It's Okay To Be Ugly Actually

it's okay to be ugly actually

remember when lee got to take off his training weights while fighting gaara??? because this is his reaction to gai sensei telling him he could take off his training weights while fighting gaara

One thing I’m going to make a habit of if I ever have kids is asking “do you want the fast answer or the full answer? »

Because as a child one of the most frustrating things was asking a question and

1) the adult brushed me off with the quickest answer possible because they either didn’t think I would understand the complete answer or because they were busy

Or

2) the adult immediately began to explain in-depth to me, or using a book or computer to show me something that I didn’t care about that much and just wanted a brief answer to

Some metaphors on why you shouldn't touch a person's mobility aid that may help explain to people who find "just don't do it, it's rude and dangerous" too difficult to grasp:

If you grabbed someone's handbag or backpack (or anything else they own and are using or carrying) they'd assume you were going to steal from them and automatically tense in expectation of violence. A mobility aid is an even more personal item than a handbag, and grabbing it is already a violent act of theft. Even if you don't intend violence, the feeling and result is similar to having a leg kicked out from under you, and you have literally taken it away without permission.

When it comes to wheelchairs the closest thing that an able-bodied person may have used is a bicycle. If you grab a person's bike when they are straddling it, even if the bike is stationary, this can be felt where the rider's body is in contact with the saddle or frame, and the addition of external forces can cause the bike to fall. Anyone who's ever dropped a bike on their foot, or been banged in the shin by a freewheeling pedal or chain knows how much this hurts! A wheelchair-user's body is in far more intimate contact with their chair, meaning they feel contact with their chair far more strongly, and even though the four wheels of a wheelchair make it less likely to fall, there are more moving parts close to the hands which are far more likely to cause serious damage than a dropped bike. Also, although a wheelchair's four wheels give it a greater degree of stability, the person seated on it generally has less stability, due to paralysis, muscle weakness, or some other condition, meaning that they may fall, even though their chair may not. (Another metaphor that may help with understanding this is remembering how it felt any time someone moved the dining chair you were sitting on, and how if the movement was not entirely smooth you probably wobbled a bit, and may even have jerked sideways or fallen if you were particularly unprepared and the movement rough.)

Grabbing a bike that's moving at speed is almost certain to cause it to wobble and probably fall, causing injuries. Even if the bike doesn't fall, having to fight these new forces can cause strain in the legs, a foot to slip causing bruises from the pedals, etc. Suddenly grabbing a wheelchair in motion, even on the handles, is a similarly jarringly dangerous experience. As already mentioned, a wheelchair user may fall instead of their 'bike', or their hands, which are propelling the bike in place of their feet, may be injured, their arms strained, etc.

Additionally, although injuries caused to a bike rider (or mugging victim) may cause them difficulties in travel, performing certain activities, etc, for a short while, injuries caused to a disabled person, particularly to their hands and arms, can seriously curtail all their activities, and if their condition involves problems with wound or bone healing, can actually further disable them permanently.

I painted my cane!!! I love it so much, now I feel like I’m taking a piece of art with me as well as a bomb ass mobility aid!

Design inspiration was taken from @that-eds-life :)

(Image description: first image is of myself, a 20 year old girl dressed in black with a red beanie- I’m holding my cane, painted to look like a sunset with yellow at the bottom and black at the top with little white stars. My girlfriend is next to me, a tall and beautiful girl wearing a gray sweater. Second and third pic are of the cane by itself, painted to look like a sunset. The cane is glossy and freshly painted.)

thank god for might gai!