I Want To Live By Myself When I Move Out Of My Parent's Place But I'm Really Afraid Of Money Problems?

I want to live by myself when I move out of my parent's place but I'm really afraid of money problems? I'm afraid that the only place I can afford will be in the ghetto and it'll all be torn apart and I'll only be allowed to eat one granola bar a week. I'm really stressing out about this. I don't know anything about after school life. I don't know anything about paying bills or how to buy an apartment and it's really scaring me. is there anything you know that can help me?

HI darling,

I’ve actually got a super wonderful masterpost for you to check out:

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Once you’ve looked over all those cool links, I have some general advice for you on how you can have some sort of support system going for you:

Reasons to move out of home

You may decide to leave home for many different reasons, including:

wishing to live independently

location difficulties – for example, the need to move closer to university

conflict with your parents

being asked to leave by your parents.

Issues to consider when moving out of home

It’s common to be a little unsure when you make a decision like leaving home. You may choose to move, but find that you face problems you didn’t anticipate, such as:

Unreadiness – you may find you are not quite ready to handle all the responsibilities.

Money worries – bills including rent, utilities like gas and electricity and the cost of groceries may catch you by surprise, especially if you are used to your parents providing for everything. Debt may become an issue.

Flatmate problems – issues such as paying bills on time, sharing housework equally, friends who never pay board, but stay anyway, and lifestyle incompatibilities (such as a non-drug-user flatting with a drug user) may result in hostilities and arguments.

Your parents may be worried

Think about how your parents may be feeling and talk with them if they are worried about you. Most parents want their children to be happy and independent, but they might be concerned about a lot of different things. For example:

They may worry that you are not ready.

They may be sad because they will miss you.

They may think you shouldn’t leave home until you are married or have bought a house.

They may be concerned about the people you have chosen to live with.

Reassure your parents that you will keep in touch and visit regularly. Try to leave on a positive note. Hopefully, they are happy about your plans and support your decision.

Tips for a successful move

Tips include:

Don’t make a rash decision – consider the situation carefully. Are you ready to live independently? Do you make enough money to support yourself? Are you moving out for the right reasons?

Draw up a realistic budget – don’t forget to include ‘hidden’ expenses such as the property’s security deposit or bond (usually four weeks’ rent), connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.

Communicate – avoid misunderstandings, hostilities and arguments by talking openly and respectfully about your concerns with flatmates and parents. Make sure you’re open to their point of view too – getting along is a two-way street.

Keep in touch – talk to your parents about regular home visits: for example, having Sunday night dinner together every week.

Work out acceptable behaviour – if your parents don’t like your flatmate(s), find out why. It is usually the behaviour rather than the person that causes offence (for example, swearing or smoking). Out of respect for your parents, ask your flatmate(s) to be on their best behaviour when your parents visit and do the same for them.

Ask for help – if things are becoming difficult, don’t be too proud to ask your parents for help. They have a lot of life experience.

If your family home does not provide support

Not everyone who leaves home can return home or ask their parents for help in times of trouble. If you have been thrown out of home or left home to escape abuse or conflict, you may be too young or unprepared to cope.

If you are a fostered child, you will have to leave the state-care system when you turn 18, but you may not be ready to make the sudden transition to independence.

If you need support, help is available from a range of community and government organisations. Assistance includes emergency accommodation and food vouchers. If you can’t call your parents or foster parents, call one of the associations below for information, advice and assistance.

Where to get help

Your doctor

Kids Helpline Tel. 1800 55 1800

Lifeline Tel. 13 11 44

Home Ground Services Tel. 1800 048 325

Relationships Australia Tel. 1300 364 277

Centrelink Crisis or Special Help Tel. 13 28 50

Tenants Union of Victoria Tel. (03) 9416 2577

Things to remember

Try to solve any problems before you leave home. Don’t leave because of a fight or other family difficulty if you can possibly avoid it.

Draw up a realistic budget that includes ‘hidden’ expenses, such as bond, connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.

Remember that you can get help from a range of community and government organizations. 

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Keep me updated? xx

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“If one girl with an education can change the world, just imagine what 130 million can do.” (British Vogue 2018)

Hi, here is a list of feminist texts I’ve found online. There are many important and notable readings not on this list that I’ve been unable to find working links for, and I haven’t read all of these yet. I have downloaded them all, though, so if a link breaks please let me know.

