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I’m a minor, and I have an f/o who is a minor, but what will I do when I become a legal adult and, in canon, their still a minor? Sorry if this is a weird ask
(You don’t have to feel bad for sending a “weird” ask! It’s a genuine question, you and the people who might be reading this are free to ask as many as you want.)
This is a question I’ve had to face various times before, actually. In all honesty, I’m also a minor (under 16), so I just wanna clarify that I don’t have any experience or solid answers for you, sorry. However, this is what I do know:
“Adulting” isn’t an overnight thing. It depends on the age of your F/O, but it’s pretty understandable to have someone who has very recently turned 18 still having feelings for a character that is 16 or 17, y’know? (As the age gap grows, however, it gets problematic. You’ve probably already witnessed the discourse yourself.)
I know this seems like the unfavorable option, but keep in mind that your opinion could change. Maybe you’ll love them differently once you're older and become more aware of the age difference (again, depending on your F/O’s age) or your feelings will naturally fade.
Once you’re older, you could also try to move this F/O into another position that isn’t romantic, such as seeing them in a more platonic light. Remember that friendships and (found) familial ties can be just as important as the romantic ones; you wouldn’t be changing the fact that you love this character, you’d just be changing how.
In my experience (especially if your coming-of-age is gonna be in over a year from now), I tried to think about it as little as possible. In the end, self-shipping shouldn’t be anxiety-inducing, but a part of your life that makes you happy. Things are going to be changing, and it’s alright to relax and let the current take you where it wants to go sometimes, as long as you’re not hurting anybody or yourself.
Yup, that’s my answer… sorry if it was less than you were expecting. Anyone who sees this and wants to reply with their own opinions/advice is free to do so!
Thank you for all of the imagines and stuff you write <3
It’s a pleasure, well and truly! Tysm for reading!
i love how you write. it's saving my life today.
Wow… I wish there was some more eloquent way to verbalise that, but — firstly — I was not expecting that when going into my inbox. I hope you can enjoy more of my writing, you made my author soul happy for the day.
Now, even if I’m not sure if you meant the “saving your life” thing literally or metaphorically, I feel the need to thank you… not just for reading my stuff and sending this, but to thank you for all that you do. Take it from someone that (if you meant it on the more literal side) has believed the Voices more than a few times, existing is hard.
I don’t mean this as a therapist, authority figure, or some other “superior”, but as a fellow tired internet lurker: thank you. Thank you for all that you do, for each breath you take that others take for granted, for surviving when it feels impossible, for existing.
Maybe I’m just an optimist, but we’re not alone. Your F/O would never want you to believe what those louder thoughts claim. You deserve so much more than what you’re feeling right now, Anon. I can’t promise a way out, but I can hope that maybe through my writing, I might help you have some semblance of joy to make life a bit more worth it?
Gosh your imagines are so clever tho
Like, having my insecurities get pwned like that? Touché mf
Oh, yes. It’s the perks of having all mental issues imaginable… well that and being a donut-hungry raccoon typing away at a keyboard, but humans are confusing little creatures so I doubt you’d understand that second part.
Anyways, checkmate, biatch
even if I’m terrible at socialising, these anons (+ the others I’ve replied to in the past) deserve to know that I really appreciate their praise, their words, their reminders that whatever I’m doing is impactful in every way I hoped it’d be