Only Banning Non Consensual Sexual Activities - Tumblr Posts

Unpopular opinion and I deliberately kept the user's name out of this but tags like this are 100% missing the point.

Look. I also don't like ddlg. I don't like ageplay. I don't like raceplay. I don't like misgendering or conversion or forced-gendering. I don't like corrective rape and I don't like impact play and I don't like slaves. They're weird and fucked up to me and it skeevs me out knowing people willingly engage in that.

HOWEVER. The moment we start saying that any outsite entity- governments, communities, ANY outside entity- is allowed to have access to our private sex lives and make a moral judgement call is also the moment we allow anti-sodomy laws to come back. Relationships and intimacy between consenting, willing, active adult participants are not something we can allow anyone to go over with a fine-tooth comb and decide whether it's moral or right for them to be doing this.

My private life is not open for anyone to decide whether it's Good And Moral or Bad And Evil. The intimacy I share with an adult partner belongs to that partner alone, and no one else is invited to peep into my bedroom to make sure I'm only having Good And Moral sex. It doesn't matter what type of sex I'm having. I'm having it with someone who is a fully capable adult who is saying they want it. That's the only thing that matters.

Being okay with outlawing types of sex *you personally* dislike opens the door for others to also outlaw the sex *they personally* dislike. And at some point, we wind up back here, at anti-sodomy laws that catch literally everything that isn't specifically vanilla PIV missionary covers on lights off within marriage for making children. Because you set the precedent that said we're allowed to outlaw sex if it's icky enough.