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I do think one important piece to add back to OP's post is - Pay attention to nuance *in real life.* Someone liking fiction that has zero nuance doesn't mean that they ascribe zero nuance to their real lives any more than people liking fictional villains makes them villains in their real lives. Sometimes people get exhausted of the gray spaces they inhabit every day in the real world with real people, and fiction is their pleasant escape from that reality for a while. A way to de-stress that harms zero real people. And this, too, is as valid as any other story preference.
Nuance is far more important as a tool for remembering the equal humanity of someone who loves the kinds of stories you hate, then it is as a tool for writing The Best Kind Of Literature.
(Though it can, of course, make for some damn good literature, too!)
90% of arguments about media could just be solved by saying “different people like different things in their stories” and leaving it at that