CHERRY BOMB

CHERRY BOMB 🍒

Summary: Chris comes across a video of you getting yourself off and can’t get it out of his head. A few weeks later, he’s being interviewed for a new movie when he realizes the interviewer sounds oddly like the girl in the video (completed series)

Warnings: 18+ ONLY, fluff and smut, DDLG themes and dynamic, daddy kink, camming/sex work, dom/sub dynamics, ropeplay, restraints warning!

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Tw: Sex mention

I tend to relate more to the aroallo experience even though I’m also ace-spec. I experience sexual attraction more frequently (it’s still a rare occasion) than romantic attraction and it’s a lot less complex. However, even though I experience sexual attraction, 98% of the time I wouldn’t engage in a sexual relationship, only sometimes would I actually engage in it. I’d rather fantasize about the person and consume NSFW material occasionally. For the most part I just experience sexual attraction and that’s where it ends. Is there a term for this?

Aegosexual might be useful for you, it means someone who experiences a disconnect between themselves and their sexual interests, so that is having sexual interests, turn ons, etc. but not wanting to be a participant yourself.

A lot of aegosexual people still have sexual fantasies, enjoy sexual media like porn, erotica or smut, etc. And even if you might rarely consider or engage in a sexual relationship you can still use aegosexual if the above is generally true.

Gray-ace is another people find useful for when they're somewhere on the ace spectrum but don't entirely relate to both asexual or allosexual, but instead feel like they're in that gray area in between.

Possibly there's others but those are the two that came to mind reading your description so hopefully that helps, and if you want you can use one, neither or both together depending on what you feel works for you.

All the best, Anon!

Please do tell me all about how welcoming and understanding the cisgender heterosexual allo folks are towards asexual and aromantic people. Go on and tell me how they all accept us without questioning the legitimacy of our identities. Do tell me. Surely absolutely no one thinks we're mentally ill antisocial incels.

Heyo!

I'm trying to figure out if I am alloaro or on the ace spectrum. So, I still don't really understand, what does sexual attraction feel like? is it different in each person?

Some people say sexual attraction is looking at someone and thinking "wow I want to have sex with them" and I don't thats ever happened to me.

I want to have sex with someone, I desire sex in general as well. If someone I was comfortable with did certian sexual things towards me, I would probably want to have sex with them. I just don't think I would want to have sex with someone I am comfortable with UNTIL they do something that turns me on.

Anyways! thank you for your time :D

Yeah, it can be tricky to figure out, and it can vary a bit from person to person what sexual attraction feels like. The big thing that separates sexual attraction from other aspects of sexual identity is that sexual attraction will always be directed towards a specific person. So it will be a pull or draw towards that specific person, or this thing will be a turn-on because it's that specific person doing it.

One comparison I've seen made is that sexual attraction can be a lot like a specific food craving, whereas sexual desire is more like general hunger. So just like you could be specifically craving something chocolate, you could be interested in sex specifically with this specific person. Or like general hunger, sometimes it's the situation that's interesting to you and the person isn't as important (except for maybe it having to be someone you trust or know well or something like that).

Sometimes it can be hard to tell, or lines can be a bit blurry. Sometimes things are also a bit open to personal interpretation where there might not be a right or wrong answer. I would say too that often allo people have strong pulls towards specific people, so even if there might be some sexual attraction involved, if it's not pronounced enough for you to be sure if it's sexual attraction or not, you could still consider yourself on the ace spectrum even if you were experiencing some sexual attraction. It's whatever feels right for you and if you think that label would be useful for you or not.

All the best, Anon!

And on that note: happy international asexuality day!