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Little old Italian lady: Do you have zucchini?
Me: Yes, right here.
Lady: Is how much?
Me: $2.99 a pound.
Lady: It's usually $1.49.
Me: Yes, in the summer.
Lady, pauses, then grabs two: I put it in a soup.
Me: Oh nice, what kind are you making?
Lady: You will not fantasize about my soup.
And then she walked away. "You will not fantasize about my soup" will be in my head forever. I love you, little old Italian lady.
One thing I need to make very clear is that just because you don't have an official diagnosis for something, that doesn't mean you don't have it. Self-Diagnosis has itself a bad rep (likely due to people faking disorders nowadays), but it can be helpful to those who might not have the money to get an actual diagnosis. I'm so sick of people saying that Self-Diagnosing is bad, because often times it is super important, and can help someone understand what's going on with them. Of course, make sure to do lots of research to make sure your self-diagnosis is actually accurate, but I feel like this isn't said enough.
Self-Diagnosis is good, faking disorders is bad.
becoming an adult cheat sheet!
learn to coupon
what to do when you can’t afford therapy
cleaning your bathroom
what to do when you can’t pay your bills
stress management
quick fix meals
find out if you’re paying too much for your cell phone bill
resume workshop
organize your closet
how to take care of yourself when you’re sick
what you should bring to a doctor’s appointment
what’s a mortgage?
how to pick a health insurance plan
hotlines list
your first gynecology appointment
what to do if the cops pull you over
things to have in your car in case of emergency
my moving out masterpost
how to make friends as an adult (video)
how to do taxes (video)
recommended reads for surviving adulthood (video)
change a flat tire (video)
how to do laundry (video)
opening a bank account (video)
laundry cheat sheet
recipes masterpost
tricks to help you sleep more
what the fuck should you make for dinner?
where should you go for drinks?
alcohol: know your limits
easy makeup tips
find seat maps for your flight
self-defense tips
prevent hangovers
workout masterpost
how to write a check
career builder
browse careers
birth control information
financial management software & app (free)
my mental health masterpost
my college applications masterpost
how to jumpstart a car
sex ed masterpost
I am a chronic turn signaller. People will be like “there’s no cars around.” Wrong, I’m
1. letting pedestrians know.
2. I’m doing this in case I missed a car or person somewhere, or
2b. I’m gonna be stuck at this intersection til a car or person shows up
3. It makes it a habit
I’m studying gender dysphoria and transgender identities. Please fill out this survey:
It is about 80 questions long and deals with sensitive content. For individuals 13 and older who experience gender dysphoria. Answers are anonymous, but you will need to sign in with your email in order to save your responses. 1 response per person. You will be able to see summary charts. Questions are scrambled.
Skip Google for Research
As Google has worked to overtake the internet, its search algorithm has not just gotten worse. It has been designed to prioritize advertisers and popular pages often times excluding pages and content that better matches your search terms
As a writer in need of information for my stories, I find this unacceptable. As a proponent of availability of information so the populace can actually educate itself, it is unforgivable.
Below is a concise list of useful research sites compiled by Edward Clark over on Facebook. I was familiar with some, but not all of these.
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Google is so powerful that it “hides” other search systems from us. We just don’t know the existence of most of them. Meanwhile, there are still a huge number of excellent searchers in the world who specialize in books, science, other smart information. Keep a list of sites you never heard of.
www.refseek.com - Academic Resource Search. More than a billion sources: encyclopedia, monographies, magazines.
www.worldcat.org - a search for the contents of 20 thousand worldwide libraries. Find out where lies the nearest rare book you need.
https://link.springer.com - access to more than 10 million scientific documents: books, articles, research protocols.
www.bioline.org.br is a library of scientific bioscience journals published in developing countries.
http://repec.org - volunteers from 102 countries have collected almost 4 million publications on economics and related science.
www.science.gov is an American state search engine on 2200+ scientific sites. More than 200 million articles are indexed.
www.pdfdrive.com is the largest website for free download of books in PDF format. Claiming over 225 million names.
www.base-search.net is one of the most powerful researches on academic studies texts. More than 100 million scientific documents, 70% of them are free
S.B. Ley – 'Americana as Drag'
[ID: A free form poem, reading "Patriotism was never quite our thing in this age, but it’s something different from that when you’re peeling off the asphalt, peeling it back layer by layer; until it’s just miles of warm highway winds against your skin, more so than habitable land. You haven’t gone to church since you were a kid but you admit you still think about praying sometimes, when we pass under the house-sized crosses that’ve made their homes on lonely hills. Flannel bundles around your shoulders and I offer to split a six-pack with someone I love. It’s uncomfortably warm. A few too many people around us have guns,
and the land surrounding you from coast to coast is so massive, seismic, cosmic, when you’re right in the center of it you feel as if it could swallow you whole if you don’t keep on your toes. And you know there’s eons worth of history directly beneath them that you’ll never learn, but you can’t think about that too long, cause that’ll swallow you up too. You’re only a visitor, and it won’t let you forget. So you ignore it and pull into the nearest chain diner and ‘cheers,’ you grin, ‘let’s split a breakfast plate’." End ID]
Wara by Krzysztof Powałka † I’m Your Man by Mitski † The Aggression Sessions by Eliran Kantor
yeah, love hurts.
susan sontag || unknown poem || haruki murakami, sputnik sweetheart || 1927 children's book, jellyfish || vincent van gogh || marina ivanova tsvetaeva, poem of the end || pablo neruda, 20 love sonnets and a song of despair || caitlin conlon, consider the hairpin turn || charles bukowski || frida kahlo
I felt like crying but nothing came out. it was just a sort of sad sickness, sick sad, when you can't feel any worse. I think you know it. I think everybody knows it now and then. but I think I have known it pretty often, too often.
