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Transference (M) – Chapter 01

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Summary: Prolonged periods of work-related stress bring you to a crossroads in your life that leaves you prone to make impulsive decisions. During a routine visit to the local bakery, you stumble upon an intriguing business card belonging to a “tantric therapist” and take a risk. When you discover your therapist is an attractive young man with a penchant for shibari, you throw caution to the wind as he helps guide you to self-recovery.

Pairing: Hoseok x Reader

Genre: Smut, angst

Word Count: 79,614 (for entire series)

Warnings: Therapist!Hoseok, Shibari!Hoseok, therapist/client relationship, BDSM, dom/sub relationship, sexual themes, bondage (shibari), slow burn, massage, therapy mentions, profanity

A/N: This work is a byproduct of about 6 months of insomnia and 60-hour work weeks, which resulted in a series of recurring dreams about Jung Hoseok which were…*fans self*

Chapters: 01 | 02 | 03 | 04 | 05 | 06 | 07 | 08 | 09 | Epilogue

Excerpt:

“Are you surprised?” he asked with a wide grin. “Am I what you expected?”

Frankly, you didn’t know what you expected. Maybe an older woman with wild hair and a long chevron skirt would have been closer to the tantric therapist you were imagining. This man was clearly under thirty, yet he was confident in how he carried himself. No early-20’s-something could pull off this level of surety in himself, you were certain. You could feel the apprehension building as you tried to calculate whether he was younger than you, and by how much. His skin shown like the sun, evident of years of meticulous self-care—or maybe he really was that young and this was just some scam to make a quick dollar. Nevertheless, the dark pools of his eyes knew experience…

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A late bloomer? No no, I’ve already bloomed. I’m just a different plant then what your expecting

A little 4 leaf aroace clover :]

aego culture is wanting the kink part of sex but not the sex part of sex lmao

Mhmmm keep the sex part out of sex

aegosexual culture is rotating the concept of sex around in my mind like a microwave

At first this had me turning my head like a confused dog, but I think I get it and this tracks.

i think when some of you say "neurodivergent" you just mean adhd and autism

Many Aces go through a process where they learn what society conventionally considers "sexy" and learn how to feign sexual attraction, without experiencing it themselves, based on those standards. This is known as "hacking the allo-gorithm"

ACES!!! Look at this Scientific American article!!! It makes me genuinely so happy to read. We’re making it!!!!

https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/asexuality-is-finally-breaking-free-from-medical-stigma/

Scientific American

Asexuality Is Finally Breaking Free from Medical Stigma

New research on asexuality shows why it’s so important for doctors and therapists to distinguish between episodes of low libido and a consis

doll face...♡ {cr. moreloveforhobi, namuspromised}

What an ideal life looks like looks different and includes different things to different people. You're allowed to build your life in whatever way you feel suits you best.

Being aegosexual is so weird. Like damn someone pull this man's hair and put him on his knees. Not me though. I don't want to be involved in that.

CHERRY BOMB 🍒

Summary: Chris comes across a video of you getting yourself off and can’t get it out of his head. A few weeks later, he’s being interviewed for a new movie when he realizes the interviewer sounds oddly like the girl in the video (completed series)

Warnings: 18+ ONLY, fluff and smut, DDLG themes and dynamic, daddy kink, camming/sex work, dom/sub dynamics, ropeplay, restraints warning!

Part 1

Part 2

Part 3

Part 4

Part 5

Part 6

Part 7

Part 8

Part 9

Part 10

Part 11

Part 12

Part 13

Part 14

Part 15

Part 16

Part 17

Part 18

Part 19

safe place.

Rb if your account is safe space for

-LGBTQ+

-People from every nation

-All religions

-Dark skin people

-Asian people

-Uyghur Turks and Muslims

-People with mental disorders

-People with illness

-Neurodivergent people

I am Cupiosexual and sex favorable. It feels good and I’m generally a kinky person, but I’m not sexually attracted to people. People and their bodies don’t do it for me so I have no preference when it comes to that. I choose to have sex if the person I’m with is trustworthy and if our sexual dynamics line up. Dynamic as in top/bottom/verse and dom/sub/switch as well as what sexual acts the person prefers to take part in within those dynamics. I end up having sex quite a bit because of this which definitely doesn’t fit what most people think of when they hear “asexual”.

And on that note: happy international asexuality day!

Would nebulasexual be considered acespec or allo or neither? Do people generally consider it acespec?

Yes, nebulasexual is often considered an ace spectrum identity/label, though it's always up to the individual to decide if they want to also identify as ace or ace spectrum or not. Some consider themselves not ace-spectrum and some do consider it something separate from both the ace spectrum and allo spectrum.

