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Queerplatonic Relationships: An Introduction
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As an aro ace person I would like to apologize to all allo aros and they way they have been treated, like you said you're not gross for feeling sexual attraction. You're a not a bad person for being allo aro. You're all valid as f*ck and deserve to be treated better and to be respected! I wish you all a good evening want you to know that you're appreciated and loved <3
Having said that I would also like to adress my fellow aces.
So some of y'all have been acting like real @ssholes and decided to treat allo aros like sh*t.
This needs to stop.
Slutshaming is never okay. Someone else's sexlife is none of your bussiness so stay out of it.
Having sexual attraction is not gross and doesn't make you a bad person. Some of our fellow aces also feel sexual attraction. Just because it's not your thing doesn't mean you get to shame other people for it.
We're all aspec people, we're all living in a heteronormative society which can make things rather hard, we're all already treated like sh*t by most straight ppl and even a lot of queer people, together with agendered people we are the A in the queer community. So why can't we just stick together and stand up for each other? We might not be exactly alike but we still have a lot in common so don't go and be an @sshole just because you're insecure :)
They shouldn't have to even ask to be respected, they should just be respected! Honestly y'all be better than this.
I love aces to death but some (emphasis on some) have a habit of treating allo aros like crap because of our sexual attraction. We aren’t gross or dirty for liking people sexually and we’re certainly not whores or hoes (yes I’ve had an ace person call me those things in the past). I’m not blaming the entire ace community for this because I realize it’s not all of your faults but a lot of you guys just stand by in these instances. Please treat us (allo aros) better.
friendly reminder that anyone on the ace spectrum can use the ace flag of that's the one you prefer. you aren't required to use the flag specific to your label if you don't want to.
friendly reminder that anyone on the aro spectrum can use the aro flag of that's the one you prefer. you aren't required to use the flag specific to your label if you don't want to.
friendly reminder that anyone on the aroace spectrums can use the aroace flag of that's the one you prefer. you aren't required to use the flags specific to your labels if you don't want to.
if you're grayromantic but want to use the common aro flag? go for it. if you're cupiosexual but want to use the common ace flag? do it. if you're demiromantic abrosexual but want to use the orange-blue aroace flag? that's your decision. these flags exist for the entire community to use if they wish. you are just as aspec as anyone else on the spectrum.
lmao i remember when i was like about 10-11 years old i cut out paper hearts and gave them to all my classmates on valentine...
This was obviously before I knew I was aromantic but I was just thought it was complete bullsh!t and didn't want anyone to feel bad, so I just did that I guess.
But turns out only my teacher appreciated it so that was kinda sad...
aro culture is sending your best friend a valentine's gift to spite the amatonormativity
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Y'ALL HAPPY AROSPEC AWARENESS WEEK!
Being on the aromantic spectrum means that you experience little to no romantic attraction.
The term aromantic can be used as an umbrella term for all arospec identities:
Aromantic
Greyromantic
Demiromantic
Frayromantic
Aroflux
Arospike
Lithromantic
Quoiromantic
Cupioromantic
And many more...
For more informantion about these identities:
https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Aromantic_Spectrum
Arospec people can still be in a romantic relationship or in a queerplatonic relationship or in a sexual relationship or honestly whatever sort of relationship they choose to be in, all of these can be with 1 or multiple partners but they can also do none of those things.
A common misconception is that aromantic people also "have" to be asexual, this is not true. Being aromantic has nothing to do with your sexual orientation so arospec people can still basically be any sexuality.
For example: aro lesbian, aro gay, aro bisexual, aro ace, aro pansexual, aro omnisexual, aro heterosexual, aro polysexual...
This does not mean that allosexual aromantics are sex obsessed or sex addicts!
They can be but being aromantic doesn't equal sex addict.
Aromantic people can be:
- romance repulsed
-romance neutral
-romance favorable
And to finish it I would to remind everyone that:
Arospec ppl are part of the lgbtqiAp+ community!!!
hey, i’m aroallo. is it ok to participate in aro week? idk i’m just nervous since were excluded a lot
🌈 It's okay to be romance repulsed.