(Charles Bukowski)
as a child i suppose i was not quite normal. my happiest times were when i was left alone in the house on a saturday.
(Charles Bukowski)
Being an autistic person at school:
comes with a lot of stress, mainly because it involves masking, which is a coping mechanism where I mask my autistic traits and try to behave more neurotypical. It’s very draining and requires a lot of energy, and it’s still not enough.
comes with w lot of stress because of sensory overload, e.g bright lights, increased sensitivity to certain sounds, crowded spaces, loud noise, bad smells and textures. Each of these factors make my daily life harder, I feel irritated, tired and overwhelmed/overstimulated.
comes with a lot of anxiety, because I have trouble communicating, I take things literally sometimes, I find it hard to know what someone’s tone of voice means, or their expression. It makes me overthink and overanalyze details in order to come up with an appropriate response.
comes with more increased pain, my period cramps, headaches, pain in general are stronger, which often leads me to a sensory overload and is invading my daily life and makes me unable to to concentrate on basic tasks. It also makes me unable to participate in PE classes sometimes.
comes with a lot of emotional dysregulation, since my body can’t regulate my emotions the way the neurotypical one does, it’s harder to do so. This makes it harder to write tests, complete excersises in class. It can take a toll on my mental health and grades.
an autism self-diagnosis masterpost
Here is an attempt at a great big list of self-diagnosis resources for people who think they might be autistic and want to know more. There are probably others, but hopefully this’ll be helpful to someone.
Wherever possible, I have tried to link to works by autistic people. This is because autistic people know how autism works much better than any allistic person can. So, if you’re wondering why so much of the list is blog posts instead of medical articles, that’s why. I do have some medical articles, which you can use at your discretion.
EDIT 07/2020: this post is now 6 years old, and some of the old links were out of date. I’ve removed broken ones, but I’ve not replaced them with anything, and more links may break in the future, so just be aware of that when clicking through.
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Contrary to popular belief, “hating praise” is not just a PDA thing. There are many reasons it could not sit right with someone.
It’s also assumed that people like this just hate all praise, but that’s not true either. What we hate is feeling manipulated, or lied to, or monitored, etc.
I mean, do you realize how much adults are encouraged to use praise to manipulate kids and people in care?? We’re supposed to use it to get more of the behaviors we like, and to promote a “growth mindset,” and to encourage them to stick with activities we think are good for them, and so on and so on.
That’s so much trying to get people to do what we want them to do! Is it really any wonder that praise could end up feeling disingenuous and manipulative after a while? How often are we just genuinely appreciating something they’ve done or who they are as a person, and how are they to know the difference?
If you have someone in your life who reacts badly when you praise them, maybe take a look at your motivations or the way you’re doing it instead of assuming they are the one with the problem. Maybe there’s something like low self esteem or rejection sensitivity skewing their perception, or maybe their perception is just fine and they’re picking up on your ulterior motives (and they don’t appreciate it!).
And please know that you don’t have to withdraw all praise. Everyone wants to feel like they’re good at *something* and that people like what they do. Just wait until it’s wanted, and make sure it’s genuine, with no expectations attached.
Book covers designed by Viktor Zamirailo (1920s)
Coming to terms with the idea of maybe it's going to be harder to be able to live in the same way other people do has been really hard. It means putting aside my own ideas about life and jobs and careers. While everyone else gets better stats, even at a shitty job. All I can do is sit at home and play games all day or sleep. All while things pile up around me literally.
Then my friend said it doesn't matter if I never work, if all I do is play games. Their sibling, who is also my friend, also told me that not everyone has to be doing something productive all the time or even at all. It's okay to be disabled. They're both hardworking people who earn their money. So it was a big deal they said this. That people's assumptions about me and others like me, are just wrong.
This allowed me to go down a healing process where I was able to re-evaluate my life. To determine what I'm capable of, but not by other peoples standards, by what I know myself to be capable of. Knowing that is the first step to anything. Even if it means I may never work at all. Being at peace with that and okay with that is a very big step forward.
It's okay to have goals, but sometimes we have to re-evaluate how those goals match up with our own capabilities. I'm not bad or gross or lazy because I don't work, or have trouble cleaning myself or my living space. I didn't just decide not to do those things. I have a hard time with them because of my condition. Forcing myself to live up to standards that will physically hurt me will only lead to more problems.
It sounds like you are approaching my special interest / "system that I can't quite get perfect but if I could it'd be over for everyone": the zettelkasten
i have done some reading about it! but it sounds difficult and im not 100% sure i could pull it off lol
“You are marvelous. The gods wait to delight in you.” —Charles Bukowski
Printable Gloomies sticker is by @petite-gloom .
I have to believe in myself, I have to believe in the person I want to become. It is the only way to make it there.
teaching yourself how to deal with mildly annoying inconveniences is imo an essential part of treating the disabled people around you with compassion and no i'm not kidding
having fun
Sylvia Plath, from a letter to Aurelia Plath wr. c. December 1960