Going To The Store And Only Buying Some Deodorant Is So Mortifying. Like Ok I'm Just Stinky Or Whatever.....

going to the store and only buying some deodorant is so mortifying. like ok I'm just stinky or whatever.....

life hack if you want you can read "gm" (good morning) as "game master" and that way when people greet you through text abbreviation in the morning you can read "gm!" and go. hehe...... they are excited to greet me, the game master........ they call out my title with joy in their fingertips....

last thanksgiving I ended up eating in a little room with a few of the cousins around my age. only 4 of us. really nice, actually. very peaceful compared to the rest of the house (full of children).

I can't remember how it came up. something about people getting offended by the wrong things, I'm not sure. one of my cousins said something like "sometimes people get mad at me when I'm talking about my black friend because I'll refer to them as 'my black friend,' but it's just like. they're black, my only black friend, and that's a description people will recognize so they know who I'm talking about." like I said, I don't really know what exactly we were talking about, but she definitely took it the wrong way. I know that much.

so yeah. all the rest of us were very uncomfortable with that, but none of us really knew what to say, so we kind of just sat there unenthusiastically and maybe made a noncommittal noise or two. picked at our mashed potatoes. (I would've pretended to suddenly be much more interested in my food, but I kind of lost my appetite a little.)

the thing is that it's not necessarily wrong to do that sort of thing- call your friend by a characteristic they have when you're talking to people who don't know them. my friend with the purple hair. my friend who ate a whole family sized bag of skittles in one night. my really tall friend. my accountant friend.

but the thing is that the people who you're talking to know about this person based on what you've said. why is them being black the important thing? how did that come up in conversation to be memorable?

maybe they've seen pictures, maybe of you and all your friends. but why is that still the first thing you think to describe them?

it's not bad because you describe them that way, I think, it's bad because you've left that as their defining characteristic.

‘they’re technically only a minor character’ to YOU. i think about them daily, when they’re not in a scene im wondering where are they

I'm enjoying reading the dilbert principle partly bc it's surprisingly both funny and kind of relevant for a book written by a middle-aged white man in the '90s and partly bc I get to go hehe. I'm reading a book about business management. for FUN, no less. hahahahaha (it's comedy/satire and it's written by a cartoonist who was never in business management)