Some Thoughts About ADHD And Baseline Guilt

some thoughts about ADHD and baseline guilt

Wednesday just fell to her knees

Yoko: What are you two doing?

Enid: Wednesday and I are playing a game!

Wednesday: Correction, I’M playing a game. Enid is watching.

Enid: I’m making her play it for me.

Yoko: Why can’t you play it?

Enid: I can’t bring myself to choose all the evil choices. That’s why Willa is doing it for me!

Wednesday: *sighs* Anything for my Mon Coeur.

One of my favourite pieces of your art is the collage of Young Vega, where she’s using make up to put similar scars on her face like Enid’s, etc. simply because of rhe moment where Wednesday asks Vega if she can have a kiss and she gets really upset when Vega rejects her, telling Enid ‘I should call my mother’.

Is there any chance you’d expand on that? We know Enid’s the most affectionate of the two but maybe Wednesday’s usual attitude has caused a severe lack of closeness between the two that Wednesday wants to rectify but is struggling.

I've talked about this before, actually! But okay let me elaborate a bit more.

So, I've mentioned before that who Vega is closest to depended on what period of her life we're talking here. When she was a kid, she was a lot closer to Enid. This because this was a time when Vega was her most hyperactive. Wednesday spent time with Vega of course, but Enid was the one who had the energy to play and entertain a hyperactive child werewolf. Wednesday was always her mother, but Enid was Vega's mom and bestest friend. This distinction doesn't mean one is less than the other, it's just how it is and how relationship compatability works.

Which is also why Wednesday was also so dang heartbroken in that collage lol She tries to bridge that gap with the physical affection that she doesn't usually favor, but because Vega is also Wednesday's daughter, it doesn't always work. Vega isn't always up for it, but when she is, Wednesday is very grateful.

As Vega grows older and becomes a lot more like Wednesday when it comes to her interests tho, Vega starts to become more distant with Enid. She doesn't hate her mom of course, they just don't have a lot in common, and Vega just isn't a child who wants to play around with her mommy anymore. The distance gets worse when Vega gets sent to Nevermore, and Enid is quite bummed to realize she's no longer her daughter's best friend(she's very happy Vega has an actual best friend outside of family tho. It's a very complicated thing)

This is also why the comic with Vega's first wolf out and the Meet the Addamses AU turned out the way they did. Wednesday was the one to comfort child!Vega with a hug because it's not something she often got to do. This was a very special moment for them, and for Wednesday, a privilege. Then in the time travel AU Teen!Vega bonds with a younger Enid and becomes best friends with her all over again, realizing how distant she has become with her mom and getting the necessary push to amend that when adult!Enid comes back.

This is the problem when I make comics that aren't necessarily posted in order lol. I highkey wish I'm able to show all this in a more coherent medium fit for a character and relationship driven story, but I'm grateful for your interest regardless of how disorganized this all is.

So, In a way, I supposed I've expanded on it, but I'm not sure if I'll ever make something that will be transparent about it. For now, just now that these little comics have been and will be made with all this in mind

little briar and wednesday is so cute, would wednesday be openly affectionate with her

Not by much, but she won't deny Briar if the kid wants to hold her hand or be carried. Briar is also a very smart kid, so even though she knows Wednesday can't say no to her, she knows not to abuse that privilege too much. So she only asks for stuff like maybe a kiss on the cheek when she's done a good job at something.

She kinda hates Vega because of this though. Here she is, making sure she only asks her Tia Wednesday for a hug occasionally because she's minding her tia's boundaries, meanwhile Vega has the audacity to say "Maybe later" when Wednesday is the one who asks for affection. It is all a very petty and childish grudge of course. Typical cousin animosity stuff. Briar actually even has a plushie that looks a lot like Vega that she often carries around with her.

If you see Briar sticking needles in said plushie tho, it's fine. It doesn't actually have Vega's hair in it hahahaha

Belle: I told Rumple that his ears turn red, when he lies.

Some guy: Do they?

Belle: No.

Some guy: Then why did you tell him that?

Belle: Because I can do this.

Belle: Hey Rumple! Do you like me?

Rumple, with his hands over his ears: No, you're just the help.