Unmet Needs - Tumblr Posts
the intimacy of having your efforts reciprocated in the same intensity and with the same tenderness
We’re all healing from something or other but will I actually be able to continue healing in your presence if I stay?
i hope you remember it’s very human and normal to crave affection, human interaction, attention and love. you’re not “too needy” or “too sensitive” for wanting to have your emotional and social needs met accordingly.
You will get farther in one week paying close, nonjudgmental attention to the unmet needs underlying your "bad" behavior than you will in a year of punishing yourself and demanding you become a different person. I'm right shut up.
So sick of dog motif what about cat motif.
I love you but we don't love the same. I can't be near you when you want me to be. Your love is smothering and your need to keep me safe is trapping me. I'm my own person but I don't know how to show you that. I lash out and hurt you even though I don't mean to. I need you to move slowly around me or I'll bolt. I love you, even though I don't say it. If you stay still I'll sit next to you, and even though we don't understand each other we can be together like that.
I do not know how to be loved if it is soft and kind. I am not soft. I am not kind. I wake up in the middle of the night in a puddle of sweat, running from it all. If your love is fleeting, do not bore me with it. Do not torture me with maybe. Do not breeze by me on a winters day. Love me in your desperation. Obsessively and hopelessly. Love me fiercely, or do not love me at all.
— Hannah Green, ‘The liar, the widow and these empty four walls.’
Agamemnon by Aeschylus translated by Ted Hughes
Henry Dumas, Knees of a Natural Man: The Selected Poetry of Henry Dumas; “Saba”
[ID: i caught you forgetting me]
Just because they’re nice to you, doesn’t mean they value you. When you value something, you deeply understand it’s worth. It’s precious and means the world to you. If someone values something, they take good care of it. They’ll check up on it, make sure it’s needs are met and keep it safe.
i am not afraid of trying again i am just afraid of the same shit happening again
everytime I want to try I get a reason not to <333
smth smth ‘everything I’ve ever let go of has claw marks on it’ smth smth am I not worth the effort? am I not worth fighting for?
Sometimes, you have to decide, “this is the last time these people are gonna make me feel this way” and stand on it. Whether it’s family, a relationship, or a friendship.
when kafka said “all the love in the world is useless when there is total lack of understanding” and when richard siken said “if you love me, you don’t love me in a way I understand.”
“You teach people how to treat you by what you allow, what you stop, and what you reinforce.”
— Tony Gaskins