💛 Being romance repulsed doesn't make you heartless or evil.
🐥 Romance is not the height of human connection, and romance repulsed people aren't "missing out."
🌻 We all have different ways of relating to people, especially those we care about, and that's okay.
☀️ Romance repulsed people don't need to change. They're perfect as they are.
⚡Romance repulsed people's boundaries, especially around romantic topics, deserve to and need to be respected.
🌙 Amatonormativity is an extremely prevelant construct in our society, and it hurts those who are romance repulsed.
⭐ Romance repulsed people are important members of the LGBTQ+ community, and deserve much more recognition than they receive.
🍋 Romance repulsed people are valid no matter their orientation, whether they're aro, demiro, grayro, apothiro, or any other orientation.
🌈 Having pride is for romance repulsed people too, and it's important to support and uplift the pride of romance repulsed people.
Queer Native Americans and indigenous people are beautiful and deserving of affection and respect. Queer BIPOC make the LGBTQ+ community better by being in it.
Do you have any tips on how to be more supportive/inclusive of loveless aros?
Drop completely the concept that love is something that makes us human, that it’s something we need, that it’s something everyone wants.
Be very careful of thinking aros need to be more loving or love their friends more or anything like that to “make up for their aro-ness”. A. there’s nothing to make up for because aros aren’t lacking in anything, but also B. that just isn’t every aro person’s experience. Some aros do invest a lot in their friends, but not all. And they don’t have to. Not all aros are close to other people. These aros need to be remembered too.
Be aware that aro or not, some people have a hard time connecting to other people or even feeling love at all. And there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s especially common for neurodivergent people to sometimes have trouble connecting to other people or feeling emotions the way neurotypical people do. Sometimes people who are dealing with trauma also have trouble connecting with, or don’t feel like they love, other people.
On that note, be wary of the concept that there’s any kind of morality to how someone feels love. Morality comes from how we treat people and how we act, internal feelings we have no control over isn’t someone’s morality.
I haven’t seen this in a long time but it used to be common for ace stuff, especially outreach stuff to say ‘but we can still love’ to appeal to heteronormative sensibilities. This hurt all aros, but especially loveless aros. Definitely do not do that and push back against it when you see it.
So I’m not a loveless aro myself, and it’s possible there are more things that could be done to be inclusive that I either haven’t thought of or am not doing. I definitely encourage you to look up what loveless aros say on the subject as well and see if there’s other things you can adopt.
And just a note if anyone wants to know what loveless aro means, the lgbta wiki has an entry on it.
All the best, Anon!
I legitimately did not know that the phrase "Netflix and Chill" had a sexual connotation to it until like 1 maybe 2 years ago. Like dude I just thought that it meant what it said?? Why all of you allosexuals gotta be so confusing-
Aroace culture is not knowing what it meant to "Netflix and Chill" until someone spelled it out to us
what do you mean it's not what the name says literally???? i legit just wanna chill and watch She-Ra!!!!
Aroace culture
WEEEE ITS JUNE YALL GET ME BEING SO COOL AND SWAG AS AN ARO/ACE SPEC CHAD
(Flags are demisexual and aroflux!)
Putting all the LGBT+ tags under my post so it becomes rainbow and pretty
yo fellow gun user ("i will personally shoot you")
now i'm obligated to write an aromantic but not asexual character 🫡🫡🫡
hello, tumblr user. before you is an aromantic character. they have never expressed any hint of asexuality. your task is simple: do not refer to them as an "aroace" or get mad at people writing smut about them. the duration of this task is the rest of your life. if you fail at any point in the future, i will personally shoot you.
good luck.
thanks for giving me inspo for my next oc, who i was going to make aromantic allosexual anyway but now. i have. more details to work off of :)
I'm so tired of people saying "we need more love stories without romance" and they're referring to platonic love.
No. I want more sexual love. I want characters who deeply lust over eachother's bodies but aren't interested in eachother romantically. And I want people to stop pretending that only liking someone sexually means you don't actually love them or care about them. Sometimes love is purely physical and not romantic.