The complete works of Andrea Dworkin

“Loving to Survive: Sexual Terror, Men’s Violence and Women’s Lives” by Dee L.R. Graham, Edna I Rawlings, and Roberta K. Rigsby

“Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them: When Loving Hurts and You Don’t Know Why” by Susan Forward and Joan Torres

“Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men” by Lundy Bancroft

“Against Our Will: Men, Women, and Rape” by Susan Brownmiller

“Gyn/Ecology” by Mary Daly

“Sister Outsider” by Audre Lorde

“Only Words” by Catharine A. MacKinnon

“Sexual Politics” by Kate Millet

“The Feminine Mystique” by Betty Friedan 

“Feminism is for Everybody” by bell hooks

“The Dialectic of Sex: The Case for Feminist Revolution” by Shulamith Firestone

“Origin of the Family, Private Property, and the State” by Friedrich Engels

“The Second Sex” by Simone de Beauvoir

“Women, Race & Class” by Angela Davis

“Women as a Force in History: A Study in Traditions and Realities” by Mary Beard

“The Subjection of Women” by Harriet Taylor, published under the name of a friend, John Stuart Mill

“A Vindication of the Rights of Woman” by Mary Wollstonecraft

“S.C.U.M. Manifesto” by Valerie Solanas 

En Español

“Women and their Bodies” by Boston Women’s Health Collective

“Refusing to be a Man: Essays on Sex and Justice” by John Stoltenberg

“Liberalism and the Death of Feminism” by Catharine A. MacKinnon

“Sexology and Antifeminism” by Sheila Jeffreys

“Confronting the Liberal Lies About Prostitution” by Evelina Giobbe

“Abortion and Pornography: The Sexual Liberals’ “Gotcha” Against Women’s Equality” by Twiss Butler

“Sexual Liberalism and Survivors of Sexual Abuse” by Valerie Heller

“The Many Faces of Backlash” by Florence Rush

“The Sexual Liberals and the Attack on Feminism“ Edited by Dorchen Leidholdt and Janice G. Raymond

“Liberals, Libertarianism, and the Liberal Arts Establishment” by Susanne Kappeler

“Women and Civil Liberties” by Kathleen A. Lahey

“The New Reproductive Technologies” by Gena Corea

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Dedicated to the more than 10,000 women under the age of 40 who will be diagnosed this year alone, The SCAR Project is an exercise in awareness, hope, reflection and healing.

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RELEASE THE LESBIAN BEETLES POST

Oh man, buckle up cause this one is crazy. Male-killing bacteria, mom-eating daughters, deadbeat sons (that also eat their moms), genital destruction, kids that refuse to grow up until you roast them (literally), multi-cloning, and of course, lesbianism. All in one nearly-microscopic beetle.

Micromalthus debilis is possibly one of the strangest beetles out there (which is saying a lot). It probably started out as a normal-ish beetle millions of years ago, until it got infected with Wolbachia, a bacteria that lives in insects and gets passed down from mother to offspring. Wolbachia figured out that more daughters is a good thing, since female insects can pass on the bacteria whereas males are a dead end. So it alters the physiology of its host to produce more females, or it just straight up kills any males it ends up in. In a few insect species (such as Micromalthus), it went a bit really overboard. Imagine 200 females for every ONE male.

      The male-exclusionary bacteria burrowed inside an insect cell

When you have to compete with 200 other females for a chance to mate, it pays to be a bit... assertive. Multiple females beetles will aggressively try to mate with a single male, often resulting in the male getting his dick chopped off or destroyed. Needless to say, this reproductive strategy sucks. Evolution swooped in with a scorched-earth solution and said “you know what? Fuck mating. Lets just clone ourselves. Also fuck being an adult”. Fast forward to the present, and we have ourselves a really a bizarre life cycle. 

For those that don’t know, beetles have a life cycle a bit like a butterfly, with a larval stage (a beetle grub) that then pupates and becomes an adult (beetle). Micromalthus is entirely larval. There are NO ADULTS. The grubs live their whole lives as grubs, then clone themselves to make more grubs. Well, really its only the females that clone themselves. They either make multiple female copies of themselves, which eat the mother alive, or they make a single precious baby male. Which also eats the mother alive, but this time from the inside out. And for all intents and purposes the male is a total deadbeat, since he can’t make any clones and he can’t mate. 

                     Yeah, the moms really do have it that rough (x)

But researchers discovered that you can induce development of the larvae to adults by roasting them. Literally, they heat them up to 55° Celsius (which is 131° degrees in Freedom units). The vast majority of them die in the process, but for the ones that survive it seems that the vestigial genes used for metamorphosis into adults get re-activated. These “ghost adults” are totally sterile yet still mate with each other. It’s through this process that we discovered their mating strategy mentioned above. 

And it’s how we discovered the oldest case of lesbianism (sort of). Some of the ghost-adult females will eschew the free-for-all violent hetero mating and instead mate with each other (but without any genital destruction). Now here is the interesting part- Micomalthus has gone tens of millions, possibly over a hundred million years without mating. And since they stay in their larval form, that means that “sexual orientation” has been vestigial for millions of years. Any genes responsible for sexual behavior have lied dormant for far longer than anything resembling humans has been around. Those genes have been frozen in a dormant state, essentially fossilized. So when we observe the sexual antics of this tiny little beetle, we are looking at behavior that was possibly last expressed when dinosaurs still roamed the earth. And that includes lesbianism. 

Happy pride month, everyone! (and if you liked this post, check out the male homosexual blood parasites)

Me: has a test on Wednesday to study for, an essay to write, 2 discussion posts due, a community health project, and a group project on cancer that I need to start

Also me: well this seems like an optimal time to re-watch a few seasons of teen wolf.