No. 1 Advice I Have For You Today: Please Dont Isolate Yourself.

🔑No. 1 advice I have for you today: please don’t isolate yourself.

It’s okay to mind your own business and stay in your own lane. But make sure to keep yourself informed about events happening around you. Always have allies. Isolation is dangerous. Running away isn’t your advantage. Not having a clique or someone you can rely on around you at your workplace, school or university is bad. Humans are social animals. We need to socialize and talk with others. Stay on your ground and have standards, but make sure to be polite to your colleagues and everyone else. Make yourself seem desirable and visible. There’s a difference between being independent and alone. Nobody likes a loner. You can have your time off at any time of the day you’re free, but maintain relationships with others. If you don’t have any allies/friends, make sure to find and make them. I see too many posts about self-care and while it’s 100% essential for success, it is also important to keep yourself informed, seen, and noticed. And while your skills are super important, if you’re not coming from a high-class background, you got to network. You got to make yourself stand out and you can do it much more easily if somebody who’s above you notices you. If you’re recommended. Don’t get in fights with others, especially if they’re colleagues. I’m speaking from personal experience. Be kind. Work on yourself. And level up.

Pieces of Advice for Living

Happiness is where you are now, or nowhere at all

Renounce useless guilt

Fall in love with inner beauty

Create your own space

Be brave enough to be bad at something new

When things change inside you, things change arround you

Spend time with people who matter most

Asking for help does not make you weak

Change is uncomfortable but necessary

Read more classic literature

Read about history from different sources 

Buy less clothes and make sure they are made organically and ethically or buy second hand

Learn to say No

Deflecting someone who compliments you isn’t modest it’s insulting

Your boundaries will scare some people away, it’s fine! let them go

Compliment yourself

Your mental and physical health are always your priority

Take a bath and notice how great your body is

Be mindful of the things you put into your body emotionally, spiritually and physically

Your diet is not only what you eat, it’s what you watch, what you listen to, what you read and with who you spend your time with

Don’t let the internet rush you

Start believing that nothing is too good for you  

Get enough sleep

Buy vegan options in anything that’s possible

Keep it private until you know it’s permanent

Enjoy experience more than materials 

Stay in your healing

Your scars are symbols of your strength 

Random socializing tip: Tell people when they’ve had a positive impact on your life!

e.g.: “Hey, remember when I asked you for advice on X? That was really helpful, I tried it and now (insert what has improved)”

“You kept gushing about (insert series/book/movie/recipe) and made it sound really appealing, so I checked it out and I really liked it!”

“Thank you for letting me vent recently, telling you what bothered me really helped me to work through it / helped me see it from another perspective / gave me the courage to address it with the person I was talking about.”

It helps people see their own strong points, it deepens your relationships, it makes the people in your life feel appreciated and special and it can give you warm fuzzy feelings!

Win/win all around!

In an effort to help studyblrs connect with each other, I’m creating a directory like the one @emmastudies has but about professional experiences (internships, areas of study, jobs, volunteer positions, etc) – so similar to LinkedIn but a lot more casual & less intimidating.

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Doses of Glamour ⚜️

Social Calendar: New York City

January

Winter Jazzfest

New York Boat Show

New York Jewish Film Festival

New York City Ballet Repertory Season

February

New York Fashion week Fall-Winter

amfAR Gala New York

Westminster Kennel Club Dog Show

March

Outsider art fair

Scope Art Show

Volta

School of American Ballet winter ball

Playground Partners Winter Luncheon

American Red Cross Gala

April

Bloomberg Wealth Summit

The Winter Show

Jazz at Lincoln Center Gala

Tribeca Film Festival

47th Chaplin Award Gala

Save Venice Masquerade Ball

New York International Auto show

May

Frieze New York

TEFAF New York Spring

NYCxDESIGN Festival

New York City Ballet Spring Gala

Frederick Law Olmsted Awards Luncheon

Spring Symposium & Luncheon

Met Gala

Hot Pink Party

High Line Spring Benefit

June

MoMA Party in the Garden

American Ballet Theatre Fall Gala

Belmont Stakes

Leveraged Finance Fights Melanoma

The Conservatory Ball

Museum Mile Festival

July

Vail International Dance Festival

Glimmerglass Festival

Jon Harari’s Annual Summer Party

August

Angel Ball

Jon Harari’s Annual Yacht Party

Guild Hall Summer Gala

US Open Tennis

September

US Open Tennis

The Armory Show

New York Fashion Week Spring-Summer

High Line Art Dinner

New York Film Festival

October

New York City Wine & Food Festival

The Robin Hood Foundation Annual Benefit

Great Sports Legends Dinner

Frick Collection Autumn Dinner (membership required)

November

The Art Show

PCF New York Dinner

Guggenheim International Gala

Search and Care Yorkville Ball

December

New York Philharmonic annual December Gala

Jon Harari’s Annual Holiday Party

Networking tips for attending an Ivy League for the first year ?

I didn’t attend a top Ivy League university (congratulations by the way, this is a great acheivement!), But I did attend a top Canadian university which was hard to get into.

My personal tips from my experience are to NOT hesitate to go to people, and focus on making FRIENDSHIPS. If you come at people only wanting to network, they’ll gonna feel “used”, and not appreciate it so much. Focus on learning more about them as people, what they like to do, socialize, have some goddamn fun instead of being stuck up.

Once you know them as friends, they’re so much more valuable as network points compared to acquaintances.

You’ve probably seen that advice elsewhere, but GO TO CLUBS. The people that go there esp at the beginning of a uni year will be more open-minded for socialization and friendships. Apply everywhere. Look around for tennis buddies, join the running club, there’s surely a movie club where you can chill with other folks.

Don’t always couple up with your good mates for teamwork, try new folks too, and as you do the teamwork, (reasonably) ask them questions outside of school. Be careful with this w/men as they might perceive this as flirting or expressing romantic interest.

Go to well known parties (where a lot of your friends will be going, always bring a safety female friend with you), to be a known face. Later it makes it easier to connect with unknown folks (“Hey we did see each other at Anna’s party! I wanted to meet you since you looked like a really nice gal!”).

Never ever ask for a “mentor” blatantly. Just ask the better ppl questions, and favors, and THANK THEM! The mentorship relation is naturally formed, not formally formed. Go to your teachers for asking (researched) questions about stuff you don’t quite get, and be really pleasant, asking them how they’re doing, etc. They’re gonna become more favorable towards you. That’s how I did get a good teacher mentor to help me through my studies and beyond. They’re humans too and appreciate being seen as such, not academic performance machines.