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vent psa: don't abuse your partner system + fiancé for five months then try to say they're "holding it over your head" when they hold you accountable. :)

we are currently struggling on what we should do in terms of our relationship with our partner system/fiancé.

long story short, someone in their system abused us for 5 months of our relationship, and they (collectively) are still continuing with behaviors that are invalidating the new boundaries we had to set because of that abuse. they act as though we are abusive/neglectful for this- granted, yes, we are prone to emotional moments that cause lapses in judgement and to panic (which often causes us to not articulate things well), but they have refused consistently to make the changes we need to see to know that they are actively trying to make this relationship safer for us.

they continuously try to ask us for things that invalidate our new boundaries, and make statements that we feel are almost guilt-tripping. we are constantly dreading their next message(s) and all we want is one day without turmoil or fighting..

everyone is telling us to leave, and i know it would be best, but we are afraid of what they might do to themselves if we do.

we're sorry for how much we've rambled here- we just need a place to get all of this out before we lose our minds trying to process it all.