Since We're Apparently Going In ... LET'S GO.

Since we're apparently going in ... LET'S GO.

@shouldiusemyname, yeah, the time jump was literally three words on the screen that covered the time it took Rak to transfer schools. As @nerdybunnydestiny pointed out, he's back to being a freshman again, so credits just don't transfer in their universe. Whatever.

Also, in the 6 months that have passed, Rak has become close to Dino's BFF Mhee: they have each other's phone number; Mhee picks Rak up on his first day at the new school when Dino is busy and Rak is perfectly fine with this; and Mhee gives Rak a job. However, over the same period of time, somehow Rak and Dino are still at step one. No, that's generous - more like step 0.5.

I like the mega show idea. If we go with that, the show still could have worked in an "It's so bad that it's entertaining kind of way." But they're not leaning in to the absurdity of a parody! The obsessed BFF and violent ex should have been less ... I want to say "realistic" but that doesn't seem right. Basically, they should have gone bigger with it (think Fatal Attraction).

Re: Rak's father, I'm pretty sure that's either a budget issue or they just didn't want to take the time to cast the role. All we get is a very oddly distorted voice (perhaps another cast member autotuned badly). Then, they want us to believe that this man is going to pick up his only child from a date with a 30-year-old and not even get out of the car. Okay, sure. (At least with LITA, Payu met the mom, charmed her, etc.)

Totally agree about Mhee - only solid, comprehensible character. And I had completely forgotten about the other "animal" stories mentioned in the original pilot trailer [inserting here].

I'm actually curious about a Mhee/Chalarm pairing - not enough to watch another show in this series though. Plus, I'll be surprised if they manage to produce the other three stories. Either way, I still have questions:

Is there source material for this show and can it explain all the plot holes?

This show was originally slated for 5 episodes. They then double the runtime but somehow the show makes less sense. How did that happen? How??

I don't expect an answer to any of our questions. @nerdybunnydestiny is right; the narrator is high AF and that's why Dino Love is a disconnected debacle.

Should I bang you right now?

Dino: Be a good boy for your dad and me. [some comments about stones] Dino: Should I bang you right now? Rak: Why not? Dino: I'll take you to Chiang Mai after this. Dino: Your only answer is yes. Rak: Hm. I'm going.

The context of that convo:

WHAT THE HELL AM I WATCHING?? Make it make sense, please.

Some thoughts about Kawi, Sexuality, and Sex

When it comes to Kawi, ep 10 of Be My Favorite is really about his relationship with sex. Some people see him as being ace (or ace coded) but I'm not 100% sure it's the issue here.

As I read it, Kawi is an observer and not a participant, and I will try to explain what I mean.

When the show starts, we are told that Kawi has no friends. His experience is that no one wants to be his friend because he is a sad loser. However, we soon find out that the reason he doesn't have any meaningful relationships is that he himself refuses to take part in them. People around him don't see him as a sad loser, but he does. The reason that he is successful being Pear's secret buddy in that game (can't remember what they called in the show), is that he spends his time on the outside looking in. He observes the people he wants to be around as a replacement for actually engaging with them in a relationship.

He knows he did good with the game because he knows Pear and he knows he made her happy with his gifts, but he doesn't get the payoff because he is late and at that point he has to watch someone else (Pisaeng) be that image of coolness that he can't achieve. All this while being physically outside of the room looking in, observing what his life could be like.

This causes him to further retreat, understand that that's his place in society. Even his choice of profession in the original timeline - a subtitler! The ultimate observer and the safest way to engage with life - he knows what's going on, but he doesn't have to take part in it.

OK, so how does this have anything to do with sex?

Well, here is what we know so far:

At the beginning of the story, Kawi is a 30 y.o virgin.

Every moment of intimacy he has with Pisaeng up to ep 9 happens while Kawi is drunk. I say ep 9 because I'm not talking about the kissing, I'm talking about intimacy in general. Like the only times he is able to let go of his barriers and allow himself to be real with Pisaeng are when he's drunk.

In the most recent version of the future-present that we get, Kawi is no longer a 30 y.o virgin. He has spent a considerable amount of time being in a relationship with Pear and sex doesn't seem to be an issue in that relationship.

In the current present-past, Kawi is terrified at the idea of having sex (or any kind of physical intimacy) with Pisaeng. He doesn't have a problem using the word love when he talks to pisaeng's mother however. And we know that he is pursuing a romantic relationship with Pisaeng.

What I see when I look at this is that drunk Kawi has no issues with intimacy. Drunk Kawi was the one in a relationship with Pear. Drunk Kawi has no problem initiating physical intimacy with Pisaeng. Drunk Kawi has no problem actively looking for intimacy with pisaeng.

However, sober Kawi does not engage. Sober Kawi keeps a safe distance at all times from everything. Sober Kawi doesn't enjoy physical touch in general. He does feel more comfortable with Pisaeng, but up to a certain point. He will not let sober pisaeng touch him, but he does allow drunk pisaeng to be more touchy. That's because he still has control of the situation when he is the sober one.

