The Prostitute Symbolizes The Value Of Women In Society. She Is Paradigmatic Of Women's Social, Sexual,

“The prostitute symbolizes the value of women in society. She is paradigmatic of women's social, sexual, and economic subordination in that her status is the basic unit by which all women's value is measured and to which all women can be reduced.”

—Evelina Giobbe. Confronting the Liberal Lies About Prostitution. 2018.

If one of us is for sale we all are; why do you think men ask every female content creator to create an Onlyfans?

Do you think trans women who pass as cis (thinking of someone like Patti Harrison) experience misogyny? I look at her and I’m like, she must experience the same things I do societally as a woman. I didn’t know she was trans until I read it somewhere. What are your thoughts?

Hm. I think that they experience a surface level misogyny - like a cat call (or other male harassment/objectification). But a lot of the misogyny we face as female people is systemic.

It's all healthcare/medicine that's available to us being only tested on males, prioritized for male bodies, and constructed so our role as birther > our humanity. And no matter how well a trans woman passes, healthcare is still made for their male body. And I still am being given medicine that was only tested on male rats and male humans because "females have complicated hormonal cycles that are difficult to control for". I am still being treated by a physician who was taught the male symptoms for all ailments, the female ones not considered.

Its being raised in a society that celebrates and rewards male excellence, and discourages and doesn't teach examples of women in math and science and medicine. It's being raised to be clean, be helpers, risky play discouraged. No matter how well a trans woman passes, they were encouraged to adventure, be explorers, pursue math and science. Their questions were celebrated, not quieted.

It's my upbringing being fundamentally affected by every male who ever interacted with me and how their thoughts and opinions of my femaleness influenced their treatment of me.

Its a society that demands female sacrifice, beauty, smoothness, chastity, thinness, litheness, grace, feminity, starvation, sensuality, motherhood, and conformity. Its being a woman punished for not adhering. And a trans woman, passing however well, selecting optionally to opt in to whatever degree of that they like, or worse yet, agree with.

Its being in a world in which over 95% of lawmakers and politicians are male. Which means absolutely all laws, rules, governing structures, and systems within that world are given male bias. Benefit male people. Its being a female in that system. And however well a trans woman passes, they still are male bodied and benefit from the entire structure and ongoing state of the nation and world that benefits male people.

Its having every top religion of the world written by men to include a male Father-God.

Its being regarded as "the second sex".

Its having all sports that exemplify male biological advantages being highly paid and in the spotlight, and all sports that exemplify female biological advantages taking second fiddle.

Its having female bodily autonomy constantly up for grabs, and male bodily autonomy never on the chopping block. Female reproductive freedom always restricted, male reproductive freedom never questioned.

Its having femicide, rape, abuse as a constant threat. It's seeing that treatment of females constantly glorified for entertainment value in all medias.

Its seeing female bodies broken and abused in pornography, with worse treatment every year. Its seeing male bodies doing the treatment.

And it goes on and on and on.

Its systemic. Its all-encompassing. And it is biology specific.

Okay, so I have a sleep disorder (hence the sloth in the name) and I follow this sleep advocacy group/non profit on Instagram which of course, this month, felt the need to "highlight voices from the LGBTQ+ community" who struggle with sleep disorders. So today they posted about this one girl and she writes "I identify as queer and bisexual, and as disabled."

I'm sorry what? Are any of those things something you can "identify" as? Que*r is a slur, and even if it wasn't, what would it even mean? Like why is it a separate thing from your sexual orientation? Which by the way, that's what bisexuality is: a sexual orientation. Not an identity. And disabled, how tf do you identify as disabled? You either have a disability, or you don't. And then underneath that she writes "I have narcolepsy".

Are you sure? Maybe you just identify as narcoleptic. But that would sound ridiculous. 🙄

I want to live by myself when I move out of my parent's place but I'm really afraid of money problems? I'm afraid that the only place I can afford will be in the ghetto and it'll all be torn apart and I'll only be allowed to eat one granola bar a week. I'm really stressing out about this. I don't know anything about after school life. I don't know anything about paying bills or how to buy an apartment and it's really scaring me. is there anything you know that can help me?

HI darling,

I’ve actually got a super wonderful masterpost for you to check out:

Home

what the hell is a mortgage?

