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hey guys... please dont tag any pregnancy art or stories as tokophobic or tokophobia. those tags are specifically for people to speak about their fear of pregnancy and childbirth so your posts are very traumatizing for us to see in our space for the exact opposite kinda things. tags like 'tw tokophobia' and 'tw tokophobic' are fine bc those are for content (and many of us have those blocked) while the others are for other tokophobic ppl to use and converse. if you are trying to help tokophobic people avoid your works the best way is to tag anything related to pregnancy or childbirth in the way i mentioned above or as 'tw pregnancy'. now i had to look at the word pregnancy more times than i ever wanted so i rlly hope someone actually listens to this. </3
My grandma (father’s side) is flabbergasted that I don’t want to have children in the future and can’t really understand that she is one of my prime examples as to why I don’t want it.
For starters I’m pretty sure that I got my autism from her, not only because of her hyperfixations but also due to her inability to recognize emotions (that I also happen to inherit).
She had 3 children and was a stay at home mom, meaning she spent a lot of time with them, yet my father constantly felt emotionally neglected by her. She just cannot grasp other’s emotions, it flies over her head.
I also feel neglected by her, I had dinners with my cousins and her, where my cousins were making fun of the people I love. I was getting upset and telling them to stop but since they wouldn’t listen I started having a shutdown. All she could understand was that I was upset based on my facial expressions, but she couldn’t figure out why, even though she was right there the whole time.
I don’t want a kid knowing that I might not be able to give them the emotional support they need.
I’m gonna be honest I’ve never seen this before but as someone with tokophobia I really think we as a community could make some great pregnancy whump.
Whumpee giving birth alone after having just escaped Whumper?
Whumpee fearing for their baby’s safety every time whumper comes to hurt them?
Whumpee asking Caretaker to choose saving the baby over them, or them over the baby, even if Caretaker wants to save them both?
Theres potential here.
*NOTE: in this case, phobia refers to a very strong irrational fear, not being a little scared of something. if you can handle snakes but they make you nervous, that's not a phobia.