My Point Is - You Don't Have Force Yourself To Use It. It's Not A Solution That Is The Best For You And

My point is - You don't have force yourself to use it. It's not a solution that is the best for you and that's ok. By forcing yourself to use public transport which doesn't suit your needs you only grow resentment not just for this mean of transportation but for people who activly promote it. I get that their message might sometimes sound "extreme" and you might feel villified by not adhering to the means of life of "fuck cars" community, but their message is not ment to be against you. Their message is against car dependence. Their message is against forms of urban planning that don't take into account anyone but the car users. Their message is agains the viewpoint that treats people who don't own a car as inferior. And finally public transport was not ment to be a magic solution for any given person. Public transport is a solution for traffic jams.

No actually it's shit to act like public transport, the most common example being trains, is this perfect magical answer to everything. It's shit to act like cars are some symbol of capitalist evil and always would be in any society. And it's shit to pretend that's not a real problem. Yeah I know the people saying things like that aren't in any position to make political changes based on those convictions. That doesn't mean it's not harmful.

I have been trying my best for a really long time to get better at using public transport, but it has cemented the fact that that's never going to be reliable as the only option for me. I know how to go on a specific route on the metro by myself. That's it. And sometimes even that is impossible. Me and my support worker have recently been working on going just the opposite way on the same line, and I'm having massive trouble getting my head around it. There's no way I could do this regularly and also get through whatever activity I was travelling for. And I know there are people who have bigger problems with it than me as well.

Just stop. How the hell would you feel if supposed leftists, people who were supposed to be on your side and for your rights and such, were glorifying something that causes you massive problems and demonising solutions you sometimes desperately need? I'm not evil because I sometimes need to take a taxi or be driven somewhere by my mum, who is my carer, when she is willing and able (something that I know is a privilege and I'm very grateful for).

one of the best ways i’ve found to combat that inherent depressive pessimism without veering into toxic positivity territory is simply the phrase “i’m open to the possibility”

this particularly works with anything negative i’ve forecasted. “i woke up feeling like shit today, so my day is gonna suck” isn’t a particularly helpful thought, but “it’s a great day to be alive!!!!!” feels hollow and insincere when i have a pounding headache & am running on three hours of sleep

instead i’ll tell myself, “i really don’t feel good right now, but i’m open to the possibility that coffee and breakfast might perk me up a bit.” or “i’m in a lot of pain today, but i’m open to the possibility that my workday might still have fun parts despite that”

sometimes, when your impulse is to slam the door on anything good, but you’re not exactly up to going out & hunting it down yourself, leaving the door open just a crack makes all the difference

An interesting demonstration of how the human brain works.

But also something of a lesson regarding perception, and the unreliability of subjective perspective versus objective reality.

You can be extremely certain about how you perceive the world, your "lived experience," that which you "feel it in my heart." But that doesn't mean it's actually true. And it doesn't mean we have to endorse it, or ignore or outright deny objective reality.

That's a "you" thing, not a "we" thing.

cough. i did a thing

Or boop the cat

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So one day a dwarf is talking to a human and finally realizes that when humans say woman, they generally mean “person who is theoretically capable of childbirth” because for whatever reason, humans assign social expectations based genital differences. (What a fucked up culture, the dwarf thinks.) But hey, better communication! So the next time the dwarf introduces theirself, they say, oh, by the way, I am what you call a “woman.”

And the trade negotiations just stop. They just stop cold. The tall people insist on speaking to the man, they insist on talking to the lady dwarf about all sorts of irrelevant bullshit, like recipes and childrearing and perfume

so the dwarf goes back home, enraged

and is like “BTW guess what happened, we’re all just going to be men forever now as far as the tall ones are concerned”

and everyone is justly horrified at this barbarism but they all agree to do whatever  it takes to squeeze those tall bastards for all the resources they are worth

and the dwarves get surlier, and the trade agreements less generous

and the tall people are all “what a miserable and greedy race”

but really they’re just still nursing a grudge about how goddamn backwards and sexist the tall people are

because their best negotiator, one of their sacred cave people, got snubbed the instant she said she was capable of childbirth - and a mortal insult like that can never be forgiven