It Was All There Before S4 !

It was all there before S4 !

you’ve gotta pick a focus point. something concrete to focus on. // one could overthrow an empire. one could fall in love.

NUMBER FIVE & LILA - CONTRASTS /// PARALLELS

for the wonderful @enidsinclaiir ♡♡♡♡♡

I wish TUA fandom would be a nice and open minded one…

Hypocrisy of TUA part 1

I'm truly FEED up with this BULLSHIT, everyone going after Five & Lila and hating on them for NO real reason, yes I SAID it NO real valid reason.

Five & Lila did NOT have an affair, Lila was SEPARATED from Diego VERBALLY BEFORE she got lost for 7 freaking YEARS.

they thought that timeline was GONE for good, to them the world ended and they were the only ones left, they developed a stronger friendship over the years and FELL IN LOVE, they did NOT anything wrong.

accusing Lila of cheating after literally 6 YEARS of being SEPARATED from marriage wise and physically wise from her "husband" is RIDCLOIUS, because:

There are actual laws states that if a spouse goes missing for 5-6 years, then said spouse e is considered DEAD therefore the other spouse is considered a WIDOW.

so she's widow as far as she knows, so stating that a widowed woman is cheating on her husband is just simply wrong statement.

THE TRUE HYPOCRISY

is the FACT that when Sissy a white woman who is MARRIED (Sissy) and HAS A CHILD had a REAL AFFAIR with Vanya/Viktor at her HUSBAND'S HOUSE, in HIS OWN BED after just a MONTH & HALF and she was in FACT STILL MARRIED to said husband, she was NOT separated like Lila was from Diego (yes verbally COUNTS here considering the situation they were going through, a paper isn't more important than a woman's own agency)

YET everyone LOVED Sissy & Viktor/Vanya as a couple, showed nothing but SUPPORT, LOVE and ADMERATION for it despite the FACT it being 100% REAL AFFAIR.

so to all of sudden TUA has some kind of morality and has an issue with infidelity when it's about a widowed/separated woman, it's NOT at all about morality and everything to do with being anti WOC, because a white woman is allowed & supported to have an affair YET a WOC is SHAMED for having a relationship after 6 YEARS of SEPRATION.

BEFORE everyone comes at me that Carl was an "evil" or "bad" man, he had it coming, 1) he's the reason Vanya/Viktor was able to survive peacefully for a month & half in 60's, hate him all you want, call him all the names you want, but he gave her/him home, safety without payment. 2) if you hate Carl for being who he is and think he had it coming then it also should apply to Diego, because he's basically Carl 2.0 but it's WORSE with Diego because he's a modern man with old mindset.

Diego's actions, behavior and mindset are the actions, behavior and mindset of men in 1960's, he’s basically Carl Cooper (Sissy’s husband from S2) a lesser version but a version of him none the less.

1) Diego: put all the responsibility of the house, the children and the marriage on Lila’s shoulders all by herself. Carl: did the same with Sissy with their house, marriage and child, though he was more absent from his son because he couldn’t connect with him. (which btw is normal 60's wise, autism wasn't diagnosoied yet and he cared enough to try and help him when he was suffering Vanya/Viktor's pain, while Sissy literally did nothing)

2) Diego: is annoyed by the help Lila gets aka Lila’s family. Carl: was annoyed by Vanya/Viktor. they're the ones who are actually helping in raising the children since they're too busy drowning in self pity.

3) Diego: did NOT pay any attention/NOR care to Lila or how she EXHAUSTED looked 24/7, how OVERWHELMED she was until she picked the "wrong" pinata , then instead of talking to her, he followed her around. Carl: did not see nor care how exhausted Sissy was with Harlan, and only noticed her when she acted little differently and he too followed her around instead of talking to her.

4) Diego and Carl worked jobs that they hated then deflecting on the wives and guilt tripping Lila and Sissy about providing them home and nice life when questioned if they want to actually participate more at home or marriage.

Carl to Sissy : " depends on how hard they make me work to provide you with this wonderful life"

Diego to Lila : " I mean that's good to know that the life we built is so bad". "someone's gotta show up for this marriage because it sure as hell ain't you"

this the kind of physiological maneuver both men use on their wives when asked simple question such as "what time you will be back from work?" (Sissy asking Carl)

or Lila being honest with Diego about how she feels, and honest about her needs.

a maneuver in which it absolves them of any shortcomings from them, and blaming the women for their own shortcomings.

Lila & Sissy

1)Lila: knew and felt the need to hide her job/investigation a secret from Diego because she KNEW he wouldn’t approve , he would have a problem with it, which he had an issue with it, to him it was worse than cheating. Sissy: hid the cigarettes from Carl, kept her dream of working in a shop hidden from him because she knew he wouldn’t approve, that he would've an issue with it.

2)Lila and Sissy were NOT physically comfortable to be touched by their husband/ex-husband who all of sudden decided to actually show some affection after months/years of not showing any and both husbands were TOO busy fulfilling their own needs they did NOT notice, how uncomfortable and unwanted the physical advances were.

3)Lila and Sissy have felt TRAPPED in the marriage, not necessarily missing out on their dreams/adventures that they're not living/missing out on (even though it might seem as such on a surface level) however they are TRAPPED by the men in their lives.

Lila: "I'm just trapped in this unending suburban hellscape"

Sissy: " do you know what it's like being when you have a man who can't see you....your life gets small, a little smaller everyday, and you don't even notice the box that you're in...until comes along and let's you out"

both felt they were trapped in a small box where their whole world only revolved around children (they love) and men who can NOT SEE them. men who can NOT appreciated them at all.

Sissy fulfilled her needs by having an AFFAIR with Vanya/Viktor, she found everything she needs with her/him and she was supported by the fandom, celebrated even.

Now Lila on the other hand fulfilled her need to be seen as more than a mother/wife by WORKING, by INVESTIGATING, by working with Five to help save the world yet again, and she was SHAMED for it by Diego and by the whole fandom

her relationship with Five did NOT factor into Diego & Lila's marriage (unlike Carl & Sissy's marriage) that came much later after YEARS of her marriage had ALREADY FALLEN a part.

YET the WOC gets NOTHING but hatred from TUA even though in FACT, she did NOT cheat on her husband and had a relationship after YEARS her marriage was ended

the white woman gets CELEBRATED, SUPPORTED and loved for having a REAL AFFAIR.

it's 2024 and women are STILL BLAMED for men's shortcomings and accused of "crimes"/sins they haven't actually committed.

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Lila & five

Literally the ONLY good thing that came out of the disaster that was TUA S4, was Lila & Five’s relationship BEST RELATIONSHIP int the whole show.

Finally finished Umbrella Academy and was surprised to find out that the general impression is not a positive one, but then I remembered how much of this fandom is closer to Five's *apparent* age than his canonical age, and it made sense.

The whole show was about cycles and breaking cycles, sustainability in narrative and in general, and grasping what joy you can amid the inevitable impermanence of life.

I found the ending satisfying, especially for Five, who had maybe the closest thing to a complete and fulfilling life experience with long periods of personal autonomy, and even peace and companionship for seven years with Lila, in the kind of relationship he probably thought he'd never have (after spending forty years alone with a shop mannequin at the end of the world).

It makes perfect sense to me that he was the one to accept and to best understand what needed to be done. I felt some things could have used more time to breathe, but I think they would have pulled it off more smoothly if they'd had a full season. Abigail, the Thibodeaus, and Bennifer all needed some more time they just didn't have, and that's it, that's the show.

We all want more time that we just don't have.

Anyway, my ass is almost forty and I basically consider the show to be a modern, stylized memento mori, and I'm so here for that.