Robert Eads Was A Transgender Man Who Transitioned Later In Life And As Such It Was Deemed Inadvisable

Robert Eads was a transgender man who transitioned later in life and as such it was deemed inadvisable for him to seek sex reassignment surgery. He was diagnosed with ovarian cancer in 1996 but was refused treatment by more than a dozen doctors, some for personal reasons and others on the grounds that taking him on as a patient might harm their practice. When he finally found a doctor to treat him in 1997, the cancer had already metastasized to other parts of his body, rendering any further treatments futile. He passed away in 1999. His life and death was the subject of the award-winning documentary Southern Comfort (2001).

As i’m sure many of you have heard, the Trump administration just passed a ruling that would remove LGBT+ anti-discrimination protections in health care and health insurance. I immediately thought of this man’s story when I heard about the ruling. Stories like this are the reason why those protections are necessary.

It’s easy to feel hopeless with all the bad news our community has been bombarded with recently. But we have to keep fighting, and one way we can fight is through legal means.

Here are some organizations who have announced plans to take action in court. If you can donate to any of them, please do!

LAMBDA Legal: one of the first to announce they would take legal action against the ruling, LAMBDA Legal is the oldest and largest national legal organization advocating for LGBTQ+ people and people with HIV.

support.lambdalegal.org

Lambda Legal

We make the case for equality in the nation s courts and in the court of public opinion. The work we do has impact on the way all of us li

Transgender Law Center: the largest American transgender-led civil rights organization in the United States. The stated mission of TLC is to connect transgender people and their families to technically sound and culturally competent legal services, increase acceptance and enforcement of laws and policies that support transgender communities, and work to change laws and systems that fail to incorporate the needs and experiences of transgender people.

Transgender Law Center

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Donate - Transgender Law Center

Transgender Legal Defense and Education Fund: Transgender Legal Defense & Education Fund is committed to ending discrimination based upon gender identity and expression and to achieving equality for transgender people through public education, test-case litigation, direct legal services, and public policy efforts.

Transgender Legal Defense and Education Fund Inc.

Give today to protect trans rights

Now in our sixteenth year of fighting for trans rights and in the midst of a political environment that has increased the need for transgend

American Civil Liberties Union: a nonprofit organization founded in 1920 “to defend and preserve the individual rights and liberties guaranteed to every person in this country by the Constitution and laws of the United States”

action.aclu.org

Donate to the ACLU

Fight back against bigotry, injustice and inequality. Make your donation to the ACLU today.

Please help me deal with my abusive parents!

What’s the situation?

It’s Christmas as I write this, and my siblings have just left to go back home. Which means that my parents are going to be focused on me again, which is not really a great situation! My paycheck is going to be nice and big because of the glut of hours I worked over the past few weeks for the Holiday Season, but despite my hard work I won’t get to touch any of it. I have no way to save up because my parents take my paychecks and just deposit them. I get no allowance, am not allowed to keep parts of my paycheck, my parents are hardly willing to give me money for coffee while I’m at work half of the time, and if I work late they often won’t give me money to actually get dinner, just make me eat before I leave (which is a real pain if I work, say, 3-11pm).

Why are you asking now, though? 

I asked my friends to send some money out of my PayPal Pool to my friend who’s been getting it for me in part because him having it earlier would mean that he could do more to help his son for Christmas. I was happy to help, but also did it with the understanding that I would be able to count on the gift of a family friend, who gives my siblings and I a $100 bill in a card each year for Christmas.

So, this text was sent to me as I was going to sleep, my mom told me that I would have to give her my money that I got as a gift and that it would be hers to dole out to me as she sees fit. This is ostensibly so I can’t use it in ways that she wouldn’t like, but in effect the chance of this working out in any way favorably for me are very low. 

When it comes down to it, I don’t really trust my parents. The way they take my paychecks means that they have complete control over just about everything financial in my life, and that is incredibly isolating. So, having $100 to do what I want with would be welcome, would be a very nice gift, but having to debase myself to my parents for it sounds pretty awful.

My parents deadname me on a literally constant basis (and generally refuse to acknowledge my transness even if they’ll acknowledge that i’m neither cis nor straight), are abusive, and very much make it so that living at home is hostile, miserable, makes me more depressed than should be possible. My depression is already treatment-resistant, but not only have they made living at home so bad that attempts at getting it treated have failed, they have gone on to blame me for that.

I can’t receive PayPal donations normally, because PayPal is unusable thanks to my parents confiscating my ID (which makes my paychecks uncashable!) and their control over my debit card (which i dont even have possession of!) and their general suspicion of me. So, where can you donate?

RIGHT HERE!

As it stands, my parents control all my money, the food I eat, where I go, and I essentially have no way of changing anything without money, whether it is trying to better my life or just have one that feels worth living.

This is the best place to donate to me because I can actually get this money, even in a roundabout fashion. I am going to try to do what I can to get out of this situation, but for now being able to access money on occasion is helpful to keeping me from doing anything drastic, which I am often tempted to do. it’s an awful situation but I’m trying to get through it, and I can hopefully use your help to get through it. Thank you!

Can you please reblog if your blog is a safe place for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, asexual, aromantic, pansexual, non binary, demisexual or any other kind of queer or questioning people? Because mine is.

Nobody:...

Preschoolers:

9 / 25 / 20 um hiii idk how to start this but my name is roxanne & im a 16 y / o lesbian . im living with my mom and her power has been out for about 2 weeks and we have nowhere else to go because shes recently lost her car keys , which means we cant go out & get food or anything . my cat is also running out of food . the electricity bill is about $600 and she doesnt know when shell be able to pay it , it may be months because she doesnt have a job bc of her disabilities . i work at a seasonal halloween store but i dont get paid nearly enough to help her . if u could donate id appreciate it a lot

cashapp : $roxanne146

venmo : @roxanne146

im an artist btw ... if u want me to i can draw u something please im desperate my art blog is @todomatsu-matsuno

Hey I’m Weather, I’m a trans woman in my 20s, and I’m going to be houseless at the end of April. Which is not as bad as it sounds - I’ve lived out of my car before, and I drive doordash so I can still work while doing that. But I am hoping not to have to do it for long (it’s harder post-covid) and I do need to find somewhere to live before it gets colder again.

I’m looking for housing which is:

In the North Carolina Triangle area (Raleigh, Durham, Cary, or Chapel Hill)

Less than $450 dollars a month in rent and utilities

If you have a space for me or know someone who does, please message me on tumblr or discord (Weather#6893). If not, please reblog this post (and please reblog again if you haven’t seen it for a while - I expect this search to take time. I’ll edit this and mention in a reblog when I do find something.)

More details on my situation and on what I’m looking for in the tags on this post. While I’m not in urgent need of monetary help, I’m also not in a position to turn down anyone inclined to offer it so here are paypal and venmo links.