This!! Work Becomes Easier When You Suddenly Switch In And Your Coworker Is Talking To You And You Have

This!! Work becomes easier when you suddenly switch in and your coworker is talking to you and you have someone there, whispering in your ear what to say so you just repeat it and it goes fine and then once that's over you get an update on what's going on. Without that I'd be screwed.

Like sure my alter didn't sleep well last night or our anxiety got horrific but that's okay, we're still here and we can work on things and handle things. Everyone can be helpful and annoying at the same time.

The problems are the amnesia. The problems are the trauma responses.

Other people have this idea that alters are the worst part of DID.

And yeah, some of our alters are scary. They hold bad memories, they have bad coping mechanisms, it wouldn’t be exactly safe for us to let them front unsupervised. But why do they act like that in the first place? Usually because they’re scared, stuck in flashbacks, panic attacks, dissociation, unable to get out of the moments that hurt them so badly.

And the rest of us? The alters that can be in front and are safe? They can only do it because we have other alters constantly providing positive feedback, encouraging us, reassuring us, grounding us. Just because we shut down instead of act out when we experience the other symptoms doesn’t make it any less terrifying.

Can you imagine eating dinner and suddenly you’re 6 years old again and your mum is yelling and it’s Christmas Eve and it’s all your fault that Christmas is about to be cancelled because you made a mistake. And she’s so loud and so serious and then you’re 9 and you shut the door because your parents are yelling at each other again and your mum marches over and throws the door open, and tells you to stop being so sensitive because ‘you do not live in a broken home and I won’t have you acting like it’.

And you switch and you’re confused and dazed because that was so sudden, and what was just happening, but no, that happened days ago, you’re in different clothes, it’s dark outside now, wasn’t it morning last time you were here? How long has it been? Hours? Days? Weeks? Years? And the voices in your head are muffled but loud and they’re all talking over each other trying to figure out how to look after the one who’s having the flashbacks and how to hell you, who’s just switched in, and you still have to keep up the conversation at the dinner table.

Basically, alters are the least of our worries. They’re actually, most of the time, pretty helpful to have around. Even if they get annoying.

my biggest hot take is that 90% of people who say “let systems be crimge”/“let systems be happy” arent being genuine.

You guys cant handle systems with complex queer identities. You guys cant handle systems of color. You guys cant handle systems whos alters have non-white or “weird” names (namefluid, noun names, etc). You guys cant handle systems who dont call themselves plurals/systems/collectives and just call themselves disordered. You guys cant handle systems who have “ugly” disorder symptoms (screaming at little things, hitting walls, having a fear of being outside, etc). You guys cant handle systems who are religious and whos religion and plurality conflict a lot. You guys cant even handle systems where some are age regressors and some arent

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It’s hilarious just how many littles have stuck around from peak childhood era so occasional they just say a random meme.

Someone just started singing ‘it’s raining tacos’

Holy shit guys TikTok spoiled me for the newest chapter of Bungo Stray Dogs AND NOW MY DAY IS RUINED COME ON ASAGIRI LEAVE THIS FANDOM ALONE.

Now I actually need to catch up on the manga (guys I'm scared)

Unconditional love isn't a free pass to hurt me.