(For those wondering: Nebulasexual--trouble distinguishing if one experiences sexual attraction or not due to neurodiversity)

All the best, Anon!

It's never too late to try something for the first time if it's something you want to do. You're never too old for a first kiss, first date, first time trying sex, etc.

Tw: Sex mention

I tend to relate more to the aroallo experience even though I’m also ace-spec. I experience sexual attraction more frequently (it’s still a rare occasion) than romantic attraction and it’s a lot less complex. However, even though I experience sexual attraction, 98% of the time I wouldn’t engage in a sexual relationship, only sometimes would I actually engage in it. I’d rather fantasize about the person and consume NSFW material occasionally. For the most part I just experience sexual attraction and that’s where it ends. Is there a term for this?

Aegosexual might be useful for you, it means someone who experiences a disconnect between themselves and their sexual interests, so that is having sexual interests, turn ons, etc. but not wanting to be a participant yourself.

A lot of aegosexual people still have sexual fantasies, enjoy sexual media like porn, erotica or smut, etc. And even if you might rarely consider or engage in a sexual relationship you can still use aegosexual if the above is generally true.

Gray-ace is another people find useful for when they're somewhere on the ace spectrum but don't entirely relate to both asexual or allosexual, but instead feel like they're in that gray area in between.

Possibly there's others but those are the two that came to mind reading your description so hopefully that helps, and if you want you can use one, neither or both together depending on what you feel works for you.

All the best, Anon!

Heyo!

I'm trying to figure out if I am alloaro or on the ace spectrum. So, I still don't really understand, what does sexual attraction feel like? is it different in each person?

Some people say sexual attraction is looking at someone and thinking "wow I want to have sex with them" and I don't thats ever happened to me.

I want to have sex with someone, I desire sex in general as well. If someone I was comfortable with did certian sexual things towards me, I would probably want to have sex with them. I just don't think I would want to have sex with someone I am comfortable with UNTIL they do something that turns me on.

Anyways! thank you for your time :D

Yeah, it can be tricky to figure out, and it can vary a bit from person to person what sexual attraction feels like. The big thing that separates sexual attraction from other aspects of sexual identity is that sexual attraction will always be directed towards a specific person. So it will be a pull or draw towards that specific person, or this thing will be a turn-on because it's that specific person doing it.

One comparison I've seen made is that sexual attraction can be a lot like a specific food craving, whereas sexual desire is more like general hunger. So just like you could be specifically craving something chocolate, you could be interested in sex specifically with this specific person. Or like general hunger, sometimes it's the situation that's interesting to you and the person isn't as important (except for maybe it having to be someone you trust or know well or something like that).

Sometimes it can be hard to tell, or lines can be a bit blurry. Sometimes things are also a bit open to personal interpretation where there might not be a right or wrong answer. I would say too that often allo people have strong pulls towards specific people, so even if there might be some sexual attraction involved, if it's not pronounced enough for you to be sure if it's sexual attraction or not, you could still consider yourself on the ace spectrum even if you were experiencing some sexual attraction. It's whatever feels right for you and if you think that label would be useful for you or not.

All the best, Anon!

being a sex-ambivalent low-libido ace is so weird sometimes. how do i feel about sex?? i don’t fucking know ask again later. maybe shake a magic 8 ball and tell me what it says and we’ll go with that

i’m actually a little worried about it if i get a romantic partner. obviously i’d disclose this with them, i’m very much open about this kind of stuff, but i’m worried it would make navigating anything sexual really confusing. what if i’m feeling favorable and my partner wants to so we start… something whatever and then suddenly i’m feeling super repulsed ??? i know that in a healthy relationship things can stop for any reason and it should always be okay, but by nature whether or not i want to engage with that stuff is very fickle and i can see it getting frustrating for people who do actually experience sexual desire. i guess the easiest solution to this would be to only date other aspecs since they’d understand the most but it’s kind of hard to find us when out irl bc. most people don’t go around telling people they’re aspec. i’m one of the most open people i know with it and i still reserve it for trusted friends. not to mention i’d rather not limit my dating pool :/

SIIIIIGGGHHH. sometimes i do wish i was just favorable or neutral or averse or WHATEVER so long as it stopped changing all the damn time. then again i’m also genderfluid so i think i am just fated (not doomed, but fated) to constantly be shifting around forever. at least i get a taste of every experience??? idk i’m tired

Submitted June 14, 2023

Please do tell me all about how welcoming and understanding the cisgender heterosexual allo folks are towards asexual and aromantic people. Go on and tell me how they all accept us without questioning the legitimacy of our identities. Do tell me. Surely absolutely no one thinks we're mentally ill antisocial incels.