Below Is A Wonderfully Edifying Submission From @tell-me-everything. My Comments Are At The End In Italics.

Below is a wonderfully edifying submission from @tell-me-everything. My comments are at the end in italics.

I get very frustrated when I see casual social media posts or analysis videos claiming to know exactly what Jungkook is feeling based on his body language or his facial expressions, and I feel like a lot of the harmful stereotypes and misinformation within the fandom come from these posts that are essentially based on guesswork. We never know exactly what is going on inside a person’s head, and we’re all just making our best guesses based on our own experiences and preconceptions about people.

So I wanted to write up a few examples of ways that I as an autistic person might read JK’s body language differently based on my own experiences and those of my close friends of other neurotypes. And I thought this blog might be a good place to share this. I’m not trying to say that Jungkook actually is neurodivergent in any particular way. However, he does have some behaviors that I relate to and that I think might be misinterpreted, so I want to provide some alternative explanations. I may be preaching to the choir by submitting this on Tumblr, but oh well, here we go.

1. Indirect Eye Contact

Something that really gets my goat (and the reason I decided to write this submission) is how the fandom often interprets the way JK stares off into space or at another person or at the ground.

Neurotypical people tend to prioritize eyes as “windows to the soul,” and they often assume that the direction in which the eyes are pointed is where the person’s attention is pointed. For neurodiverse people, that is often not the case. 

There are two big reasons for this: First, eye contact is very overwhelming for many people, so they will process information better while looking away. Second, many neurodiverse people have different types of audio processing difficulties, so in the chaos of a conversation or a lecture, or a concert, the person might have to “turn off” their eyes for a bit in order to focus all of their effort on listening. Some people describe this as “seeing the sounds,” where they even create their own subtitles for what is being said or try to visualize the content in some other way.

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Lmao the tags, so true

twitter.com/jmintine/status/1465347145045659649?s=20 omg baby-gay-jk never stood a chance huh 😳

JeiKei gets reciprocity, anyway. The rest of Bangtan and the world? We're all just cannon fodder for the laser focus behind those sunglasses. I mean he's just... out there. Walking around in public looking like The MFing Park Jimin (often ft. Cute Baggage Handler Koo):

Even The Jeon Damn Jungkook knows he's in the presence of greatness. I don't know what kind of deal Jimin's parents made in order to visit this man upon the world, but I think we are grateful for their sacrifice.

This recurring thing of confining queer relationships to sexual lens only to dimiss them has to stop ffs

I'm ok with people not believing jikook are together but can we all admit that something definitely happened between them years ago, *sexually*, and they liked it otherwise we wouldn't see them so often together. You can deny a relationship but you can't deny the sexual tension and electric chemistry between those guys

Uh. Y'ALL. You can't legitimately think that Jikook just did the thing once or ten times back in the day and did not fall in love. I don't think you think that anon, but I think other people try to justify them that way. FWB MY ASS HAVE YOU SEEN THE EYES ON THESE TWO?!

Those are not horny eyes. I mean, okay yes they can be but in that moment those are not horny eyes. Those eyes speak of adoration. There is a huge difference. Not platonic "oh that baby duck is so cute". Not "oh I'mma rail that into oblivion later".

ADORATION. Love. That is exactly what drew most of us into the whole Jeon-Park household in the first place. Okay, yes, something sexual happened between them on hickey night that's for damn sure and it wasn't the first hickey we've seen on either of them. They have a five-year history of questionable alone time behavior resulting in makeup, blackmail material, giggles and inside jokes and sixteen boatloads of sexual tension. Surreptitious touches and lip bites and sly grins are just a normal Wednesday in the Jeon-Park house and shared workplace. We all been knew. But admitting a relationship is sexual is not the same thing as reducing a relationship to Just Sexual. I don't think that's what you were trying to do, but some fans do just that. And it's disrespectful to Jimin and Jungkook as loving partners to invalidate their emotion in favor of their dicks. People who reduce their love to an FWB hornfest or who use horny as a barometer for them are just as homophobic as people who refuse to see anything at all.

just baby tannies complimenting the jibooty with no context

HATERS AND ANTIS

Some basic definitions 👇👇👇👇

(get comfortable🪑🪑🪑🪑)

Listen....in this world some people are triggered, absolutely triggered, by anything or anyone beyond their troglodyte-regressed comprehension skills.

When you encounter them, report and walk away. It isn't worth your time to engage them.

https://www.usbtsarmy.com/tutorials/report-malicious-posts/#email

Some people are really out here getting PAID to write sh!t posts about people they've never met....I can't say I know what it's like to be in their position, taking money to be an awful person online, so I can thank my lucky stars I'm not in such a moral predicament. I sometimes wonder if it's a job they love or a job born of necessity. 😩

Some people have had bad experiences in life and they take that out on people they don't personally know. (This isn't me doing an analysis on anyone. This is me regurgitating what people who have studied longer on this topic have said.) They've met someone who they thought the sun shined out of their a$$ and got burnt by it and now every time they see a sun they think it's completely dark on the other side.

