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I Was In A Workshop The Other Day Where Someone Was Detailing How They, Compared To Others, Show Respect

"Are you even listening?" I have heard this quesion so many times in an angry tone while misundersanding my facial gestures that it will be more upsetting than productive. If you are unsure whether I am listening or not, it's better to ask whether I can process what you are saying or wether I'm in a good head place to listen, rather than asking "are you listening?" Autism or/and ADHD?Problems maintaining eye contact aremore typically associated with Autism, but can be part of ADHD as well. The difference lies in the nuances of how and why you have trouble with it. With ADHD, it's more of an issue with eye movement control and concentration. We tend to look at distractions more quickly and spend less time concentrating on one thing (e.g. looking you in the face). There is no fail-safe way of interpreting eye-contact. Eye contact and nodding chances are high I'm actually daydreaming. I'm basically masking my inattention. Looking down When I actively listen, I tend to look down while concentrating on processing words. Looking up I look up while answering and trying to connect your experiences with mine. I fidget when I try to concentrate on listening until the end, so my facial expression might be tense. Doing something with my hands helps me concentrate, so sometimes I play around on my phone.When I know I need to listen carefully, I start doodling to help focus. Sometimes when I daydream, I acccidentally end up giving people the feeling that Ive been staring at them. My eyes jump more rapidly from point to point without really perceiving what I look at.This makes reading harder as well. How you can help me listen: Giving me time to mentally shift from what im doing to listening-mode messaging me when you want to talk to me a space with few distractions knowing what the end goal of what you are saying is knowing what you expect from me keeping my hands busy writings things down so i dont forget repeating keypoints of what was said to focus on listening

I was in a workshop the other day where someone was detailing how they, compared to others, show respect by not fidgeting and keeping eye-contact with people.

So yeah, I felt the need to make this comic.

Keep in mind: This isn't an ADHD specific problem and depending on the nuance, can stem from different areas like anxiety or autism. The eye-contact "issues" with ADHD stem more from impulsive eye-movements (the kind where you are not really looking at anything) and high distractability.

ADHD also has a significant overlap with eye-conditions and some studies suggest that ADHD medication can actually help with some eye-conditions. (Is that why my sight feels more blurry on days off medication?!)

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