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I’m a minor, and I have an f/o who is a minor, but what will I do when I become a legal adult and, in canon, their still a minor? Sorry if this is a weird ask

(You don’t have to feel bad for sending a “weird” ask! It’s a genuine question, you and the people who might be reading this are free to ask as many as you want.)

This is a question I’ve had to face various times before, actually. In all honesty, I’m also a minor (under 16), so I just wanna clarify that I don’t have any experience or solid answers for you, sorry. However, this is what I do know:

“Adulting” isn’t an overnight thing. It depends on the age of your F/O, but it’s pretty understandable to have someone who has very recently turned 18 still having feelings for a character that is 16 or 17, y’know? (As the age gap grows, however, it gets problematic. You’ve probably already witnessed the discourse yourself.)

I know this seems like the unfavorable option, but keep in mind that your opinion could change. Maybe you’ll love them differently once you're older and become more aware of the age difference (again, depending on your F/O’s age) or your feelings will naturally fade.

Once you’re older, you could also try to move this F/O into another position that isn’t romantic, such as seeing them in a more platonic light. Remember that friendships and (found) familial ties can be just as important as the romantic ones; you wouldn’t be changing the fact that you love this character, you’d just be changing how.

In my experience (especially if your coming-of-age is gonna be in over a year from now), I tried to think about it as little as possible. In the end, self-shipping shouldn’t be anxiety-inducing, but a part of your life that makes you happy. Things are going to be changing, and it’s alright to relax and let the current take you where it wants to go sometimes, as long as you’re not hurting anybody or yourself.

Yup, that’s my answer… sorry if it was less than you were expecting. Anyone who sees this and wants to reply with their own opinions/advice is free to do so!