first apartment essentials checklist

how to care for cacti and succulents

the care and keeping of plants

Getting an apartment

Money

earn rewards by taking polls

how to coupon

what to do when you can’t pay your bills

see if you’re paying too much for your cell phone bill

how to save money

How to Balance a Check Book

How to do Your Own Taxes

Health

how to take care of yourself when you’re sick

things to bring to a doctor’s appointment

how to get free therapy

what to expect from your first gynecologist appointment

how to make a doctor’s appointment

how to pick a health insurance plan

how to avoid a hangover

a list of stress relievers

how to remove a splinter

Emergency

what to do if you get pulled over by a cop

a list of hotlines in a crisis

things to keep in your car in case of an emergency

how to do the heimlich maneuver

Job

time management

create a resume

find the right career

how to pick a major

how to avoid a hangover

how to interview for a job

how to stop procrastinating

How to write cover letters

Travel

ULTIMATE PACKING LIST

Traveling for Cheap

Travel Accessories

The Best Way to Pack a Suitcase

How To Read A Map

How to Apply For A Passport

How to Make A Travel Budget

Better You

read the news

leave your childhood traumas behind

how to quit smoking

how to knit

how to stop biting your nails

how to stop procrastinating

how to stop skipping breakfast

how to stop micromanaging

how to stop avoiding asking for help

how to stop swearing constantly

how to stop being a pushover

learn another language

how to improve your self-esteem

how to sew

learn how to embroider

how to love yourself

100 tips for life

Apartments/Houses/Moving

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 1: Are You Sure? (The Responsible One)

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 2: Finding the Damn Apartment (The Responsible One)

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 3: Questions to Ask about the Damn Apartment (The Responsible One)

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 4: Packing and Moving All of Your Shit (The Responsible One)

How to Protect Your Home Against Break-Ins (The Responsible One)

Education

How to Find a Fucking College (The Sudden Adult)

How to Find Some Fucking Money for College (The Sudden Adult)

What to Do When You Can’t Afford Your #1 Post-Secondary School (The Sudden Adult)

Stop Shitting on Community College Kids (Why Community College is Fucking Awesome) (The Responsible One)

How to Ask for a Recommendation Letter (The Responsible One)

How to Choose a College Major (The Sudden Adult)

Finances

How to Write a Goddamn Check (The Responsible One)

How to Convince Credit Companies You’re Not a Worthless Bag of Shit (The Responsible One)

Debit vs Credit (The Responsible One)

What to Do if Your Wallet is Stolen/Lost (The Sudden Adult)

Budgeting 101 (The Responsible One)

Important Tax Links to Know (The Responsible One)

How to Choose a Bank Without Screwing Yourself (The Responsible One)

Job Hunting

How to Write a Resume Like a Boss (The Responsible One)

How to Write a Cover Letter Someone Will Actually Read (The Responsible One)

How to Handle a Phone Interview without Fucking Up (The Responsible One)

10 Sites to Start Your Job Search (The Responsible One)

Life Skills

Staying in Touch with Friends/Family (The Sudden Adult)

Bar Etiquette (The Sudden Adult)

What to Do After a Car Accident (The Sudden Adult)

Grow Up and Buy Your Own Groceries (The Responsible One)

How to Survive Plane Trips (The Sudden Adult)

How to Make a List of Goals (The Responsible One)

How to Stop Whining and Make a Damn Appointment (The Responsible One)

Miscellaneous

What to Expect from the Hell that is Jury Duty (The Responsible One)

Relationships

Marriage: What the Fuck Does It Mean and How the Hell Do I Know When I’m Ready? (Guest post - The Northwest Adult)

How Fucked Are You for Moving In with Your Significant Other: An Interview with an Actual Real-Life Couple Living Together™ (mintypineapple  and catastrofries)

Travel & Vehicles

How to Winterize Your Piece of Shit Vehicle (The Responsible One)

How to Make Public Transportation Your Bitch (The Responsible One)

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Harsh Truths & Bitter Reminders

Asks I’ll Probably Need to Refer People to Later

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Finances - Tax Basics (The Responsible One)

Important Documents - How to Get a Copy of Your Birth Certificate (The Responsible One)

Important Documents - How to Get a Replacement ID (The Responsible One)

Health - How to Deal with a Chemical Burn (The Responsible One)

Job Hunting - List of Jobs Based on Social Interaction Levels (The Sudden Adult)

Job Hunting - How to Avoid Falling into a Pit of Despair While Job Hunting (The Responsible One)

Job Hunting - Questions to Ask in an Interview (The Responsible One)

Life Skills - First-Time Flying Tips (The Sudden Adult)

Life Skills - How to Ask a Good Question (The Responsible One)

Life Skills - Reasons to Take a Foreign Language (The Responsible One)

Life Skills - Opening a Bar Tab (The Sudden Adult)

Relationships - Long Distance Relationships: How to Stay in Contact (The Responsible One)

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removing stains from your carpet

how to know if you’re eligible for food stamps

throwing a dinner party

i’m pregnant, now what?

first aid tools to keep in your house

how to keep a clean kitchen

learning how to become independent from your parents

job interview tips

opening your first bank account

what to do if you lose your wallet

tips for cheap furniture

easy ways to cut your spending

selecting the right tires for your car

taking out your first loan

picking out the right credit card

how to get out of parking tickets

how to fix a leaky faucet

get all of your news in one place

getting rid of mice & rats in your house

when to go to the e.r.

buying your first home

how to buy your first stocks

guide to brewing coffee

first apartment essentials checklist

coping with a job you hate

30 books to read before you’re 30

what’s the deal with retirement?

difference between insurances

Once you’ve looked over all those cool links, I have some general advice for you on how you can have some sort of support system going for you:

Reasons to move out of home

You may decide to leave home for many different reasons, including:

wishing to live independently

location difficulties – for example, the need to move closer to university

conflict with your parents

being asked to leave by your parents.

