Yeahits Been A While Since Ive Been On Here, But I Guess Im Just More Of A Twitter Girl. I Guess I Expected

Yeah…it’s been a while since I’ve been on here, but I guess I’m just more of a twitter girl. I guess I expected to blog about something like slut-shaming(see feminism rant, shame on you past-me for saying that word in that way!), but this is focused on something I noticed on one of my new favorite shows Twisted (despite the fact that it has slut-shaming too. *sigh* A lot of teen-young adult shows do.) So one of the main characters, Jo, was at a birthday party for the sister of another main character, Lacey. Lacey’s dad was in town and because of the divorce and related fights, there’s a bit of tension at the moment. So at one point, Lacey asks Jo to get something from the pantry (I can’t remember what) and what does Jo see? Lacey’s dad is making out with with her sister’s gymnastics coach. After this, Jo tries to persuade him to tell Lacey, letting him know that Lacey would love him no matter what. He’s not quite ready to tell her so he politely leaves. Reassurance like that is good, but then Jo does something not so good.Lacey is about to tell her a secret when Jo suddenly decides it’s a good idea to tell her that her dad is gay. This leads to her confronting her dad and the mom walking in and Lacey asking her to talk to him. Later, while mom and dad are fighting upstairs, Jo asked if she should’ve kept her mouth shut, to which Lacey replies that she’s glad Jo told her. But really, Jo should’ve kept her mouth shut. I can understand that she wanted to be honest with her friend, but outing someone without their permission is never an okay thing to do. That is a decision that only the LGBTQ person is allowed to make. Though we can urge them to come out, they have their reasons for keeping it in the closet. They could still be coming to terms with who they are and they don’t want it out until they’re completely sure. They could live in a very ignorant place and they don’t want people threatening them, or worse. They could be afraid that the people closest to them won’t want them around anymore. In a country where less than 1/3 of states even allow gay marriage, there are plenty of reasons why someone might not want people to know their true sexuality. If any stray person may be reading this, if someone you know is in the closet and they want you to keep it a secret, respect their privacy and let them know that you support them no matter what. And to ABC Family, a network that has a show based around a family with lesbian moms should know better than to endorse outing (and slut-shaming, though unrelated to the subject at hand).

On a side note, if anyone out there is actually reading my posts, let me know if I should have a more fun tumblr, like with cat pictures or something, IDK yet. Signing off.

Freedom to Sing

Well, I said I would post about this and since I'm currently at a choir competition, now is a good time for it. So without further ado... the choir songs rant! As you(whoever you are) can probably guess, I love to sing. Ever since around the fifth grade, I was not just singing for fun, but in choirs and groups. I love it, except for one thing. So many of the songs are extremely religious. It wouldn't bother me as much if I were Christian instead of Atheist, but I would still question it. This isn't just about me though. There are plenty of other non-Christian choir singers out there, yet they are forced to sing songs that are not true to their beliefs. The songs in question are primarily Christian obviously. For example, three of our six songs for the semester are religious, though only one is in English. That one song contains the lyrics "I will arise and go to Jesus, he will embrace me in his arms." Let me quickly mention that I go to a public school, meaning no religious affiliation. Yet, even in an apparently secular environment, we have to praise a god we may not even believe in. It's extremely irritating to me and if the higher choir organizations had any sense at all, they'd fix this. I just want to sing without feeling like a traitor to my beliefs. There are plenty of secular songs out there, so we should sing these instead. Need I remind everyone of the first amendment which includes the freedom of religion? Yeah right.

Mean people

You know what I don't understand? How can people be so mean? I'm not just talking about bullies; I'm talking about average people who do or say crappy things without feeling a bit of remorse. They could treat waiters or waitresses like personal servants, snapping their fingers to get their attention or just being plain rude to them. They could leave a hateful comment on a video they don't like (ex. Rebecca Black's Friday) and feel so proud of it. They could cut people off on the highway, slam a door in people's faces, and I just can't wrap my head around that. If I do anything remotely rude, even if by accident, I feel bad about it. Even if a stranger does something by accident that pisses me off, I just can't treat them with contempt. I try to be polite and show some common courtesy, which apparently isn't so common anymore. Who teaches people to be so rude anyway? What makes these people think that this kind of disrespect is okay? Do their parents teach them this? Society? Their peers? Whatever the reason, I still can't understand why they don't feel some sort of guilt. Maybe I'll never know. I guess all I can do is try to be as courteous as possible 'cause I don't have the time or heart to be nasty.