I Learned That I Have Trauma Around Substance Abuse Thanks To A Larry Stylinson Fanfiction So Doing Great

I learned that I have trauma around substance abuse thanks to a larry stylinson fanfiction so… doing great here

i hate it when fanfictions just make me realize stuff about myself that i knew subconsciously but always repressed lol like right now, really? in the middle of a 100k words, fluff, slow burn, hurt/comfort fic?

Iasip moment

if there’s one self-care skill I really wish fans would develop – especially fans of continuing media, where you get into a thing before it’s finished – it’s the ability to say “this is no longer the story I wanted it to be” and walk away

(and I am not exempting myself from this! there are definitely periods in my past media engagement which would have been less negative for my mental health if I’d been able to do this, rather than banging my head in increasing frustration as the story veered further and further away from what I had always thought its arc was supposed to be.)

you gotta marie kondo this shit. if the story no longer sparks joy for you, then let it go. and you can grieve for that! that loss of potential, that happiness you might once have had with it. you can be frustrated and sad and bitch about it in your group chat. but you have to let it go.

because the alternative is trying to force the creator to change course to comply with your  vision and historically? the success rate of that is very, very low, and far more statistically likely to result in the destruction of the thing entirely. which might sound tempting and satisfying in those moments of frustration but in the end, honestly, is not going to make you any happier. (and is definitely  going to make other people  unhappier.)

what will make you happier is finding some other story that is more like what you wanted. because it’s a vast vast world out there, and people are creating stories and media faster than ever. yes, even queer media, yes, even PoC driven/led media. no one person will ever be able to consume them all. find something out there that brings you joy, that is the story you wanted. and the rest? let go.

How cute for me

Have you ever wondered whether or not you’d be canonically queer if your life was a story? Look no further. This quiz will tell you your canon queer status. 

^^^^this is what it was before

put in the tags the first thing that comes up when u type “i am,” “i’m not,” “i love,” “i hate,” and “i wish”

I mean no reason not to

Start reblogging the money blessings post…

If you haven’t already done it…. Go hit that reblog button. Do what you have to, just do that too.

Like seriously. Just find one and reblog it real quick. I post a couple yesterday and put into the universe that I actually wanted it

Only been at work for a couple and I get this at as a tip! (tips ain’t normal at ALL in here)

Come on now!!

Let it work for y’all too

My si is something a lot of nt people like too, so when I try to talk about it people are like “yeah same” like no babe you don’t understand this goes beyond a like for me

shoutout to autistic people who have creepy or weird special interests.

shoutout to autistic people who have special interests that aren’t “useful” or “productive”.

shoutout to autistic people who have niche special interests.

shoutout to autistic people who have special interests in outdated or unusual pop culture.

your special interests don’t need to be accepted by other people in order to be valid. they don’t need to contribute to capitalism in order to be valid.

you shouldn’t be ashamed of a special interest that doesn’t make sense to other people for whatever reason.

the important thing is that they bring you joy and comfort. the important thing is that they are a part of you that you can love and appreciate and take pride in!