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Hey so I get why you would think this, but this viewpoint is actually really harmful for 3 reasons
1- it turns transness as a whole into it's own thing, it alienates trans women from womanhood and trans men from manhood, not even like separately, it turns everyone under the trans umbrella into the same thing (think the thingies that make you choose your gender online and it's like; male, female, transgender) that is obviously a very small minded way to view gender and all it's complexities so maybe we shouldn't reverse ingeneer it
2-It has some biphobic/panphobic/omniphobic undertones, as it's afraid to be seen as straight as that would erase the queerness of it all, Wich it isn't, it's okay to be in a straight relationship, you're still queer (and I get why that would be a feeling, often people attack those in a straight relationship despide their queerness) the people are still queer, the relationship is not
3-it lead up to a very dangerous road, this is baby terf ideology in it's core,I don't think anyone here is dumb enough to fall into the pipeline, but who knows dude, it starts as this and ends up as "well technically you still got those bits"
It is completely fine for anyone to call themselves gay if they're queer, because it has become a general word for queerness, but if you don't at least aknowlege that you're in a straight relationship, you're treating transness as an alien thing, if you wouldn't call a relationship between a man and a woman gay why would you call this one that? , It's a complex topic yes, and this does not apply to anyone who isn't a trans binary person as that's just free road, anything can happen there and it's cool, but with binary trans people it gets bad really easily when you start treating trans men and women differently from cis men and women
Also another point is that whenever I see people like this in the wild it's often a cis person with a trans person that isn't having a medical transition , so that's kinda sus in my eyes (not that there's anything wrong with not wanting to transition medically, but you know, kinda weird isn't it?)
gender and sexuality is a fickle thing. sometimes two gay cisgender men will be dating for decades and one of them will turn out to be a transgender woman. a lot of times that won't work out but sometimes it will. her partner may still choose to identify as gay. She might even identify as gay, and they continue to be happily in love. Queer politics isn't going to get any better if you don't accept that situations like that happen every day.