Fat People Dont Have To Be Attractive Either To Deserve Basic Love And Respect

fat people don’t have to be attractive either to deserve basic love and respect

this is such a random thing to struggle with but i think having arfid makes it harder for me to write scenes with food whenever i write?? like what do normal people eat... how do normal people eat..... it makes me want to just gracefully dance around the topic every time

but what if we DIDN'T act like physical appearance is a fool proof way to judge someone's character and traits and personality and flaws and strengths and life experience and--

you know as disabled people it's actually pretty scary that you can't trust your doctors. like people who have medical trauma or distrust or dislike doctors and nurses aren't doing it for fun. we need these guys to help with our lives. we need healthcare to stay alive or to stop from getting worse, or to function at all. but often when you're dismissed and not communicated with you're left floundering and often have to make decisions yourself without that specialist knowledge. sometimes doctors know less than you about your disability anyway. sometimes they're wrong and give you advice that's detrimental to what you need or want, and you kinda have to just trust that the next guy is also not wrong. i think we're pretty lucky if we can find other people with our condition who are well researched in it. but i still think that uncertainty is something that disabled people shouldn't have to navigate

Funniest thing about lifelong ARFID is having no idea how foods are eaten or prepared. Today I learned people don't just bite into tomatoes like they do with apples for some reason

"Try eating things, even if you don't like them" is probably the most useless advice for ARFID. I can not eat foods I do not like because I will throw them up; that's not an assumption or a fear or a phobia, it's an observation from the multiple times I have literally done so.