I Am Fully Against Sex Work But Have Nothing Against Sex Workers. My Being Against Sex Work Has Nothing

I am fully against sex work but have nothing against sex workers. My being against sex work has nothing to do with the conservative POV about eww immoral whores tempting men ruining the foundation of society. My belief is this:

Transactional sex cannot be consensual. Full stop. Money implies that you would not consent without compensation. Stop thinking of “rape” like a cop would- that it only counts under the strictest circumstances and verbally saying No and fighting back. You can SAY “yes i agree to have sex with you” but if you do not want to have sex, you are not attracted to that person, would never have sex with them without being paid, that is rape. That is non consensual sex.

And the amount of Sex workers that can afford to leave the lifestyle that only have fun safe sex with relatively young attractivish men that they choose is SO rare compared to the reality of it all that its really not worth discussing if in some hypothetical situation prostitution could be empowering.

I have several college degrees and this Tumblr post just explained how to search a database with far more clarity than any of my professors ever did. Keep all this in mind for EBSCOhost, Pubmed, ScienceDirect etc. if you happen to be writing any research papers.

I wish that ao3 had an option to filter warnings (and tbh certain authors) out like I will never ever want to read it and just seeing it puts me off so much that often I end up closing my browser because that content upsets me so much lmao

This. All of this. I have no issue with painting nails, as I feel like it can be a fun thing to add a little color to life, and unlike makeup or shaving, I feel like society doesn't tend to give a shit whether or not your nails have paint on them or not. But I DESPISE fake nails.

I was raised by a nurse and these are the reasons my mother gave as to why I was under no circumstances allowed to have fake nails while growing up:

- Acrylic nails must be applied to a rough surface which means they file down your actual nail, which makes them weaker

- the space between your acrylic nail and your real nail is a great spot for bacteria to hide and grow.

-acrylic (and gel) nails literally have to be soaked in acetone to be taken off

-you can't do anything with acrylic nails and they make writing, typing, and literally all activities of daily living more difficult

-cuticle trimming (often done before acrylic or gel nails are applied) is literally pushing back and trimming the very thing that prevents the skin surrounding your nails from infection. And just like removing body hair, removing your cuticle skin often causes it to grow back rougher.

Gel has become pretty popular in the last 10 years and in the interest of giving clear information, I feel like I should state that there are two different products "gel nails" may refer to. The first is artificial nails made out of gel that bond to your nails with UV light. Basically this goo is applied to your nail and then 'cured' under a UV light, so that is hardens into a tough shell attached to your nail. The second product is gel polish, which is regular nail polish with a gel component, that is still dried under a UV light and generally lasts longer than regular nail polish due to the gel curing under UV light.

-while gel nail polish isnt quite as bad as artificial nails, please keep in mind that UV light is used to seal this type of polish. I know some people like gel polish because it lasts longer than typical nail polish, so if you absolutely insist on using it, at least put sunscreen on your hands (or feet, if painting toenails) before putting them under the UV dryer. And consider taking breaks in between gel with no polish at all, as repeated use can lead to brittle, cracked nails.

-the major problem with gel nails and gel polish isn't actually the gel, it's the removal of it. People often pick at the gel and peel away layers of gel polish instead of having them taken off with acetone at a nail salon. Picking and peeling causes not only the gel but part of the protective outer layer of the nail to be peeled or pried up together due to the chemical bonds. Pure acetone breaks the bonds so that the gel can be removed with less damage to the nail. The bond between your nail and the gel only solidifies more with each day and the longer you wait to have gel nails removed, the harder it will be to get them off, so the whole longer lasting thing doesn't really pay off.

Moral of the story: stick to regular polish if you are going to paint your nails. And never feel obligated to paint them, cosmetic companies run by men don't need any more women's money.

Reblog if you think mediocre men in their thirties should stay away from anyone in their early twenties or younger. So tired of seeing these 18 to 22 year old women "in love" for a few months and then completely broken when they realize they were grossly taken advantage of later on. If you want to give me that 'age is just a number' crap, at least wait until both parties have a fully developed brain, which occurs approximately between ages 24 and 27.

before taking a cisgender person's advice on what transness is/how to be trans/how to transition/etc., i think you need to ask yourself: how would they accurately know what it's like to be transgender if they are not, themselves? especially if they are being hostile or gatekeeping you- this does not make them correct, no matter how stubborn, loud, or sure of themselves they are- these are not the people who know what the experience is like. they are forming an outsider's opinion, or at best, passing along a trans person's words. go straight to trans people. go straight to the source.

137k likes on this vid so far and women in the comments are finally speaking up and pushing back🥲🥲🥲🥲