crabs-with-sticks

I am a Stick

Jacs or Jay (she/they), 18+ Art/Writing/OC blog. DnD, Dragon Age, Baldurs Gate, fantasy books and whatever strikes my fancy really.Expect shenanigans and tomfoolery. On Ao3 as CrabsWithSticks :)nsfw- minors dni please

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Ar Lasa Mala Revas. You Are Free, Solas

Ar lasa mala revas. You are free, Solas

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8 months ago

So I've been starting some Internal Family System (IFS) therapy and I just realised....its so Harry Du Boirs coded....

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for context in IFS you like 'name' different elements of the self so like you might have 'the critic' and 'the child' or whatever and then theres a controlling self like holy shit the game actually fits it so well and beacuse like ifs focuses on all parts being valuable like 'the critic' might tell you that you suck at everything but it just wants to stop you from failing which is pretty similar to the skills like they're just doing their best none of them are bad guys they're just trying to help harry in the ways that they know how

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crabs-with-sticks

8 months ago

one of the most challenging skills i've had to learn as an adult is the art of figuring out whether i'm proportionally annoyed with someone or just tired and overstimulated and looking for reasons to be pissed off

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GOD YEAH except for me its more of a am I actually annoyed at this person or is it my avoidant attachment style rearing its ugly head

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crabs-with-sticks

8 months ago

Dread Wolf

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dragon age solas

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crabs-with-sticks

9 months ago

Now that I have a Lightbox I can take updated photos of Archibald Asparagus Saint Sebastian

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wtf I...I don't know how to feel about this....

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crabs-with-sticks

8 months ago

Saw a reddit post today about a girl who was upset that her childhood best friend replaced a photo of the two of them in his wallet with one of him and his girlfriend. And while yeah, she was being unreasonable with a lot of what she was saying, I totally understand the sadness of a friend "replacing" you with someone they have romantic feelings for. Makes it worse when the top comment is this

Every single comment on this post is about how family and romantic relationships always take precedence over friendships. I don't have anything more to say to this aside from the fact that... this is why it's hard for aroaces to imagine futures for themselves. Society drills it into your head that you're going to live in a world where you are no one's priority if you don't have romantic relationships and it fucking sucks

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mmmmmmm yeah aromantic aroace

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