Jisung: Jaemin-hyung Seems To Like Me A Lot These Days (for @nctwinwin)

jisung: jaemin-hyung seems to like me a lot these days (for @nctwinwin​♡)

7 Signs You May Be a People Pleaser

Reaching out and practicing the art of selflessness is a great way to self-actualize. In fact, going beyond the ego and self-absorbed tendencies can be a fulfilling and freeing experience that can change your life forever. When you have a strong desire to spread kindness and make others happy, you learn to expand your consciousness. In other words, you become a better person when you create positive changes. But, kindness is often confused with pleasing others. There’s a difference between being kind and being too kind on a regular basis.

On one hand, you can be kind out of the goodness of your heart. But, if you choose to be nice because you’re reluctant to turn down someone’s request for a favor out of fear of being “selfish” or “mean,” then your kindness comes from a place of deep-seated insecurity, rather than a way of self-actualizing. According to family and marriage therapist Darlene Lancer, people pleasing habits are often formed during childhood. If you feel like you always had to accommodate to others, it may have stemmed from your parents’ high expectations, criticisms, and rigid rules. This also applies if you grew up with parents who withheld love from you and practiced unfair and unpredictable ways of disciplining you.

Habits, such as people-pleasing, formed from a difficult past are not your fault, because they were a way of self-protection. But, we hope to shed light on what to recognize, so that we can help you break out of patterns and routines that hold you back. Psych2Go shares with you 7 signs you may be a people pleaser:

1. You’re eager to agree with others, even if that means pretending.

Listening openly to others’ opinions even when you don’t always agree with them is a great communication skill to have. But, if you also find yourself quick to agree with others when you’re actually pretending, then you may be caught in the act of people-pleasing. You can be doing it out of fear of disapproval or a desire to fit in…

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they were unkind to you. don’t let that make you unkind. 

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namjoon has a coddling way of showing his love to the members, it’s through praise and fond looks, it’s through sweet laughter when they’re being cute, it’s through offering support and tailoring his way of helping for each member. it’s through how he takes on a lot of work, so as not to pressure the others. it’s through his capacity to hold more than one heart in his body.

seokjin is more gentle yet louder, he shows his love through soft smiles after hearing them bicker, only to join in a few moments later. it’s through his shameless personality and making them laugh with it, it’s through waking up at dead hours to cook for them. it’s through fitting himself to each and every member, and yet acting as a cohesive bond for them all.

for yoongi, there is love in the silence. it’s the little things, when he passes over a water bottle without looking, when he praises a member without needing to be prompted, gentle and reassuring. when he goes on and on about how they’ve grown behind their backs, but never really says it to their faces. when he’s watching them have fun and be stupid together, when he finally joins in and let’s them see his goofy side. when he says they’re not friends, they’re family.

and then there’s hoseok, unabashed and unapologetic about how he loves his members. he shares kisses and hugs and massages and serenades them and holds them all so, so tight. it’s in the way he looks at them with stars in his eyes when they make him proud or happy. it’s in the way he thinks of them as “us” rather than “me and them”.

jimin comes in next, and there’s so much love for him to give. jimin shows love through his closeness, jimin’s love is through knowing the other members better than they know themselves. through remembering that “wait taehyungie can’t eat that because of this”. through looking at the other and knowing exactly what they need, through affection and clinginess and a belief that they’re never going to be apart.

taehyung is a love opportunist, taking every chance he gets to pour his soul into everything and let them know how he feels. it’s in the way he’ll write meaningful letters to them all, never putting one member over the other. it’s in the way he’ll plan trips for all of them, it’s in the way they’ll be watching a movie together and doing absolutely nothing, and yet he’ll look around and find tears in his eyes. it’s in the way he’ll listen to them, with an open heart and open arms.

jungkook comes last, the baby of the group. jungkook’s show of love is hard to pinpoint, but it’s in the way he turns his members into art, into songs and video and pictures. it’s in the way he’ll say why he admires them in front of thousands, but will be too embarrassed to say it at home. it’s in the way it’s home and not dorm. it’s in the way he knows he’ll get away with everything and get through anything, as long as he has his members.

they’re an odd little group, but they love in a lot of the same ways. they let eachother see sides of them usually closed off, they cry with eachother, they laugh with eachother. they find comfort in eachother when no one else can give it to them. and they go to sleep knowing bangtan is one body, one heart, forever.

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