Issues to consider when moving out of home

It’s common to be a little unsure when you make a decision like leaving home. You may choose to move, but find that you face problems you didn’t anticipate, such as:

Unreadiness – you may find you are not quite ready to handle all the responsibilities.

Money worries – bills including rent, utilities like gas and electricity and the cost of groceries may catch you by surprise, especially if you are used to your parents providing for everything. Debt may become an issue.

Flatmate problems – issues such as paying bills on time, sharing housework equally, friends who never pay board, but stay anyway, and lifestyle incompatibilities (such as a non-drug-user flatting with a drug user) may result in hostilities and arguments.

Your parents may be worried

Think about how your parents may be feeling and talk with them if they are worried about you. Most parents want their children to be happy and independent, but they might be concerned about a lot of different things. For example:

They may worry that you are not ready.

They may be sad because they will miss you.

They may think you shouldn’t leave home until you are married or have bought a house.

They may be concerned about the people you have chosen to live with.

Reassure your parents that you will keep in touch and visit regularly. Try to leave on a positive note. Hopefully, they are happy about your plans and support your decision.

Tips for a successful move

Tips include:

Don’t make a rash decision – consider the situation carefully. Are you ready to live independently? Do you make enough money to support yourself? Are you moving out for the right reasons?

Draw up a realistic budget – don’t forget to include ‘hidden’ expenses such as the property’s security deposit or bond (usually four weeks’ rent), connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.

Communicate – avoid misunderstandings, hostilities and arguments by talking openly and respectfully about your concerns with flatmates and parents. Make sure you’re open to their point of view too – getting along is a two-way street.

Keep in touch – talk to your parents about regular home visits: for example, having Sunday night dinner together every week.

Work out acceptable behaviour – if your parents don’t like your flatmate(s), find out why. It is usually the behaviour rather than the person that causes offence (for example, swearing or smoking). Out of respect for your parents, ask your flatmate(s) to be on their best behaviour when your parents visit and do the same for them.

Ask for help – if things are becoming difficult, don’t be too proud to ask your parents for help. They have a lot of life experience.

If your family home does not provide support

Not everyone who leaves home can return home or ask their parents for help in times of trouble. If you have been thrown out of home or left home to escape abuse or conflict, you may be too young or unprepared to cope.

If you are a fostered child, you will have to leave the state-care system when you turn 18, but you may not be ready to make the sudden transition to independence.

If you need support, help is available from a range of community and government organisations. Assistance includes emergency accommodation and food vouchers. If you can’t call your parents or foster parents, call one of the associations below for information, advice and assistance.

Where to get help

Your doctor

Kids Helpline Tel. 1800 55 1800

Lifeline Tel. 13 11 44

Home Ground Services Tel. 1800 048 325

Relationships Australia Tel. 1300 364 277

Centrelink Crisis or Special Help Tel. 13 28 50

Tenants Union of Victoria Tel. (03) 9416 2577

Things to remember

Try to solve any problems before you leave home. Don’t leave because of a fight or other family difficulty if you can possibly avoid it.

Draw up a realistic budget that includes ‘hidden’ expenses, such as bond, connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.

Remember that you can get help from a range of community and government organizations. 

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Keep me updated? xx

Seriously. SERIOUSLY?

someone just have mercy on me and take me out i can’t do this anymore

You're definitely not alone. I pick up a good romance novel every now and again. I also like how you pointed out that it's a case by case basis as I will never condone 50 shades and the like.

I also like how you made a point that there is actually a story and relationship development. Think about how many movies have a few sex scenes without it being the focus of the whole romance film (e.g. No Strings Attached, The Notebook, etc.). I think the huge difference between romance novels and porn, is that women are not being objectified as often in romance novels because women are the ones writing them.

I am resolutely against visual porn involving real human beings, but I think that (written) erotica by women can be an incredibly powerful tool in allowing women to explore their sexuality safely without exposing themselves to a constant stream of images of beaten and battered women. The content involved in such books (i.e. unsafe kinks) should be judged on a case-by-case manner whether or not it is harmful, because there are some genuinely good stories in this genre. It’s also important to always read everything critically, and I’m not saying that erotica should be exempt from this or general criticism.

also worth noting that out of all pornography types, written erotica (by women for women) is the most scorned and ridiculed by mainstream society- the porn that widely actually involves a story and relationship development is the one that gets made fun of for being embarrassing to engage in. Shocker.

I’m not sure if this is an unpopular opinion, but I’d love to hear other people’s thoughts! 🤍🤍