I fail to see (and you might too because this next paragraph is convoluted 🙏) how in one breath they question just how genuine this particular group member is by believing in posts from other anons (who had to probably buy the information so they think it's valid, but it's just specious) who don't even know if the information they're posting is accurate and also taking little tidbits of partial moments or conversations between members & this group member that were joking or otherwise and calling the people they support super direct & super genuine, but also not believing them the other times they've praised this person they hate on for being so wonderful. It doesn't follow logic. They ignore all the hugs, kisses, kind words, thoughtful interactions, and thank you's over all the years between all the members just to point out.....what exactly...??? That they don't believe that all those interactions were genuine??? That they don't believe all those interactions happen off camera too or something???? After saying the people they support are the most genuine??? And they interact with this person...that they don't...think??? Is??? Genuine??? Even??? Off???? Camera???? 💀 Nah fr fr....it IS so much easier to just listen to the members and believe what they say instead of twisting things around to match some preconceived idea of who a person is based on the insanely small amounts of time we get to see them on camera. Why are they stanning a group (or member) that's promoted as genuine if they don't think they're genuine??? And that honestly means they're all genuine or they're all NOT genuine because what we do see of them is the only thing we can actually make theories about. And what we see if them on camera and what they've explained to us about what they do off camera is that they all love each other to pieces.

So we can pretty much categorize taekookers under this category too. They do it for different reasons but they definitely are the type not to believe what their eyes see, but they still see it so they lash out against a particular person and a particular agency. Some are brainwashed. Some can't leave the community they feel comfortable in. Some are addicted to the feeling of looking for the wrongs in the world and being a savior of this one group of people. Some do it because it adds what they think is a measure of control to their lives. There's various reasons and it's all being heavily studied right now due to the Q-anon conspiracy theorists. Flat earthers, anti-vaxxers, government conspiracy theorists, religious fundamentalists, N@zis, people that deny the moon landing...etc...they're all using the same fallacy pitfalls. And it's possible that people who fall under one category are more likely to be predisposed to fall under the others. It's makes them kinda like ticking time 💣. The more their lies are proven to be unfounded, the more loss of control they feel or the more pressure they feel to "take drastic actions to become the savior of the story." That's how we got January 6th in America, September 11, 2001, April 19, 1995 in Oklahoma....and how that Weverse post happened.

They aren't the crusaders they think they are and everything they see, hear, touch, interact with in regards to the members gets placed through this inaccurate filter first. And I mean EVERYTHING. 😩

Do not, under any circumstances, underestimate how dangerous this group can become if they feel pushed hard enough. This Weverse post happened over a "bite" that had happened months before the fandom even found out about it.

Then you have this group: they jealous 🙃

They want what they can't have and they want it badly enough that they act irrationally and emotionally instead of with empathy, logic, understanding, clarity, humanity...this list can go on and on. They'll still be jealous at the end of the day. 💅

Now....this other category of haters is the one that we do tend to see a lot of on social media. Let me preface by saying there's no such thing as "normal" in this world. We're all humans existing on a spectrum of existing/surviving/thriving...and whatever coping methods we've learned along the way to do that. So this group aren't well-adjusted individuals (again, who among us really is?). They seek out people they perceive as weaker so they can feel better about themselves (does this particular post of mine qualify???🤔). They have figured out different cues that they try to exploit in others so that they can feel smarter, stronger, in charge, more powerful, in control....these people target others in the fandom by going after the members or they target the members because, again, they aren't healthy humans. Therapy would help them. Yeah, I said it.

And this last group....the use of homophobic or other derogatory language....they're either part of the power-control group...or they're straight up homophobes or with internalized misogyny. They've identified someone as a "target" and have labeled them as "other" or "weaker" (mind you how well JM can kick our butts) therefore worthy of their scorn and hate and negativity. They've dehumanized a whole human! It doesn't matter to them what the other person feels or thinks or if their assumptions about that person are even correct. They don't care. Again, report and block these people. They don't just need therapy, they need intensive deprogramming and exposure and love and support to come out of the well of negativity they're currently drowning in.

This anon feature really gives this hatred such an outlet we'd never experience outside of the internet. And yeah, I'm gonna call them out right here:

Did you see that BigHit email address above?

Let me link it for you here 💜

Go ahead and report yourself. Go ahead and present your case in court if you feel so absolutely convinced of your moral and correct assumptions that you'd tell a person to their face all of the disgusting and abhorrent comments you've ever written about them under anon. Do it.

I. Dare. You.

BH has my face, my email, and my home address. I'm not worried about a thing coming back on me. Anti, can you say the same?

Agreed 100%

I really liked your post about Jimin and the misconceptions a large part of the fandom have about him. I’d like to add one, feel free to disagree : "Jimin is effeminate". A lot of Armys perceive him as this super feminine guy in an almost exaggerated way. Warning: there’s absolutely nothing wrong in being a very feminine guy!! But the way I see him, I think he both has a very masculine side and a more feminine one. I find him very manly in the way he behaves and speaks sometimes, and sometimes he has this exquisite delicacy that is seen as feminine. I think he’s a very beautiful balance of masculinity and femininity. Same for for Jungkook. I actually find him to be more dainty and delicate most of the time (not that it is a competition anyway). There’s also a lot of misconceptions about our Jungkookie!

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