Lacey Porter - Tumblr Posts
Yeah…it’s been a while since I’ve been on here, but I guess I’m just more of a twitter girl. I guess I expected to blog about something like slut-shaming(see feminism rant, shame on you past-me for saying that word in that way!), but this is focused on something I noticed on one of my new favorite shows Twisted (despite the fact that it has slut-shaming too. *sigh* A lot of teen-young adult shows do.) So one of the main characters, Jo, was at a birthday party for the sister of another main character, Lacey. Lacey’s dad was in town and because of the divorce and related fights, there’s a bit of tension at the moment. So at one point, Lacey asks Jo to get something from the pantry (I can’t remember what) and what does Jo see? Lacey’s dad is making out with with her sister’s gymnastics coach. After this, Jo tries to persuade him to tell Lacey, letting him know that Lacey would love him no matter what. He’s not quite ready to tell her so he politely leaves. Reassurance like that is good, but then Jo does something not so good.Lacey is about to tell her a secret when Jo suddenly decides it’s a good idea to tell her that her dad is gay. This leads to her confronting her dad and the mom walking in and Lacey asking her to talk to him. Later, while mom and dad are fighting upstairs, Jo asked if she should’ve kept her mouth shut, to which Lacey replies that she’s glad Jo told her. But really, Jo should’ve kept her mouth shut. I can understand that she wanted to be honest with her friend, but outing someone without their permission is never an okay thing to do. That is a decision that only the LGBTQ person is allowed to make. Though we can urge them to come out, they have their reasons for keeping it in the closet. They could still be coming to terms with who they are and they don’t want it out until they’re completely sure. They could live in a very ignorant place and they don’t want people threatening them, or worse. They could be afraid that the people closest to them won’t want them around anymore. In a country where less than 1/3 of states even allow gay marriage, there are plenty of reasons why someone might not want people to know their true sexuality. If any stray person may be reading this, if someone you know is in the closet and they want you to keep it a secret, respect their privacy and let them know that you support them no matter what. And to ABC Family, a network that has a show based around a family with lesbian moms should know better than to endorse outing (and slut-shaming, though unrelated to the subject at hand).
On a side note, if anyone out there is actually reading my posts, let me know if I should have a more fun tumblr, like with cat pictures or something, IDK yet. Signing off.