Multiple Identities Being A Symptom Of DID Doesnt Mean You Need DID To Have Multiple Identities

multiple identities being a symptom of DID doesn’t mean you need DID to have multiple identities

Hi, DID system who switches between parts and people ways of viewing our system (it’s complicated but yes we do understand your point of view). Yeah, that’s fair and your feelings on this make sense. I get it, and honestly I’m glad you don’t need to do this.

You are right, suppressing parts is not helpful and actually does invalidate them, correct. The thing is, sometimes we have no choice. We have a lot of compassion, at least a lot of us in our system do, to these alters. We know why they act the way they do, and that’s always the first thing we try to understand when we find a part who’s engaging in bad behavior. It helps us shrug off their words, and engage with them without hostility.

The problem is when that part has a lot of power / disruptive ability and also will not / cannot change & they will cause severe external problems. We have had to isolate alters for long periods of time, and since system discovery and therapy, we’ve slowly been uncovering these types of parts, and we’ve had to isolate them on multiple occasions due to trauma reenactment internally. The period where these alters had an increasing amount of access was the worst for our mental health. For us, this is taking responsibility for our alters by ensuring they don’t cause problems externally, our main concern. Every alter we’ve ever isolated / locked up has been a danger to our external life.

When we isolate these alters, and we have the ability to, we will force them to front when it’s safe and help pull them out of whatever time period they think they are. We will talk with them and validate their feelings, and try to figure out a compromise. Usually this ends well. If we can’t do it, then we talk about it in therapy, and if they don’t consent we watch them very carefully while keeping them in isolation. We are very lucky to be able to do so, and so sometimes suppression is again the best solution for other systems. Sometimes it’s dangerous to have certain parts around, depending on the system. Yes they exist for a reason, but that does not mean that any harm they cause should still occur, and safety for the system is more important, unfortunately.

Sometimes this is necessary for a system. It’s not ideal, no, but it’s necessary.

Also, as a note, we have a lot of internal control in our system which is why this is even possible. We have a power hierarchy and the higher ups can do a lot depending on how well the brain works with them. This includes inducing dormancy, controlling fronting, and increasing / decreasing amnesia barriers to an extent. They are like a government here.

I switched in just now— I’m an alter in our system who was mismanaged and locked up in a horrific way that traumatized me internally and later was slowly rehabilitated properly as we learned. I do agree with this message but I do urge people who do this to try to not mismanage your alters and to treat them with respect regardless.Thanks. — O

maybe it is because i view myself and my system as “parts of a whole” but i’ve never understood the idea of locking away alters who are doing bad actions.

i have at least one part whose whole identity at this moment in time is parroting abusive rhetoric from my parents. they can be cruel and mean and sometimes they go as far as to purposefully trigger us in hopes that we spiral and crash. but i know that this part is 1. a part of me as a whole and 2. a part that was created for a reason.

suppressing a part of myself wont help this part, one that is clearly hurting and still living in trauma times. if i lock this part away im just telling them that what they feel doesnt matter and that i dont care about their attempts to help. my brain couldnt contend with the things my parents said and did to me, so it made a part of me that believed them and told the rest of me the same things. if i believed what my parents said, it didnt hurt as much when they said it.

this part of me lives in trauma time still. they think that this belief is still necessary to keep me safe, as evident by them getting louder when my anxiety is already bad. approaching them with compassion and understanding has helped 1000x more than any attempts i did at suppressing them.

im not saying its easy, and im not saying theyre completely on board with therapy and change. but this part doesnt yell abuse at me anymore. this part isnt as cruel.

I read a small, not very popular critique on Quareia and honestly, as someone who has spent years kind of angling to work with the course but unable due to unresolved mental health issues that came up while attempting to even do the thing in the first place, I realized that I have a very intense outlook on it. I don’t think I’ve ever truly questioned it. I have asked tarot questions regarding Quareia and now I’m reconsidering.

Like, yes my energy sensing abilities became intensely better after Quareia, and that kind of is what sold me there.

I guess I may as well focus on learning magic in other areas. I feel a calling towards death work, always have, I’ve just had a huge fear of death. I wonder if I can work with that, since recently we’ve been slowly coming to grips with it (or maybe that’s just the dissociation).

I don’t know. I do know I feel called to do Quareia, I just … wonder, a little.

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