I Genuinely Cant Express How Angry It Make Me Feel When Someone Thinks Its Ok To Touch Someone Or Say

I genuinely can’t express how angry it make me feel when someone thinks it’s ok to touch someone or say sexual things to someone not even bothering to ask if they are ok with it. Than proceed to use the excuse, well the person was silent. Silence isn’t consent, never will be. Hesitation isn’t consent, it’s a clear sign that the person is uncomfortable but scared to say no. If the person verbalized a confident yes than you have their consent. Don’t try and justify your shitty actions with “well the person was quiet.” Not an excuse just proves your a prick.

Asking other people who weren’t even really in the fucking room if caiti was comfortable is so incredibly stupid.

1. This guy wasn’t even there during the assault so why is he being mentioned at all?

2. Why make other people speak for caiti? Caiti was the one who knew how she was feeling since she is the actual victim! so it’s stupid to ask people who weren’t even really there and don’t know her!

3. You did it in front of other people. If someone started touching me sexually in a room full of people, especially people I barely know, especially people who are fucking friends with him. I think I would pretend I’m fine as-well. I wouldn’t know how to fucking react either!

4. Most people who have been sexually assaulted and raped knows the feeling of your body being still cause your scared and don’t know what to do.

spunout

Why do people freeze during a sexual assault?

Understanding the fight/flight/freeze response can help to explain the way a person might respond to trauma

Here’s a article about it as-well.

5. Just because she smiled at you or looked ok with it doesn’t give you the right. You met her a day ago and she was drunk meaning you can’t just assume. That’s like me going over to my friends house and smiling and joking around with them and suddenly his hands is down my pants cause “I looked ok with it”. Ridiculous logic when you know peoples brain is actually complex and jus cause someone looks like they might want it doesn’t mean they actually want it. Have you failed kindergarten? Keep your hands to yourself!

6. She was drunk I’m sure if most people know that when you are drunk your brain and body is all over the place. Some people are more giggling and bubbly when they’re drunk, from my own experiences I know I am that person.

7. ‘Well George was also drunk’ Alcohol doesn’t make a person sexually assault someone. It’s just an excuse sexual assaulters use.

Canadian Women's Foundation

Alcohol is not an excuse for sexual violence

Right in the midst of planning this year’s Sexualized Assault Prevention Month campaign in Whitehorse, the verdict in the Cindy Gladue case

hypersexuality isn’t a cute new sexuality that makes you sexual all of the time.

it’s a miserable trauma response that makes you sick of your body and your mind.

CW for upsetting thoughts about hypersexuality.

thinking of the ways you should be taken advantage of by people you’re friends with and would never want to think of sexually.

thoughts about your teachers, parents, aunts, uncles, grandparents, family friends. people you would never want to touch you like that.

being convinced you’re only worth anything if they want to have sex with you or that the only valid form of affection/love is sex.

seeking out people who you know will only pay attention to you for sex, who only want things from you for sex or sexual favors, even if you don’t actually want to do these things.

being unable to even have flashbacks in peace because here comes the wave of being horny even though you’re upset and now you want to rip your body apart more.

wanting to apologize to your partner after a fight by giving sexual favors to make sure they still love you.

curling up in a ball on your bedroom floor and sobbing because the ache in the pit of your stomach won’t go away but you’re not in the mood because all you can think about is what happened to make you this way.

It absolutely hilariously disgusting to me how a women can come out about their sexual assault and have the man admit it, yet you guys still refuse to believe her.

He admitted to it. He admitted to touching her and not asking consent. He admitted to assuming that this drunk girl he had only met a day ago was ok with him putting his hand up her shirt and touching her boobs in a room full of people. He admitted to it all yet you still try and deny it. Try and find excuses and reasons to support him and defend him, if you still wanna watch him go for it at this point! don’t invalidate someones story just so you can feel comfortable watching that person. Own up to the truth that your an asshole who doesn’t actually care about victims and just want to watch his stupid little YouTube videos and stream.

He hasn’t even fully addressed the issue at hand instead tiptoeing his way around and finding distractions for you guys so you don’t actually focus on the situation at hand. Picking bits and pieces she left out or was inconsistent on to make you guys not trust her. What does a man who wasn’t even there during the assault have anything to do with this? Why are you calling this guy who didn’t even see what fucking happened? It’s so incredibly irrelevant to the actual problem! You put your hand under her shirt and start touching her boobs in a room full of people, and instead of apologizing and addressing the fact that what you had done is wrong you are saying making excuses. It’s not that difficult to just fucking apologize.

“Well he was drunk” and? So was caiti and she didn’t start fucking touching his tits, now did she? I’ve been a little drunk before, never have I touched someone’s tits because of it. Even if he was seriously out of it wouldn’t he have just apologized for it? instead of trying to make excuses to why he’s a good guy! Just makes him like a bigger prick. Like he seriously could’ve just said “I’m sorry I was drunk but I seriously shouldn’t have touched you without your consent, it was wrong for me to assume that you would be ok with it and I am terribly sorry that I have cause you harm.” Is that such a difficult thing to ask or say? It’s not. take accountability instead of making pointless excuses to distract people from the actual topic.

Fuck georgenotfound

Fuck George Davidson

I want to also say I am so proud of shubble for being strong and speaking her truth. I feel so bad for her and what she went through with Wilbur cause she did not deserve that! I have not watched the fall stream but I’ve seen clips. As of right now I don’t think I can manage watching the fall stream cause even hearing clips made me nauseated. From I’ve heard and seen so far I am in disgust. But shubble is a wonderful person and she deserves the love and support. Also btw this isn’t DRAMA it’s fucking ABUSE! There’s a difference that I think a few of you can’t fucking see. Shubble was abused, she’s a victim but most importantly she’s a survivor. A person who deserves so much better, deserves all the love she can get in a time like this.

Not all man but most women. NOT ALL MEN BUT MOST WOMEN! I have never met a women who has never at least had one story to tell about how they been sexualized, sexually assaulted, sexually harassed or raped. Not all men but most women.