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so much about why dan loves phil and how phil changed him but what about how phil loves dan??

Okay. When I first read this ask I was like "I got nothing" lol. now obviously not because I think phil doesn't love dan, clearly I believe that he does. but you'll notice that everything I said in my dan loving gremlin phil post was based on things that dan has said. and when it comes to phil, that man is SILENT!! he keeps his mouth shut. so I was like I have nothing to extrapolate from here. but! then I realized that's not true!! bc I think phil is very obvious with his actions!

and honestly just the fact that phil lets us see how much he loves dan through his actions speaks volumes in and of itself. because phil has said so many times that he's a private person, wants to keep any relationship he has private, etc., and I think he's proved that he's serious about that based on the fact that he hasn't said jack shit about dan in the way that dan has said stuff about him.

and yet, phil SHOWS so much how he cares for dan!!! and he says things that allow us to read between the lines! like phil buying the japan tickets and surprising dan with them in 2015. we know that dan is not an impulsive person at all and likes everything to be meticulously planned out. phil knew dan was never gonna bite the bullet so phil was just like "well this is a thing that's happening now" (see also: 2009, phil telling dan to buy tickets to come visit him for the first time and 2023, phil making dan come back to the gaming channel because he knew it would be enjoyable for him again). he just knows dan so well and loves him sm that he doesn't let dan stand in the way of his own happiness. and even though phil is private he allows us see how much he cares for dan, he doesn't try to hide it at all

and then just things like. phil telling the bbc he wanted dan to do the radio show with him. phil calling dan up on stage at the boncas. phil just randomly mentioning dan on his channel(/having dan be there) while giving no context bc at this point he expects everyone to just Know who dan is. phil talking about how proud he is of dan and his book at the end of the hair cutting video bc he knew dan wouldn't let him get away with saying that shit in front of him but he just had to say it.

okay and in terms how dan has changed him/bettered him. I do not think phil was necessarily an unconfident person/struggled in the same way dan did but like obviously everyone is gonna have their own insecurities. but I really truly believe that dan just, lets phil be phil. I was rewatching some of the ditl videos the other day, and in the manchester ditl there's the iconic "phil's in his own little world again" with the fondest laugh ever. but then! london ditl, dan saying yes phil should go climb on the lion and then filming him running over to it (and then being annoyed at the guy who told phil to get off LMAO). japan ditl dan telling phil to go run over towards the bird. do you catch my drift? like phil's a lil quirky but dan doesn't love him in spite of it he loves him because of it!! he encourages phil's phil-isms bc he loves them! and then also just little things like when phil swallowed the glue and dan knew he was anxious so he talked with the paramedic and then texted phil everything that they said and that he was gonna be fine!! I think dan is probably a voice of reassurance for phil a lot. like they just both know each other so well and they know exactly what the other needs, yk?

sorry that I let this sit in my ask box for almost a week anon I just had a lot of thoughts to collect but yeah <3 that's all

How is this an actual thing dan has said like

not even gonna touch the second answer but the "two immortal people who have known each other for a thousand lifetimes" bit goes crazy

do y'all ever think about how dnp really are just Like That. like if phil hadn't taken that question about showing the last photo in his camera roll, he would have never told us the find me on the other side of london with binoculars so i can wave at you story. but it still would've happened. they are just like that in their daily life together, without an audience

I understand that they may not want to reveal their relationship to the public due to privacy concerns, but at the same time, I think it would lift a burden off their shoulders if they did. At this point everyone knows and no one really cares so wouldn't everything be easier for them? idk

hm idk. because i think there would be downsides to them confirming their relationship status and honestly at this point i'm not sure how much of a benefit it would be to them? like aside from the fact that they wouldn't be "hiding" i don't think that them explicitly confirming their relationship would change the way that they behave at all. i don't think they would start like posting pics of them kissing or writing long instagram captions about their relationship yk. i think that in the ways that matter, they already aren't hiding. they're open about the fact that they own a home together. they're open about the fact that they want a dog together (compare this to like 7 odd years ago when dan was talking abt what dog breeds they want and then he was like "or whatever dog phil wants in his life" 💀). in a universe where they have confirmed their relationship, i don't think they would be acting much differently, so i'm not sure there's necessarily a burden on their shoulders atp

and while i agree no one cares in the sense that like, they wouldn't break the internet and they wouldn't lose fans or smth like that, i do think that it would open the door to the general public/journalists feeling more entitled to details about their personal life which i think they want to avoid. as phil said, once that door is open, it's hard to shut it

(this all being said, phil himself said he didn't think coming out would be a big deal until he actually did it and he was like wow that was a relief i didn't know i needed. so maybe one day they will be more explicit and it'll make a difference that they weren't anticipating! so idk)

hey quick question does this mean dnp have been each other’s strongest and sometimes only support system and safe space for nearly 15 years and built their custom forever home and got matching mugs and have a framed photo of their ff characters in the office and watch every movie together and get cuddles whenever they want and share clothes and speak what is essentially their own made up language and look at each other Like That and built their whole lives around how much they love each other and found a way to do so publicly without destroying themselves?