Prioritising Yourself AND Someone Else?? Its Not Mutually Exclusive - Tumblr Posts

vknq

1 year ago

there’s obviously a lot of nuance to to this conversation, but I feel like the way that people nowadays talk about friendships is so cold and devoid of love or empathy. like you aren’t allowed to complain or be sad, ur burdening ur friends with ur problems, helping someone through a hard time is ‘emotional labour’ and ‘you don’t owe anyone anything’ and I’m just thinking what does friendship even mean to you then? like honestly? people say ‘I’m not your therapist’ as if therapy is the answer to everything. what a sad world where a paid clinician is the only person you’re allowed to be emotionally vulnerable with. this ultra individualistic mindset leads to everyone feeling alone and isolated and we’ve lost all concept of community and support systems

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this!!!! is literally what i’ve been telling people all these years i’m a very devoted friend and will consistently make small sacrifices to be a good friend for my friends cause it’s an equal give and take i sacrifice a little for them and they sacrifice a little for me and if they don’t? then it’s out of balance and i stop giving but this whole thing like YOUR OWN COMFORT ABOVE ALL ELSE and shit like DO WHATS BEST FOR YOU ALWAYS it kills the relationships you have with others cause you’re just 2 people refusing to be selfless with one another no ofc don’t throw yourself away for someone else like don’t lose yourself you should always be taking care of yourself but you can absolutely take care of yourself and someone else simultaneously prioritising yourself AND someone else?? it’s not mutually exclusive we have so much love and kindness inside ourselves like there’s enough for both ourselves AND other people meaningful and healthy relationships are balanced ok it’s a give and take and you can’t get long lasting bonds with people if you refuse to self sacrifice every now and then that’s it thank you for coming to my tedtalk 🤘

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