i love you carers who use mobility aids

i love you carers who are also full-time parents of full-time children

i love you carers of color

i love you carers whose culture is so deeply embedded into your life that it influences your caretaking methods

i love you mentally ill carers

i love you carers who don’t always know what to do

i love you carers to regressors who regress to a tween/teen headspace

i love you carers who regress to take care of/entertain younger regressors

i love you touch averse carers

i love you carers who don’t always have the capacity to care for people

i love you carers with separation anxiety

i love you carers who burn out fast

i love you carers who are caretakers primarily for non-regression reasons

i love you carers who need to be cared for

i love you carers with chronic pain and/or fatigue

i love you carers who are new to this and don’t know how it works

i love you carers who have persistent problems for any reason

i love you all

Something I have noticed within the many social media areas of the community including but not limited to tumblr, discord, reddit, etc is that there seems to be a big obsession on dividing everyone.

-Talking down upon or hating what is seen as the stereotypical regressor (people that like pastels, pretty dresses, feminine etc)

-Talking down upon or hating more masculine regressors whether male, female, trans or otherwise. Because they don't fit into some stupid box.

-Tall, short, skinny, fat, black, Asian, European etc whatever it is some part of the community will say that isn't the 'true' way to regress.

I've seen posts of people complaining that there is an oversaturation of whatever group of regressors. I've seen people complaining about minors that regress, I've seen people complaining that adults regress. There's constant streams of drama going on.

There's just so much drama. And I feel bad. I feel bad for the pastel girly regressors that people are mad at because they're the known regressor 'aethestic'. As if those individuals are not allowed to post so that others don't feel bad for not looking or being like them. As if they are the route cause of every issue within the community. I personally feel like that's an unfair expectation on them to have to hide who they are just to appease random strangers.

That sentiment goes out to every different 'type' of regressor. No one should have to explain or hide away themselves just because someone else is mad that they portray their regression in a way that does not conform to what they want regression to look like.

It feels like people seem to forget that out of the many things that make us different there is one thing that unites us.

We regress for whatever reason. Whether it's trauma related, a way to relieve stress or simply for fun. Regression is something we all have in common.

Everyone is valid.

Whether you're a girl,boy, trans or other gender.

Whether you're white, black, Asian or any other nationality, or colour of skin.

Whether you like bugs, cars and dirt, or pretty dresses, bows, barbie and pastels. Or if you're like myself and prefer more darker, macabre things.

I could go on and on about differences, but I'd be here all day.

I would like to see everyone being able to be friendly and if that's not possible then civil to each other at least.

To uplift EVERYONE and ANYONE within the community.

Enjoy what makes everyone unique and the same.

I know this isn't going to fix everything and I understand that there will be people that think I'm chatting out my butt.

But for the people that agree, please share to show that you are here for every type of regressor and your blog is a safe place.

You're still doing okay as a regressor if you... 🐥 🧡

💫 · are usually upset or in a negative situation when you regress

🧃 · don't know what age you regress to

🥞 · act mainly as a caregiver but still regress

💫 · have done things you regret when regressed

🧃 · cannot control your regression

🥞 · are mainly a regressor but are also a caregiver

💫 · feel like a burden for being disabled and needing extra or specific care

🧃 · are worried to tell people about your regression

🥞 · can't really tell the difference between when you regress and when you don't

🧃 · are afraid of getting or don't want a caregiver due to trauma

💫 · do things considered "big" or "adult" when regressed

🥞 · are an alter who can't tell if you're a regressor or a syskid / ageslider

🧃 · deal with intrusive and un-childlike thoughts

you are always deserving of comfort, safety, and a happy regression 𓂃⊹

Agere Petname / Title ideas

For tinies:

baby (girl/boy), sweetheart, love, flower, petal, sunshine, moonbeam, angel, darling, prankster, princess / prince / princette, little royal, buddy, sapling, my dawn, sweet (girl/boy), padawan, sweetness, doll

For pets:

bun / bunny, kitty / kitten, pup / puppy, lamb, cub, kit, dove, baby bat, fawn, bambi, fledgling, birdie, mini moth, buggie, baby bug, hopper, little leap frog, teddy bear

Food inspired:

cupcake, berry, gumdrop, honey, cookie, sugar, sweetie pie, sushi roll tootsie, bean, sweet pea, peanut, tater tot, pumpkin

For fem carers:

mama, mami, nana, m(o/u)mmy, m(o/u)mma, ma, miss, auntie, tia, amma, granny, grammy, mimi, didi, big sis, sissy

For masc carers:

papa, dada, daddy, abba, pa, pop, sir, mister, uncle, tito, zio, grampy, big bro

For gender neutral carers:

baba, zaza, bubba, nonny, captain, care bear, bubbie / bubby, big sib

Non english

mi corazón - my heart in spanish

mio tesoro - my treasure in italian

bambino - baby in italian

mon cœur - my heart in french

fleur - flower in french

ange - angel in french

I keep accidentally making my characters autistic

I’ll just be writing a scene and suddenky I look back and find a full blown diagnosis, and it keeps happening.

At this point, I’ve just gone along with it, adding every symptom, comorbidity, trait, experience, and trauma related to autism to like the majority of the characters in my writing.

It’s a bit hilarious how obvious it is in hindsight, giving a character something akin to a meltdown and then masking and expecting the character to not come off as autistic.

Although, as an autistic writer who commonly projects my experiences onto my characters, I can’t really help it, it was sure to happen eventually.

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