Gender Roles In Knk Spaces - Tumblr Posts

I don't really get derogatory sissification.

Don't get me wrong. I understand degradation and sissification both as separate things and that which (like most kinks) may overlap during a scene.

But I think there's a particular overlap which to me reads too much like when "girl" is used as a straight up insult (which can be part of feminization "punishment" but never feels nice at all to me). This is not the instances where someone might want to be "forced" to enter an extremely feminized space, or when someone wants to work with shame or complex feelings around gender roles in a kink space.

It's the automatically considering anything feminine to be lower than, unworthy, or inherently derogatory that is just yet another thing which reminds me that kink spaces aren't free of the language or socialization of the gender binary.

So when I say "I don't get it" it's really me saying I get very careful around any crossover or when interacting with these kink spaces, but also saying I don't understand why someone would bring an outside locus of shame and assigned gender roles right back into a space meant to help people unravel that, with the specific result of perpetuating the harm it could and does do.