Crabs-with-sticks - I Am A Stick

god bless anyone who comments on ao3

The Breach, Art of Dragon Age: Inquisition

Romance is often very dehumanizing,personally.

Being hyper dependent on someone (as if you have no autonomy)

The idea that it is what 'makes you human' which is dangerous for all kinds of reasons and is the most literal display of the dehumanization.

I am not someone's purpose as I am 1 person. No more, no less. Sure I cant be replaced, but that kind of pressure literally leads to people losing their lives due to abuse. A purpose can not be a person inherently.

The idea that my whole world exists in my lovers arms sounds like a cage with 2 bars.

Aro and Ace Recommended

By the way- I haven't seen people talk about it much. But do my aro/ace folks know about the existence of the aro recommended and ace recommended sites?

Basically they're websites where ace and aro folks can submit recommendations for healthcare- both mental and physical- that is aspec friendly! I think its such a great resource- especially as somebody who had their gp pretty much hold a prescription hostage until I was forced to out myself (and then treated with disdain).

It would be great for people to contribute to if they have had good experiences so that aspec folks can stay safe (we do have one of the highest rate of being offered conversion therapy after all)