The World Of Disability Is Often One Of Absolute Loneliness And Destroying Sadness. This Loneliness And

the world of disability is often one of absolute loneliness and destroying sadness. this loneliness and sadness is not from the hands of the disabled, but rather the abled. we, as the disabled, blur the lines of their understandings of joy, experience, and self -- they cannot imagine being disabled and the struggle accompanied with it until they become disabled themselves, as they all will. in the meantime, we must find meaning and joy within our communities because it is difficult to find belonging elsewhere.

sure you’re posting on the queer neurodivergent autism website and you’re reblogging posts about combating ableism but are you actually normal about people who are socially awkward/isolated? or people who are virgins for one reason or another? people with “weird” or “offputting” behavior? or does your activism only extend to what is palatable and “cool” to you

i would like it if people stopped assuming that all progressions of physical symptoms are due to deconditioning and that if you just worked harder to "push through" your disability and "stay active" you would not have symptom progression. it is Not Always True and it just comes off as you blaming me for aspects of my health that i Cannot Control that are already Actively Distressing to me. this is something that i see a lot in disability spaces. like i'm already struggling with A) my condition itself worsening & B) the mental toll & implications of that. i don't need to see a ton of people who should be understanding make assumptions about my health and tell me that actually it's my fault for not continuing to be active in ways i am physically unable to, especially when this is just not true in my case.

if you are able to recondition yourself and be more healthy through that, that's so cool for you. i mean that genuinely, and i hope that you are able to maintain your lifestyle and be as healthy as you desire. but you are not every disabled person. i have tried that, many, many times, and it has only caused more flare ups that i've never fully recovered from, leading me to end up feeling worse than i felt beforehand. i should not be barred from compassion because of this.

also, even if my condition had worsened due to deconditioning, consider that some disabled people cannot recondition themselves due to other factors in their life. maybe they have other non-physically-active obligations that take up too much time and energy. maybe they have a comorbid condition that gets in the way of reconditioning. maybe they literally just don't think the outcome will be worth the process. and consider that these people have the autonomy to do whatever with their own health & body and that they still deserve compassion and support even if they're "choosing" to be deconditioned. okay thanks

as part of fucking old men we need to fuck old men who are balding and be nice to them. not just shaved naked head but guys who aren’t all the way bald yet or haven’t taken that step.

so much love for hairy femmes. your beauty makes me see my own beauty more clearly. thank you for being you.

able bodied allies of disabled people when your disability genuinely has no secret upside and makes you useless to a late stage capitalist society