When I Was Little, I Thought Love Was About Red Roses And Expensive Dinners. Truth Is, Love Is Giving

When I was little, I thought love was about red roses and expensive dinners. Truth is, love is giving him half your fries when he said he wasn’t hungry. It’s waking up at 4am to him snoring and refraining from shoving him off the bed. It’s talking in accents just for shits, and trying to embarrass one another in public. It’s going on adventures, and making fun of each other. It’s stupid fights and memorable make ups. Love isn’t always pretty and romantic. Love is just stumbling through life with your best friend.

one of my favourite love quotes - Unknown (via sunsetandthestars)

Anxiety attacks aren’t always hyperventilating and rocking back and forth

Anxiety attacks can take different forms, such as:

Unpredictable bouts of rage or irritability

Nit-pickiness (obsessive behavior, which may be a part of OCD), and even a hypersensitivity to disarray, chaos, or any sort of change

Fast-talking, stuttering, stumbling over words

Not talking at all

Sitting rigid, staring into space, almost seeming “zoned out”

Understanding the way our or other’s anxiety works can help to decrease the stigma and help to calm a person faster and get them out of that state. These are just a few, but it gives an idea of the range in which attacks can come.

Gann of Dreams and his beloved one.

Hi, I’m an asexual person, and I still experience attraction.

I find people attractive, I get crushes, I like the thought of physical affection and maybe kissing someone if I really like them. I’d like to share a bed with a significant other sometime, hold their hand and dance the most sexually provocative ballroom dances with them, but I also want to make stupid jokes and laugh and have pillow fights and watch Community with them too.

I’m ace, and I talk about sex all the time. I make jokes about it and point it out at every opportunity, because for me that helps normalize a concept that doesn’t otherwise apply to my life. I love innuendo and sex jokes and teasing people (all in good fun) about that sort of thing. It helps my brain accept sexual activity as something that is normal and a part of many people’s lives. It could be part of mine one day, but I don’t know yet.

I’m ace, and that means that I don’t experience sexual attraction. At least, I think I don’t. Orientation is fluid, and I may eventually discover that I’m somewhere else on the ace spectrum (gray-ace, demi, who knows), but for now I’m asexual. That doesn’t mean I’ll never experience arousal or that I will never have sex. My orientation refers to sexual attraction, and that’s it, and I think sometimes people forget that part of asexuality.

That’s not to say that I am a sexual person. I’m not. As I am now, I don’t think I will ever want to have sex of any sort, and I know it’s the same for a lot of ace-spectrum people. There’s nothing wrong with that.

But it is not the only ace experience out there.

And especially right now, with valentines day approaching, I want to remind you all that we’re all different. There are aces out there with thriving sex lives (whether with others or with themselves), there are aces out there who have never had sex and never want to, there are aces out there everywhere in between. There are alloromantic aces and aromantic aces. There are aces who will be going on ‘traditional’ dates, aces who go on non-traditional dates, aces who prefer not to go on dates at all and aces who wish they had someone to go on a date with. There will be aces who will kiss someone on the 14th, or next week, or next year, and there are aces who don’t want to be romantically intimate with anyone, and aces who will kiss someone in a completely platonic way.

There will be aces who send cards with sexual innuendos as a joke, there will be aces who send them completely seriously (because let me remind you that libido is entirely separate from orientation/attraction), and aces who won’t touch sex jokes with a nineteen-and-a-half-foot pole.

Everyone’s relationship with their orientation is unique and different. Ace-spectrum people are no exception.

what would you recommend to read if you want like a fucked up mystery book with twists? i love your book suggestions

oh man fucked up mysteries are my jam

basically every gillian flynn and courtney summers novel

the girl in 6E by alessandra torre

heartsick by chelsea caine

into the darkest corner by elizabeth haynes

the girl on the train by paula hawkins

horns by joe hill

the walls around us by nova ren suma

close my eyes by sophie mckenzie

the wasp factory by iain banks

invisible monsters + invisible monsters remix by chuck p

we need to talk about kevin by lionel shriver

the weight of blood by laura mchugh

the good girl by mary kubica

shes like…….. 30% fluff 70% boob

@miriaas (or @cassandrapntaghasts) drew poppy 4 my day of birth™ n she looks dank as hell thank u sm my dude 👌