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as a mlm, how and why is nsfw art/fics sexualising and fetishising you? because i agree its a discussion to be had, but i think right now its too broad of a statement and i dont really understand it. im wlw, and i personally dont feel like wlw fics/art i see (that are made by non wlw) are fetishising me, so id like to hear your perspective on what makes it not okay? please educate me so i can be more informed

hi!! (firstly thanks for being so nice if i seem snappy or whatever i’m super tired and kind of annoyed and stuff so i apologise in advance)

just to get stuff out of the way - as a singular bisexual guy i obviously can’t speak for the mlm community as a whole, also none of this is really about dnp they’re just the example right now considering this is their fandom.

personally, if someone who isn’t mlm makes some nsfw gay art/fic, i don’t really mind. it’s when specific people are constantly talking about mlm sex lives (in this case dnps) and are only making nsfw art/fics.

i think at this point i’m less annoyed at the mlm nsfw stuff just because i don’t want to be spoken over by people it really doesn’t concern. i’m just really frustrated by the female/fem-aligned nbs of the fandom speaking over mlm voices and calling it “unnecessary drama” because we have every right to be talking about and calling some people out on this kind of stuff.

when something is making you uncomfortable and you speak out about it, one of the most upsttting things is having countless amounts of people it shouldn’t even apply to say that you’re overreacting, because it makes you feel like shit and stops us from speaking up. i’ve already deleted all my tweets about this just from stress over what i’ve seen people say and it sucks.

i’d probably be better at articulating my thoughts when it isn’t 2am so i’m sorry if this isn’t readable but i tried :/