Jungkooks Reaction When Namjoon Said He Is Proud Of Him

jungkook’s reaction when namjoon said he is proud of him 🥹😭

I completely agree and I’m so sad and mad that ace and aro issues aren’t more well known and spread around the community and outside of it. So few people are aware of the struggles that the a-spec community face, wether it be through institutionalized oppression or socialized oppression.

Here is a list of ressources that can help you give you more perspective on the rights that we don’t have and the issues that we still have to fight against till this day :

- An academic look of the systemic oppression of asexuality

- Asexual people do not have equal rights with allosexual people : a look about the institutionalized and medicalized oppression ace face (europe lens)

- There is NO mainstream representation of a-specness in the media and very few positive representations exist (it’s getting better but very slowly i.e. sex education and the aroace japanese series)

- Also, a look through asexual history will reinforce your faith in your queer identity. We — as aroaces — have BEEN here, all along.

this list is ace-centered because I’m alloace (pan-ace), but I will so gladly let my aro folks add their own ressources for all of us to read on about.

Hope it can help you as an a-spec connect even more with your identity ; and help allos understand more what makes a-spec identities so inherently queer.

Genuinely so nice to see posts telling me to use the label I want and that it can mean whatever I use it to mean, but I still do feel out of place calling myself queer because, well, I wouldn’t be killed for my aroace spec ness. My friends could be, though, for their queerness. My partners. I’m torn between “pride is a protest because queer people are being killed” and “Aro and ace are queer identities because the deviate from the norm”

I would never ever tell another aroace person not to call themself queer, though, I love all of you, this is a personal conflict. Thoughts?

I think we need to be careful about defining queerness as 'must be this oppressed to ride'. The fact is that we all live in a society that prioritizes cis/straight/allo/perisex experiences and ways of being. We all benefit from pushing back against it together. The community itself tends to stand for embracing that diversity within the community too, and letting people define themselves on their own terms.

I think we also need to be careful about implying that ace and aro people don't experience oppression for being ace/aro, or that our oppression isn't also worth fighting against. It definitely can look different, but it still deserves attention.

That said, it is absolutely OK to choose not to ID as queer. Labels are all what feels right, and if it doesn't feel right to you or you don't feel like it fits you for any reason you don't have to use it. And I know a lot of ace and aro people who prefer to stick to ace and aro labels.

Do any followers have their own thoughts they want to share? Please do!

prettiest smile on the prettiest boy ♡

fun fact (not fun at all fact actually) :

aromanticism and asexuality are still treated as issues to be fixed in most therapy settings, at least in the western psychiatric institution. i cannot fucking mention my aromanticism or asexuality to a therapist or it’ll immediately become their primary concern and goal to fix. whether or not i have a partner/am trying to have a partner is actively being used as an indicator of my wellness, regardless of if i WANT one. i cannot have access to needed mental health ressources because of fear of conversion therapy. aro and/or ace conversion therapy is the norm in most psychiatric institutions and we are getting told by the rest of the queer community that our oppression isnt real and that there is no link between our struggles and theirs.

more thoughts on the medicalization of asexuality and/or aromanticism

answers to common notes

aplatonic perspective

ressources

background information

tips to avoid aro and/or ace conversion therapy

171101 Namjoon’s Tweet

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when I think of love I think of cuddling and feeling nervous for romantic, sitting in the same room doing different things for familial, and the same for platonic but slightly more talking.

It's all very vague and literally just my experiences.

I feel like the way love is described is so vague that there's no way there can be one way to experience it. Maybe other people actually can articulate what different types of love are to them, and others can only describe it through images, or actions, or whatever. Doesn't matter cause it's all valid.

I don't think love is like other emotions where there are common experiences we can generally point to and most people will relate so it's not that hard to represent. Things like happiness, sadness, and anger. Like when Inside Out came out there wasn't a lot of controversy over how the emotions were represented because those were the common interpretations of them.

Love is different though. It's personal and there are rarely two people who experience it the same way. We all show love differently, experience different types of love, experience it in different ways.

If you recognize something as love, then that's what it is because that's what it is to you. there is no correct way or even common way, otherwise more people would be able to articulate it. Just, love how you love.

Very well said, Anon.