WHY DOES HE DO THAT - Tumblr Posts
i can't stop watching this video, the way halsin screams... you can tell he has a lot of suppressed shit and a few centuries of pain that he needs to be allowed to let out and scream it out.
(and then there's gale with lowercase "a.")
⑨ The Abusive Man and Breaking Up
What an Abuser Does If You Are Leaving Him
Abusers’ Responses to a Possible Breakup:
promising to change
entering therapy or an abuser program
not drinking, attending AA
making apologies
telling you that you’ll be lost without him
telling you that no one else will want to be with you
threatening suicide
saying that you are abandoning him, making you feel guilty
threatening to kidnap or take custody of the children
threatening to leave you homeless or with no financial ressources
turning very nice
getting other people to pressure you into giving him another chance
taking care of things that you have been complaining about for a long time (e.g., finally fixing a hazardous situation in the house, getting a job, agreeing that you can go out with your friends)
behaving in self-destructive ways so that you will worry or feel sorry for him (e.g., not eating, drinking heavily, skipping work, never talking to his friends)
spreading rumors about you, trying to ruin your friendships or reputation
starting a new relationship/affair to make you jealous or angry
insisting that he already has changed
spreading confidential information about you to humiliate you
threatening or assaulting anyone you try to start a new relationship with, or anyone who is helping you
getting you pregnant
stalking you
physically or sexually assaulting you
trashing your house or car
threatening to harm you or kill you
― Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men; 2002