If I'm reading this correctly, Kawi is so afraid of intimacy that he becomes intimacy starved. He spends years actively avoiding and actively staying at his observer position, that when the time comes to actually participate, he is at war with his instincts. I think he wants to stay at "holding hands in bed" because it's safe. This way he gets to engage without actually taking part. Even the park date - it's enough to just be there. He doesn't need to take part and go on the rides. He is there to watch everyone else do what they're supposed to do at an amusement park. He is in his observer position. He is safe.

Another issue with people who are intimacy and touch starved, is that they become afraid that once they have it it's going to be too much for them to take and they won't be able to contain it. They are also afraid the other person is not going to be able to contain and provide what they need because it's too much. As a result, they take an additional step back just to be on the safe side, creating even more distance between them and the person they want to be intimate with.

I get why Max's advice feels off for many, but for me there are two points he makes that make sense in this:

he says to Kawi that holding hands is fine as long as both him and Pisaeng are fine with it. And I think that what he's trying to tell Kawi is that he is not alone anymore looking from the sidelines. He is inside, in this relationship, and he has no choice but to be an active participant.

He tells Kawi that having sex will help him know himself better. This is terrifying for Kawi and it shows in his face. One of the main things observers are proud of, is the fact that they are always prepared because they never go in blind. They take the time to observe the people that they want to engage with, they learn how they react and adjust themselves to the situation. If they don't know how to adjust, they keep away. Having sex means going into uncharted territory, losing control, and having someone else to experience that with you. Kawi has no way of observing that specific situation (of himself having sex with Pisaeng) beforehand to help him prepare and find a way to make it safe for himself to engage and take part. Meaning making sure he's not too much for Pisaeng and that he can be there for Pisaeng (much like he could be there for Pear during the secret buddy game). He HAS to go in blind and it's going to require a huge leap of faith on his side.

If you've gotten this far, I appreciate it and I hope this makes sense to you. Feel free to let me know what you think.

Also hey btw

The term “masterpiece” originally and traditionally meant a piece of work that an apprentice or other aspiring craftsman created to show off to his master or the town’s guild. So naturally, it was intended to be the best fucking thing that you could make, demonstrating just how fucking good you are at what you’re making - 100% to flex your skills. And if it was approved, the applicant was accepted as a member of the guild and could now call himself a master, and work in this craft in this city.

So the next time you’re looking at The One Great Thing you made and think “this is it, my masterpiece, I have peaked, it’s all downhill from here”, consider looking it the other way: Making your masterpiece means you’re only getting started.

Info cards about 3 main characters from upcoming thai bl series The Whisperer:

Kun - Fluke Pongsakorn

เป็นคนรักมากและเกลียดจนฆ่าได้ A person who loved strongly and hated enough to kill

เป็นคนขาดความรักต้องการความรักสูง A person who lacks love and desperately needs love.

"หยุดพูดสักทีไม่อยากได้ยินหยุดพูด" "Stop talking. I don't want to hear it. Stop talking."

เป็นคนติดแฟน a clingy lover

Taw - Tor Komkrit

คูณฟังตาวนะ สิ่งที่เห็นมันอาจจะไม่ใช่เรื่องจริงก็ได้ Kun, listen to me. What you see may not be true.

อบอุ่น ปากหวาน ช่างเอาใจ warm, sweet-mouthed, likes to please(and is good at it.)

ฝีมือทำกะเพราไก่ถือว่าเด็ด His fried chicken basil is outstanding.

ใครอยู่ใกล้ก็หลงเสน่ห์ได้ง่ายๆ Anyone who is near him can easily be charmed.

Wit - Time Obnithi

ยังไม่อิ่มอีกเหรอ...กินมูมมามนะเรา Still not full yet? Quite a messy eater, ain't you?

เป็นคนชอบความท้าทาย A person who like a challenge

เป็นคนเจ้าเล่ห์ ชอบวางแผน A cunning person who likes to plan

ทำได้ทุกอย่างเพื่อให้ได้ในสิ่งที่ต้องการ Can do anything to get what he want

All translation credit goes to @recentadultburnout thank you again for your help!

26.07.23

La Pluie episode 12

I love hand holding in general but in bl series they just hit my soft spot even if Lomfon's speech was a little too dramatic for my taste it was cute. Even if I prefer interlocked fingers more I love this hand holding scene a lot especially because we know that Tien realized his feelings because of the simple hand hold.

As Tien's biased person I had to add Tien smiling at Lomfon's silly speech about holding hands forever

Also can we talk about the grip that Lomfon has on Tien's hand? Because to me it looks like Lomfon is holding Tien's hand hard like he never wants to let go of it

BOKURA NO SHOKUTAKU [EP 10 vs Mita Ori IG post]

Have you ever wondered how did the sleepover go?

That's my character propaganda for the @bl-bracket siblings poll finale. As I am stuck on the road I had to dig something out of the depths of my drafts. But here we go! I will take it very personally if they get defeated. LOOK AT THEM. Look how comfortable Tabe-kun feels with Minoru. Enough to be a tiny nuisance and squeeze himself between his favourite people. I CANNOT WITH THEM.