Thank You For This Common Sense.

Thank you for this common sense.

It is not “fatphobic” to be charged more for large clothing. It is not “fatphobic” to suggest weight loss. It is not “fatphobic” to help someone realize how much they overeat. It is not “fatphobic” to talk about nutrition. It is not “fatphobic” to encourage a healthy BMI. It is not “fatphobic” to dismiss the “genetic obesity” lie. It is not “fatphobic” to dismiss the “starvation mode” lie. It is not “fatphobic” to suggest following a lower calorie diet. It is not “fatphobic” to dismiss any and all fat logic and enabling behavior. It is not “fatphobic” of your doctor to correctly assess your health and suggest weight loss if you are overweight or obese, or for them to deny performing a surgery due to your weight. Doctors are held liable and obese patients are high risk.

You are healthy at a healthy size. Not all sizes are healthy.

Being fat is not healthy. Call it what you will- fat, overweight, obese. BEING FAT IS NOT HEALTHY. EVER. Stop encouraging others to overeat. Stop encouraging others to neglect their bodies. If you sell people the lies you’ve been selling yourself all you’re doing is promoting self harm, a slew of dangerous health complications, and early deaths.

If you’re happy with yourself, keep your fat logic, delusional concepts, and lies to yourself. Dig your own grave, not the graves of others.

Most people who like Lizzie only like her for her music and most of her fans are female soooo... yeah.

Don’t get me wrong Lizzo’s great and I appreciate her music. That being said, liking an artist doesn’t automatically mean you’re attracted to them. Also, a lot of thinner female musicians are still doing pretty good so you initial comment about the “skinny bitches” is invalid. Maybe you should just be comfortable with your own body and stop putting down other people because they aren’t shaped like fucking circles.

Plus size girls are winning!

Lizzo’s success proves that now you gotta be plus size to make it big in music. All these skinny bitches no longer have a chance. Men and women love plus size girls now and they prefer to listen to music made by them.

We did it ladies! Plus size is the official new beauty standard. Lizzo broke barries and made plus size mainstream in music and in the world. She’s the biggest artists out right now and you can’t deny it. We’ve never seen anything like this before. Ladies, don’t fuss about losing weight, men love all your curves.

I can only pray this is satire because if it’s not then the irony of what you said and the hashtags flew right over your head.

Don't you get sick of looking at thin white women 24/7 365? Cos I do

That’s so sad Alexa play Despacito.

As a fat person who is rarely ever complimented for my physical looks (aside from acceptable compliments for fat people), it drives me absolutely fucking bonkers when conventionally attractive people fish for compliments from me. They’ve got a whole society that worships their body type and tells them that they’re inherently amazing, just for being born with a good metabolism and no hormonal (or other specific health) issues. But they’re gonna come to me and tell me how they don’t look good, or they feel ugly, or no one loves them, and I’m supposed to make them feel better. I just want to tell them to open a fucking magazine, or turn on the tv. You’ll get to see virtually every person there looking similar to you. I didn’t see a positive role model (ie. not the butt of fat jokes) that was beautiful and funny and successful and that never had their body questioned and who looked like me till I saw Melissa McCarthy in The Heat (came out in 2013, fyi). I’ve never seen clothing models built like me till last week when I found the GRRRL clothing line (plus size models for most fashion companies are acceptable fat, ie. big boobs and ass, barely a stomach, thick but not too thick legs). As a kid, I never dreamed of being a princess because the only people who looked like me in Disney films were evil, or side characters who took care of the princess. If conventionally attractive people are looking for a partner, they don’t have to worry about being fetishized, they can be loved for themselves, and their partner won’t be questioned as to HOW or WHY they can love them. Their relationship will not have to be justified or explained, they will not face questions of “so… Like, [the fat partner] is never on top, right?” or “doesn’t it kinda ruin the sex when you can’t just move [the fat partner] around?”. They won’t be the running joke among their friends. If both partners are fat, they get even more wonderful bullshit to deal with. When dating, conventionally attractive people won’t be accused of lying or misrepresenting themselves if they don’t post a full body picture and show up to a date fatter than what the date anticipated. Their bodies do not need to come with disclaimers. I can count the number of times my former partners told me I’m beautiful without a “but” following it (3. With a “but” following it; 5). I remember almost every compliment given to me by friends that was explicitly about my physical appearence and that didn’t skirt around me being fat (there’s acceptable ways to compliment a fat person. Ie. You have a nice face/personality, that clothing is slimming on you, you look healthy, etc. I’m tempted to include cute, but I’m on the fence about that one) I’m tired of being the bastion of self love, confidence, and body positivity for people whose only barrier in the way of their own self love and confidence is themselves. I didn’t have anyone to push me to this point where I can love myself and others completely, regardless of size. The only reason I am the way I am is because I’ve made myself this way, facing a society that’s continuously told me it’s wrong to be happy and love myself as I am.

So wanting your children to live long healthy lives at the expense of giving up some of what they like is abuse? Sounds to me like teaching them responsibility.

many parents who abuse their children do so bc they think it’s best, or it’s all they know. parents who beat their kids may genuinely believe that to spare the rod is to spoil the child… but they’re abusers nonetheless.

likewise, good intentions and ignorance don’t hold up as excuses for weight-based child abuse.

to restrict a child’s access to food in an attempt to control their weight, to force or coerce heavier children into exercise that they hate, to make critical comments about their bodies (using medicalized language or not), or to in any other way attempt to manipulate or shame them for their natural body size – these constitute abuse.

there was a time when doctors would also have advocated beating children, and the culture in general supported it. we’re in a time (hopefully not for much longer) when doctors and the culture at large support weight-based abuse. but it is parents who ultimately decide how to treat their children, and it’s on them that the final responsibility falls. 

abuse that is well-meant is abuse nonetheless; damage to children is not mitigated by a parent’s genuine conviction that their own behavior is justified. if you disagree w me, consider that you may be trained to see fat kids as incapable of being hurt, or even as deserving harm.

me, seeing thanos turning all my faves into dust: it can’t get any worse, right?

peter parker: i don’t want to go..

me: